THIS Brought Us Out of a Rough Patch in Marriage

One thing that helps in my marriage is that, even when we aren’t getting along or at odds, we still are committed to certain daily affection’. So, for example, even when I’m mad at my husband, I still give him a kiss when he gets home, I still make his dinner and serve him his plate, etc. I may not do it with a smile and joy haha but I still do it. What this does for us, is that it still keeps us connected even when we aren’t getting along.

The fact that Lisa made a promise to her boys that she would never marry again if John ever died is so amazing!! ❤ John you are SO LUCKY

Was me and my husband for many years until the last two years. He ended up having two double lung tyrants plants.. I ended up taking care of him when he was in and out of any hospital and let me tell you.. I felt so angry all these years for many reasonable desires he had but when I had to take care of him I prayed and told God.. I need.. joy and love and patience… He .. gave… me… just that. I wish I’d prayed for wisdom and understanding beforefore he was so sick but… I praise God.. He and He alone took me to a place I needed to be for him and when he died 6 months ago.. I didn’t suffer.. I knew I’d done what I’d lead me to do. He gave me the grace to give him when he didn’t deserve it but I also didn’t deserve a savior dying on a cross for me. He is a Holy.. loving and a God ful of undress grace.

I agree that God cares about both--happy and holy, but there was a time in my life when I really NEEDED to hear that it wasn't about happy, it was about holy because my marriage was a nightmare, and because of that, other people offered the worldly advice that, "Well, if you're not happy, you should leave, because you deserve to be happy." I think there are seasons that we need to stay, even though we're not happy, because we desire God more than we desire our selfish desires. I'm there right now!

My husband and I cannot wait to lead “The Story of Marriage” life group starting next Friday! Please Pray for us and those attending. Mahalo!!

Thank you for being so vulnerable. We just celebrated our 41st. We are currently in a challenging season. I’m praying, worshipping, and trying above all to listen. I’ve been walking with the Lord for 44 years. Again, thank you

THANK YOU for sharing. Marriage is a covenant and a covenant requires commitment. John is right. Marriage involves 3 people. Much love xxx

Stubborn = prideful= sinful Humility and forgiveness are needed. It's not an easy conversation but truth about how you really feel starts to open a pathway.

Marriage is a beautiful thing but God has to be in everything! Married for 14 years and it will be ups and downs and sometimes we just disconnect from marriage because of stress, work and other issues but we must seek God for help

This helped me so much I wanted to leave my husband but God is saying no so I know it’s worth it to stay!

I am crying because of your honesty towards God and each other. I feel so happy and relieved to hear you both speak. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. With love ❤️

Such perfect timing. Please pray for our fully redeemed restored blessed better than ever marriage ! Because right now it is a nightmare.

Both interrupt each other, it would be a blessing if they didn’t 😳

Thank you SO much for your continued obedience and openness! You have no idea how much help you both are! You are true role models in the Kingdom! 👑💪🏼🙏🏼

I exist in a marriage where my husband is completely switched off, numb, non-communicative, wont go for therapy, for prayer, for counseling nothing, I've tried to talk to him & he just stares at me blankly. This is a prison. Neither of us can afford to leave so we remain stuck in this limbo of nothingness.

I love your podcasts and appreciate the Godly wisdom that you share. I would like to respectfully ask that you both work harder to stop interrupting each other and talking over one another. If you're going to teach about Godly marriages, then you need to exhibit healthy communication skills. One of the greatest forms of love we can offer another person is to listen to them to understand and stop listening to them to respond. When you continually interrupt and talk over another person, you are not listening to understand, and you are not respecting them in your communication. This is a main contributor to unhealthy and unsuccessful marriages because people do not feel heard and understood. Again, I share this respectfully from a heart that is very grateful for your teachings.

“Becoming one takes time “ This ! It takes time and it’s hard ! May God find grace for our marriages ! Marriages matter ! Godly Marriages Matter !!!

I would love to hear more about how John was able to treat Lisa as if she was perfect. I find this the most challenging. Also would love prayer for my marriage too as we are both stubborn and it feels like a nightmare at times. Thank you for what you both do for Marriages ❤

Learning so much!!!! ❤😍 Married almost a year and had our first babygirl. Can’t wait to apply these beautiful virtues in my relationship with God and my husband. What a perspective change. Thank you guys for being my adoptive youtube parents!

Thank you sooo much for this. As a couple in our early 30s we really need godly guidance like this❤ Please do share more (on the next one) on what Ps John mentioned about putting God first but not mistaking that for putting church first? How do we serve the Lord passionately in the church without ending up compromising our marriages and building our households