8 Signs Its A Trauma Bond, Not Love

It would be cool to have a video on how to handle your first healthy relationship after an abusive one just for reference

Concise summary. 1. They are outwardly charming. 2. They are emotionally unpredictable. 3. They take their problems out on you. 4. They isolate you from other loved ones. 5. You minimize the consequences of their behavior on you. 6. You constantly make excuses for them. 7. You are becoming more emotionally detached and numb. 8. You are hiding aspects of your relationship with others. You know something is wrong.

I was the abusive one and needed to be free to learn myself…sometimes justifying abuse can lead to devastating results. LET THAT PERSON GO.

I’ve watched this so many times over the last few months. I’m in a new relationship after an abusive one. It’s such a different feeling to have someone so calm and even-mannered that I panic it’s an act. It’s so so hard not to sabotage something good by paranoia that it’s bad.

As a male, I feel like it’s a lot harder to admit to being emotionally abused and actually finding that next step to take without hurting anyone.

This is also a good tool in teaching your children how to spot an abuser early and avoid them, or distance themselves before they are in too deep. I always tell my teenage daughter that no matter what happens to her or what she does she is always welcome home. You have to talk to your children about anything in life long before they are at an age to experience such things so that your guidance and words are in imbedded their minds before the situation presents itself.

Trauma bonding, and Gaslighting goes hand and hand. Watch out for the psychological wars on the mind.

I used to think that trauma bonding was based on shared trauma, but this helped clear a lot of misconceptions around the concept. Thanks for sharing this educational video, Psych2Go! 🌙

As a male who’s dealt with this: men, it’s okay if you feel the way they’ve outlined in the video. No you’re not weak. No, you’re not less of a man for not being willing to deal with the BS. And yes, you ARE worth more than the relationship you’re in. Do what’s best for you, and much love and strength to you for seeking to do better.

I was "trapped" in a trauma-bond for almost 30 years and finally filed for divorce. From the very beginning, I felt like he needed me and that I would be the one person who would be his biggest supporter. All of the signs that you mentioned in this video, I experienced. I tried to leave several times during the marriage but the "bond" was so tight. I almost lost my life (literally) and that was the beginning of the awakening. Psychological abuse is insidiously evil! Thank God that I'm out, free, healing and getting back to myself!

Please be aware that this isn't just in romantic relationships, but also friendships. I'm currently working to get out of a trauma bond with someone I've been friends with since 2015, and it hasn't been easy, especially since I feel that, if I leave them, they'll become even more depressed or worse. It isn't easy, but all we can hope to do is get out as safely as possible.

It's sad when it keeps happening over and over again and you start to feel like abuse is home.

My cousin who was basically a sister was in an abusive relationship. She tried to get out. He ended up strangling her to death. The most dangerous part of an abusive relationships is when the abused actually start to break free. Nobody knew about how abusive the relationship was until she was murdered.

0:57 - The person is outwardly charming. 1:27 - They are emotionally unpredictable. 2:04 - They tend to take their problems out on you. 2:27 - They isolate you from your loved ones. 3:00 - You deny or minimize their abusive behavior. 3:41 - You constantly make excuses for them. 4:12 - You're becoming more and more emotionally numb. 4:49 - You're hiding aspects of your relationship from others. I still recommend watching the full video.

I'm a veteran, was actually addicted to alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

Last week I did something tremendously difficult for me and ended a romantic toxic relationship. Although I felt relieved I still get remourses and sometimes wonder if I did the right thing. I really appreciated this video for helping me realize once more why I made the right decision ❤

A year ago, I ended a toxic friendship in which we had trauma bonded as kids. I’m still grappling with ending a 20 year friendship, but watching this video helps me understand, accept, and find strength in my decision. It was hard and I didn’t want to let her go, but I deserve better than what she gave me

This video made me cry with tears of relief because it makes so much sense. I was in a toxic abusive relationship for years and experienced all the above. I'm no saint but I certainly didn't deserve what I went through. I'm in a much better place now and use my experiences and story to help others. Thank you @Psych2Go for your videos. They've played a huge part in my healing journey 💖 Many blessings to your channel🙏🏽❤

It’s a lot more harder then people realize to leave. Especially if you have a past of abuse when your young. My father abandoned me at 12. All I wanted was approval from who I’m with. Now that I Older and realize what I was doing to myself, and forgave my father, I can see those behaviors a mile away.

I used to be the abuser, my current gf used to be the receiver of an abuser. We have an amazingly healthy relationship. I have done a lot of self work as well as her. God has been the foundation of our relationship. It’s interesting to watch our relationship blossom. But going from unhealthy to healthy is such a new scary experience.