A simple way to break a bad habit | Judson Brewer | TED

1. Notice the URGE. 2. Get CURIOUS. 3. Feel the JOY of letting go. 4. And, REPEAT. Awesome way of giving away bad habits!😊

My habit is reading comments while watching the video but i dont pay attention to the video and then the video ends and all i read was comments. 😂

My summary of the simple way of breaking bad habits: 1. Notice the urge by identifying what our urge is that makes us want to do that bad habit in the first place like eating a chocolate cake, we know that it’s bad for us to eat the cake or give in to doing that specific urge and then feeling guilty after doing it knowing that it’s something we need to quit doing. 2. Get curious as in don’t force yourself to stop, get curiously aware what it’s really like when you do that bad habit it’s actually awful. Seeing what we get from our habits helps us understand them at a deeper level. You don’t have to force ourselves to hold back or restrain ourselves from being interested in doing that bad habit in the first place. This is what mindfulness is all about, seeing really clearly what we get when we get caught up in our behaviors, becoming disenchanted on a visceral level, and from this disenchanted stance naturally letting go. This isn’t to say that this magically goes away, it over time we get to see more and more clearly of the results that we’re letting go of our old habits and forming new ones. When we get curious, we get to step out of our bad habits in fear based habits and step into being. as being curious will feel rewarding after we step out of our old habits. 3. Feel the joy of letting go. As we step out of the process in letting go, by being just curiously aware of what’s happening, we soon feel a joy of ending that bad habit, and by continuing this joy of ending this bad habit, we will forget that we ever had that habit in the first place. 4. Repeat, and it will set us free.

This is how I quit smoking and how I got out of depression. I didn’t know there was a term for it I just started to pay attention to my surroundings and be in the moment. When I did that in a deep depression I all of sudden felt awake and noticed my brain felt foggy and slow. It scared me because I didn’t understand at the time that I was depressed. So I looked up ways to battle it and started to work on it until I was on a exercise and sleep routine, ate right and quit smoking then I felt better. It’s strange how your brain kind of goes into autopilot if you don’t pay attention. And if your brain is on autopilot it’s driven by primal reward systems. Don’t fight yourself on every little thing. Just be in the moment and try to understand your body and what’s happening in that instance. It really does help and I’m glad I’m not the only one who noticed this!

I quit smoking 12 years ago. The physical withdraw just lasted the first 48 hours, after that time my body didn't beg me for nicotine anymore. After that all I had to fight was the impulse to light a cigarette. What I learned in the process is that the impulse and crave last no longer than 40 seconds. So next time you want to do what you shouldn't, remember: fight that crave and it will vanish in less than 40 seconds

The key point: When you feel the urge to get distracted, smoke a cigarette, eat cake, Take a moment to analyze that feeling of craving. You feel a little jittery, a little restless - try to understand that feeling. The act of mindfully paying attention to the craving allows you to separate yourself from it and let it go.

He's like a nicer, less sarcastic Steve Jobs.

When your bad habits bring you to videos about breaking bad habits...

You know you are at rock bottom when you start procatinaning by watching videos about procrastination

The way I understood it is that whenever you find yourself doing something you shouldn't, don't try to force yourself out of doing it (unless it's immoral, dangerous etc.) via discipline, but think about the negative consequences of doing so and try to learn and understand both these consequences and your present state of mind and feelings. By thinking about it you satisfy your curiosity and feel somewhat rewarded and help yourself to conceptualise why you should not do something and thus stop. Right now I should go to bed, but I've not yet, so now I shall think about why I need to go to bed, why I do not want to, and what the consequence will be in the morning if I don't. Hopefully then I shall convince myself to go to sleep.

It is crazy that I spent so many years trying to find a way to be confident and consistent..i looked to all these different methods and paid so much to find help.. when literally the one thing I needed was to change the beliefs I had of myself ...by changing the root of the cause..the ability to change all of those things came from my own self. I can't express the relief i found from depression, anger, bad habits and low self esteem. I wish more people would try using mindfulness and affirmations. It is so easy.

this video quite literally saved my life. I have been through many traumatic moments in my life, and through those moments i developed chronic stress and tension. i found and ended up using this video as a prompt for a rhetorical analysis essay. through that essay i was able to understand how powerful and good it feels to be present in the current moment. truly makes all life’s problems disappear.

So, I googled "how to change habits", saw this video, clicked, turns out I watched it 2 years ago, yet to no avail. What has my life come to..

Just got of The procrastination video and im procrastinating and i what to break the habit

My addiction was/is self harm (I don’t think addictions ever really go away because you always have to deal with the urges, but I’ve been sober for a while). And this literally is it too. It reminds me of “Ride the Wave” (DBT skill), where you acknowledge and remain curious about your urge, but you don’t act on it. So yes, you can do it! I believe in you 🥺🥰

I love this talk, it's really right to my thought. Eventhough I have never practiced breath or mediatate like him, but I understand how hard to get concentration, curious to form our behavior and get rid of bad habit. It's really hard, really.

Mindfulness is also very good for self-growth and personal life. I wish my school had this as a subject, when I was in school.

disenchantment is key to enlightenment. being okay with being alone because it is an opportunity for creativity. keep breathing.

"The best way to break a bad habit is to stop doing it" - Issac Newton

short, straight to the point, & extremely informative, an absolutely mind blowing speaker & presentation