Discover the 10 Signs of Quiet Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

A great video which I can show my clients, thank you! There is one more important tip I would like to suggest, and this is about treating/processing any difficult memories with EMDR. The process is not easy, but it reduces difficult emotions and thoughts connected with earlier life events, and once it is completed the person does not get triggered so often and so strongly. Contrary to what many think, it is effective with complex trauma, not just isolated traumatic incidents. Although it has been developed by an American it seems to be known and used in Europe much more extensively... It really does work! Wishing all of us peace and calm and thank you again for your vidoes

Another thing I've noticed is a thing called FP or Favourite Person. You invest almost all of your value in how that one particular person interacts with you. The intensity of validation or rejection is ten times stronger with this person. In my experience it's usually people who exhibit similar symptoms to your parents or have qualities you wish to see in yourself. Or both. I've also experienced they are usually someone with a avoidant attachment style or people who are emotionally unavailable or are narcissistic. But that's just in my experience x Thanks for the amazing video Kati x We love you so much <3

my therapist described my bpd as a “ bottomless pit of emotion “ and that’s the best way to describe it. never enough LOVE, too deep and hard to reach ANGER/DEPRESSION/LONLINESS. EVERYTHING is bottomless.

i've been diagnosed with bpd but i still watch these videos and act surprised when i relate to every single point

I know a trait of BPD is hyperanalysis, but the fact you refer to the symptoms with "we", and not "you" makes me feel less judged. It's smaller details like this that would make me feel less alone by watching these videos. Thank you!

My therapist thought I had been misdiagnosed with BPD because I presented differently but I informed her about quiet BPD. I ended up becoming a massive internaliser because I grew up with a narcissist mum who would use the silent treatment and I became so aware of her emotions and constantly trying to please her that I’m disconnected from my own emotions.

Never been diagnosed with BPD BUT that emptiness, the feeling like I'm alone, the deep sadness has always been there.

I had a friend who also has bdp who never understood why when I felt rejected by someone I would immediately withdraw completely instead of latching on. It’s because you’ve lived so long with BPD you’ve learnt it’s actually less painful to “leave them before they leave you” you are avoiding the abandonment by leaving them first at the first sign of “abandonment” or abandonment from that person. I also realised that not everyone experiences BPD that way regardless of how long they have been living with it. Everyone is different.

The ghosting people after getting left on read once really hits

The hypervigilance, always present. Splitting is the worst...and it can be triggered by ANYTHING...ANYTHING. The wrong word, the wrong tone, the wrong gesture, wrong facial expression, speaking, remaining silent, disagreement, knowing, not knowing. And then suddenly you're accused of being the worst person in the world, evil, or having some hidden motive, intending to cause harm. And no logic, no amount reasoning can change how she feels, because that's how she feels, and it must be because of something you did. Maybe you're being yelled at, maybe not. But you're already frightened of whatever impulse reaction you'll need to deal with later....

Feeling angry and trying to be accepted at the same time. Boy, it's hard. One thing that helped me was learning to express my emotions while trying not to be disrespectful of other people. It kinda alleviates the weight of negative emotions. It's hard at first, but it’s ongoing learning process. Wish you all the best, everyone.

Ten Signs of Quiet BPD: 1. Feeling empty, alone or numb a lot of the time 2. Feeling like we don't exist or we can struggle to know who we are 3. Passive aggressive behavior (sarcastic, purposeful ignorance) 4. Turning our anger inward 5. Impulsive behaviors (binge eating, gambling, abusing substances, risky sexual behavior) 6. Have an intense fear of rejection 7. Isolation 8. Splitting behavior 9. Self sabotaging behavior 10. Hypervigilance 6 Ways to Better Manage Quiet BPD: 1. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) 2. Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) 3. Be more mindful of your emotions 4. Build a healthy support team 5. Use impulse logs 6. Playing it out (worst case, best case, most likely scenarios)

One thing I really appreciate about your videos Kati, is that you always say "we". I know you probably don't have every disorder you talk about (I hope so at least, for your sake lol), but it's surprisingly comforting to hear "we" instead of something like "people with X".

I'm autistic and have been diagnosed with BPD too. I feel things so strongly all the time. It's exhausting

I always thought BPD is always shown in extreme ways (super hot and cold), so I never considered it a possibility till seeing this video….everytime I had a “well that’s not me because I do this instead of that”- , Katie would just add it on the list 💀😂 now Im setting an appointment talk to a professional because wow did this video held up a mirror to myself.

Feeling unwanted, not needed, unimportant,useless and just a side character😣

i’ve been diagnosed with major depressive disorder and i ALWAYS thought it was more than just depression, but i never related to any other mental disorder like this one. this video makes so much sense to me. thank you.

Quiet BPD and ADHD. Been told it's Bipolar, started getting treatment for bipolar, made me feel worse. I brought it up with the shrink and I was told repeatedly that "no, I am sure you are bipolar"... I finally went to a different set of doctors and finally got the right diagnosis but it took a long time and a lot of money just to find the right people to help

I recognise all 10 signs in myself and I feel so attacked right now. Never would've guessed I might have bpd, because I just never outwardly express any emotions (heck, I've been pushing them away so much, that I don't even feel like I have any anymore). I'm in therapy for lots of other issues (diagnosed depression and possible anxiety, adhd and autism), but we're kinda stuck right now, because I just never have anything to tell.

I’ve been trying to figure out what’s wrong with me for years and I never considered borderline as a possibility because it’s always shown as extreme and abusive… but I relate too much to this video not to see a psychiatrist.😅