Women Over 50, These are Men's Top 8 First Date Turn Offs in Over 50's Dating

67 and extremely happy being alone. I’m alone but not lonely!

As an overweight widowed woman in my late 60s, I have accepted that men are just not going to be interested in me, no matter what my stellar qualities are as a human being. I moved away from where I'd lived for 20 years and joined many meetups -- and found that the men in these groups interpreted just saying hello as hitting on them. And because I am short, more than just a few pounds overweight, and not beautiful (no matter how I put myself together), I was rejected even as someone to converse with. I instead built a vibrant social life of women friends, and while I often wish I had someone close, it is easier to accept not having that and be with people who DO accept me than to twist myself into pretzels trying to fit some unattainable standard of attractiveness. I've made my peace with that about 80% of the way and working on that last 20%.

Dating is simply not worth it. Find your own self worth and spend time with friends. Skip all of the lies, the drama and bs. Stay single and happy.

1) Don’t wear shape wear. 2) Don’t disparage ex. 3) Post current photos of you. 4) Tell truth about your age. 5) Don’t make a man your pet project. 6) Let man take care of you 7) Don’t drink much on first date. 8) Don’t wear very revealing clothing unless you want sex right then 9) Be kind to men who write you online.

I am 54 year old man. My feeling for woman has deffinetly changed. I fall in love with their natural body, the way she thinks,the way she sees, the sound of her voice, the way she makes me feel. The sum of all those characteristics turns my heart on. The body shape is beutiful but not the main ingredient. Good day to you all!!

Be yourself and happy with yourself. You will attract others. My husband and I married when he was 60 (on our honeymoon) and I was 63. He is a Pastor and we are both strong Christians. We met on Christian Mingle and met in person within a couple weeks. We didn’t worry about doing or saying anything. We were just ourselves. Our first date lasted 10 1/2 hours, ending at 10 p.m. We had wonderful conversation and did some fun things. We met in June, were engaged in July, and married in November. We have been married almost 10 years now. We both retired and a year a half ago packed up, sold our home and moved to the Florida panhandle. We are involved in many Church activities and my husband is now an interim Pastor and we sing together at Services. There IS hope for anyone looking to meet someone.

I cannot believe why a woman or a man would lie about age, weight and height. If you lie for things that are easily discoverable, you will lie for everything.

I like all of this. I'm 73 and I stopped dating years ago, because even at my age, men seem to be looking for sex over relationships. I'm also sick of the "must be slender and have your own teeth" ads from men, then you get a picture of them and they have a big fat belly! I'm overweight, don't have all my own teeth and don't drink. smoke, or have sex really quickly. All of that seem to be turnoffs for men, or at least the ones I used to attract. Also, a lot of men my age have numerous health problems, and I don't want to be a hospice wife. I just think at some point, it's time to give up on dating and settle in to loving your own company.

OMG, I am SO sick of thinking about what men want. So nice to be happily single

I'm male and have long been aware of the insane pressure that women live under to look like this, not like that, speak like this not like that and so on and so on. It's like women are living in some bizarre dictatorship that exists in a parallel to the world that men live in. To be honest, I'm tired of it. I am bombarded by the same advertising, the same pressure and the same insistence about what women 'have to be' - it's just that none of it is directed at me. It sometimes feels like I'm living in a toxic soup. Let's just let women of all ages enjoy being themselves for goodness sake. And let me enjoy it too.

50+ man here. Does anyone else recognize this paradoxical desire: Wanting to intimately share the joy of living solo. A bit of a conundrum, isn't it?

I'd say 80% of women that I met misrepresented themselves. Lied about age (very common), height, body type, interests, kids, even marital status. It's bad enough when someone says they are divorced when they are just separated, but I met women who said they were divorced when they were really living with their husbands and just "emotionally separated". Add in shape altering attire, heavy makeup, hair extensions, and God knows what else and it's easy to develop trust issues.

I have been divorced for seven years, now; and in that time, I have not seen one man, that I would care to date. I am way past 50, and most men in my age group, just want someone to take care of them. You know, those 8 points that you are talking about, well, those 8points, go both ways. I have been very happy, these past years , and I do the things that I really want to do. Stay single ladies. As we get older, it's the best thing that we can do for ourselves.

Just be yourself and if it clicks, it clicks. If it doesn't, move on. Yes, it's that simple. :goodvibes:

I'm a man in my mid sixties, just looking at dating again having lost my wife to multiple sclerosis three years ago. It's hard to live without a partner after almost forty years, but it's equally hard I think, to realistically consider dating again, after all those years actually dedicated to one woman. All these eight things are very real and I believe well addressed.

To all you single ladies making comments, god bless you coz I feel the same as a single divorced man. I have inner peace with myself and being single and I still love and respect women. Once one gets past 60, male or female think more about yourself and your happiness instead of people around you, bottom line treat ALL people with respect and dignity❤❤

Re: shapewear, I propose the following: I'll leave the shapewear in my lingerie drawer if bald guys leave the baseball caps at home. Deal?

I met a woman many years ago who said she was separated but was still living in the same house as her ex.That was it for me.

One guy I met online showed up completely bald and about 50 pounds heavier at 37. His photo was obviously from 10 or 15 years before. It was shocking when I met him in person. I went ahead with the date because I didn’t want to be rude. But it made me angry because the photo was a misrepresentation of who he actually was.

I`m amazed at how much of this advice is targeted at online dating. In my experience the best way to find good partners is by joining activity groups that reflect your interests (classes, sports groups or gyms, cooking clubs or similar). Attraction is important, but it is only part of the matrix for a sucessful long term relationship; if you start off with lots of things in common, you can weather any number of problems, as you will be friends as well as romantic partners. Also in an interest based environment you can take longer to observe and get to know the person without the pressure of them projecting romantic aspirations onto you, and vice versa.