When you've lost the will to do what you need to do
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Published 2023-10-23
This is due to the finite nature of willpower and our constant battle against high-stimulation activities, especially smartphones.
To regain control you have to take charge of your inner ecosystem.
Let's talk about that.
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What you'll find in this video
00:00 The Feeling of Losing Time and Control
Life can often feel overwhelming, making you feel like you're losing time and control over your own life. This sensation is due to various factors, and there's a way to regain some control over your daily experiences.
03:31 The Role of Willpower in Decision-Making
Willpower is a finite resource used to make choices among available activities. When your willpower is depleted, you tend to resort to activities that require minimal effort and provide instant gratification. Understanding the role of willpower is crucial for managing your daily choices effectively.
07:02 The Impact of Smartphones on Willpower
Smartphones offer constant access to highly stimulating activities, making it challenging to resist their allure. The pervasive availability of these devices can drain your willpower and leave you feeling exhausted by the end of the day.
10:38 Setting Limits on Smartphone Usage
To regain control over your life and make daily activities more enjoyable, consider setting limits on smartphone usage. You can either remove troublesome apps or establish specific timeframes for phone use, allowing other aspects of your life to become more engaging.
14:29 Taking Charge of Your Inner Ecosystem
While external factors are beyond your control, you can take charge of your inner ecosystem. By managing your smartphone usage and making deliberate choices, you can create a more fulfilling daily experience and reduce the feeling of constant exhaustion.
All Comments (21)
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I'm not worn out from one day, I'm worn out from YEARS of battle and I just avoid, avoid and avoid again.
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I'm 68 and have been divorced 20 years after 22 years of marriage and raising 5 kids, my youngest son moved out over 4 years ago. Living alone has caused me severe anxiety and mild depression. Doesn't matter what I do, where I go, who visits or who I visit, life is very lonely for me in living alone. I don't want to cook or even bother eating most days. Living alone for me is extremely hard and kills the desire to do anything anymore. I've watched a million YT videos, movies, reading, walking my dog etc. I just can't find joy in anything anymore. I've just lost interest in life basically, it's just repeat, repeat, repeat. The mental exhaustion is real and extremely draining.
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Depression is not a sign of weakness. Depression is a sign of having been too strong for too long.
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What I have a problem with is to STOP doing things and just have fun. I can't remember the last time I've had fun.
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As a broke person dealing with depression on my own for the past 7 years, you have no idea how much i appreciate your videos. Hugs.❤ and thank you so so much.
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It feels especially hard when you have had depression since childhood because you just don't remember a normal, fulfilling life without depression. So there's no reference to go off of. At that point, depression is your life and you just have to find ways to lessen the effects it has on your day to day.
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All I want to do is sleep. It’s a release from the pain. And when I, awake I’m soooooo exhausted can barely function
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There were so many times when the smallest kindness kept me going.
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What do you do when you no longer want to live but you have people you can’t leave behind on their own?
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I’m a therapist in Texas and I have to tell you that I’m so proud of you for making videos that talk about the real shit that people go through. You’re really strong and courageous to share your own personal journey with your clients and viewers. I hope that more and more therapists start becoming honest about their own personal human struggles… Because it takes all of the power dynamic away between client and therapist. Such a relief. Thank you so much!
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I just want to get a group of depressed people like me and just cry together. We deserve people who feel the same pain
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I'm 62, I have grandsons who totally ignore me because they are always playing video games and looking at their phones constantly. They never EVER call me nor wish me Happy Birthday. I have tried and tried being close to them but they are too self centered to even care. I have gone to all of their birthday parties, given them gifts and money. One is 20 now and the other is 16. I wish I could have had the grandmother experience and that is one thing that depresses me. Maybe its just the way it is, and maybe alot of others grandparents feel neglected too.
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I feel like a stranger in a strange land, and it keeps getting harder and harder to juggle the balls....
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I stopped making to do list and started making lists of what i did accomplish. It really works well for me
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I had to limit watching the news; the endless array of terrible problems beyond my control was literally making me sick. Quitting TV, internet, video games, and allowing only YouTube for social media sure was helpful. Staying physically and mentally active sure helps, too, along with a good diet.
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It's so hard when you feel you know why you are so depressed and unhappy but there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
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I’m 51. I’m just tired of everything.
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Sometimes, all I can use my willpower to do is stay alive. The older I get the less willpower I can summon.
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At 73, I never dreamed I would end up addicted to YouTube and yet, here I am. I will take you advice under advisement. Pray for me?
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the joy has gone out of my "doing". The things I loved to do... cooking, baking, gardening, painting, social activities, even cleaning windows. now, my get up and go has gone. .
