Therapist Shares How to Recover from a Breakup

Tips that helped me after my break up: 1. Write and Take time to grieve and be in your feelings. Avoid talking to that person for a month just processing things. But not too long. Go Do Something New. Even if it takes effort, risk and change. Just Do It. 2. Read break up stories. For some reason, it teaches you that most people suffer this, most people have tips on how to live, and most people learn how to move on. 3. Pray and meditate morning and night. It’s not easy, but it’s fruitful. Say what worries you then say everything that you are grateful for. 4. Get a therapist who’ll listen to you and gives good advice 5. Forgive yourself. Forgive them. Don’t let your heart be hardened. Remember, Weeping may endure the for a night, but Joy does come in the morning.

What helped me was reminding myself that my life goes beyond a relationship. That I can still be happy with my own company and not have to rely on another person. Putting myself first allowed me to realise what I actually wanted for myself , that goes beyond another person. There’s a beauty in growth.

What has helped me through my break up is being patient with myself and giving myself time to heal. I was mad at myself because I expected to be over my ex in certain amount time. I read online that if you dated for a year you should be over your ex in a month or something along those line. Being patient and letting myself cry really help. Deleting all pictures and messages both on my phone and social media also help the process. Have zero contact as well

You mentioned in the video how taking accountability is important. I agree, but I think I blamed myself for too much of what happened with my ex. What helped me was realizing they were just as much in fault as I was.

Just got out of a 12 year relationship, this couldn't have been more timely. Thank you, truly. It's been... hard. EDIT: So... Just got a notification someone replied to this, and... It's been 8 months since I left this comment. After a lot of work, time & healing, I found love again. Thanks to the people who replied to a random comment from a random nobody, & thank YOU, Steph. This truly did help me process & recover enough to be happy again, even before I found my partner. It was hard, & some nights are still hard. But... I know I'll be okay now. I AM okay now.

No to the deleting pictures . 20 years later it is nice to look back. You may see yourself as beautiful and then wonder what you ever saw in that person. Store them away.

First, what an absolutely gorgeous shirt! Secondly, the most helpful thing I did to get over a breakup was cut off all communication with the ex and anyone I was close to through them. I feel like it helped me get through it, remember my beautiful life without them and create more beautiful memories outside of them.

Tip #2 has been the theme of the conversation with myself this year. Stop leaving out the part of the story where I *****ed up at! It has been enlightening mentally, emotionally and physically.

I’ve been single for 5 years and didn’t know I needed this. Thank you! 🙏🏽

I definitely appreciate this video. I recently ended a 5 year relationship and the ending wasn't well received - at all. It not only strengthened my resolve, but I also got that closure that yup, this isn't going to cycle back. I got my therapist and took accountability for what I could have done better in the relationship and made commitments to work on that while I am currently single and healing. I also made a commitment to who I want to now be outside of that relationship. I am taking more risks and really enjoying life. It does get a little lonesome sometimes, but I never feel as bad on my own as I felt in that relationship.

Maaaannn I watched this one with tears in my eyes, I'm currently in the process of ending an 8 year situationship that we both vested a lot of ourselves into. Thank you so Steph, your gift is amazing and is helping heal the world!

Still healing from a short term relationship almost 4 months ago, but a 10 year battle with codependent, neglectful and abusive dating (my recovery date was May!) <3 Still thinking about him everyday I thought it would be kinda over in my mind by now but I still crave it...=( Stepping up in my relationship with God. Not dating, and finding a role in church and being in a support group has helped me a lot! Also a LOT OF WRITING & the bible

The most successful method for me after a bad breakup in particular is "outta site, outta mind." Deleting alllllll evidence of life or our time together, deleting and then blocking the phone number so I can't find it even if I wanted to. Removing any left over regiments of them in my home or phone << its served me well twice 😘

I keep old photos of the ppl I was getting to know in the cloud not on my phone. I could never delete them because for w.e reason but I do know how to let the past go. I like to go back once in a while, re-look at the photos and just go back to how happy I was when I was with them, try to figure out the things that went wrong and remind myself what boundaries and new behavioral patterns I should keep creating to make sure what went wrong in the first place never happens again.

"Focusing on that time in their life is what's been giving their life now meaning." Damn that hit different, you're totally right

This video came just in time for me! I’ve been struggling with my breakup and coming to terms with who I was and who my ex was in the relationship AND continuing to coexist due to financial limitations. It has not been easy! Thank you for these tips!

What helped was to take a year for myself, no relationships, flings or anything like that.

Thank you as always for your amazing content Steph ❤️. I’m healing from a break up in which I did not receive any closure or resolve, so I love the idea of writing a letter to them in order to get things off of my chest. Prior to our break up I deleted every photo/video we ever took, our message threads, and threw out any items which may have brought up his memory (which I highly recommend for anyone). I’ve also had 0 contact with him, and as much as I’ve wanted to reach out, I try to remind myself that, that chapter has closed, and that that is okay. I’ve leaned on friends, family, and my therapist for support and slowly his memory has become more and more faint. While I’m still heartbroken, I’m healing. I think allowing myself to feel, process, and cry in the present, will serve me in the long run. I also suggest this for others who may want to distract themselves with new relationships, partying, etc. As hard as it may be to confront and process in the present, it will only serve us in the long run and lead to growth and healing. Best of luck to those struggling, you’re not alone, and you will find healthy love and happiness again.

Perfect timing! My bf broke up with me three days ago, and this was exactly what I needed (and that too from someone like Steph).

Your timing for this video is impeccable!