The anatomy of a narcissistic breakup

No one will hate you more, than a narcissist who used to tell you "I love you".

Break up with a narcissist is a whole different feeling then a break up from a Person that isn't a narcissist. Normal Break up broke my heart. Break up from a narcissist my soul broke. I was stripped to nothing. I almost didn't make it through. Here I am 2 years later, loving myself with my strong boundaries, morals and values. 😊

No one falls in love faster than a narcissist trying to get fresh supply

The relationship fell apart the moment the light turned on in my head, and I realized that although I loved this person, I deserved to be treated better. And through your videos, I see the red flags I missed, and I see the patterns you've pointed out to be aware of. I realized I was in a toxic narcissistic relationship, and I was losing myself in it. And I was nothing but supply. Hurts so, so much to face that truth, BUT I feel free and powerful. Every day that passes, it hurts a little bit less, and I feel stronger and happier every day. Like you said, Dr. Ramani: "You're much more than your narcissistic supply." Thank you! ❤😊

I don't miss feeling like I'm having a nervous breakdown every day of my life. Thank you, Dr. Ramani, for explaining this dynamic so well. 💝

It was all of a sudden. He just decided that was it. Lack of intimacy, ghosting, devalued, and discarded. It's been rough not going to lie. I will survive.

Love comes to you when you don't expect it and leaves when you need it the most. The most cruelest thing to do is tell someone you love them and spend everyday slowly destroying them. Narcissists forget about you, when they don't need any more favors.

It wasn't normal. I knew there were serious problems with my girlfriend, but I couldn't figure it out. It was only in the last two months that I learned about narcissism. It wasn't until I left and studied extensively that I finally learned the truth. From what I can see, she is what they call a "malignant narcissist." Since we broke up nine months ago (I went full, no contact), it has been radio silence, no communication from her, and none from me. I blocked her in every way possible and I have not snooped her at all. Do I think about her? Yes, every day though I have never reached out. If I get the urge, I read my list of the horrible things she did and that stood me in my tracks, every time.

Narcissist abruptly leave when they believe they have secured your replacement. If they attempt to secure your replacement and the plans fall through, That's when they come back with love bombing and revaluation. They can't risk being truly alone. So they will never abruptly leave unless they have someone in mind

Not only they think they have big hearts, they are chosen ones, no one understand them... but they will tell you something bothers them from other people while they do the exact same thing OR they will lecture you on what you should do while they do the opposite!! It's an interesting but horrifying thing to witness.

I was the one that walked out. I knew it was coming for a long time. One day I really sat by myself and put the pros n cons on a mental scale and said yeah I need to get out now. I started arguing n bitching as much as he did and said this isn’t me! Time to go! I left on 5/8/23 and haven’t looked back nor been back. I’m the happiest I’ve been in 4 decades with him. He still can’t believe it

Narcissists are sort of like addicts, They love you as long as you have something to offer them. But in reality they are either not capable of loving themselves or are so in love with themselves there is no room for you at all.

My breakup was long and drawn out. My ex-husband threatened me multiple times to divorce me, but then I guess he enjoyed seeing me jump through hoops and bend myself into further knots because he never acted on his threats. Until one day after not taking his shoes off -- his shoes were tells that he was about to say something horrible to me, so I knew something was up -- he told me he wanted a divorce. And this time I did not argue or get too angry and I said okay. I had begged him for three years to go to marriage counseling because he repeatedly told me he was upset and unhappy, yet he wouldn't give me one hour a week to fix it. The last time he said he wouldn't go to marriage counseling, I told him that I'd remember that if he ever expected me to do anything for him. Also at that point I was so sick of the abuse and neglect, I started standing up for myself and pointing out his BS, which he didn't like. So of course, I had to go. It was never a marriage. Never. It was me versus him. It was him using me to get where he was and taking me down in the process. I had so many goals and things I wanted to accomplish, but being married to a narc is indeed a full time job. I devoted so much of my flagging energy to making HIM happy while he barely gave anything in return. I lost who I was. I didn't succeed at anything I set out to do. As much as I didn't want to go back home to my narc family, I had no choice. But at least here with them, I have friends again and a small support group that can help me deal with my family, whereas with him, he was all I had and it was a whole lot of nothing. A few months ago, I got a wild hair up my rear and decided to look at his twitter feed. His pinned tweet was a group of wedding pictures to his new, younger wife. We had not been divorced a full year before he got remarried. I can't tell you the waves of relief that washed over me that now the Eye of Sauron was looking the other way! His new victim was a coworker, which confirmed to me that he had been grooming and cheating while we were married. He never mentioned this girl even once, but she'd been working with him for years. The worst/weirdest part was that she is a carbon copy of me, and her name is even similar to mine. Ah well. That decade+ with him was a time I wish I could completely erase from my life and have a do over. I did things that I would never ever ever have done if I wasn't in such a terrible place with such a terrible person. Now I'm in therapy, and I'm trying to heal my trauma from childhood, trying to put my life back together and get what I never got from anyone, least of all the people whose blood I share and who said "I love you" while they abused. Stay strong, survivors. A discard is the greatest gift a narcissist will ever give you. Thank you, Dr. Ramani.

Its terrible to mourn someone who is still alive....

You told the story of my life- 15 years married, best friends,2 kids. Left suddenly for new love- only difference is, she didn’t want him. He interpreted this as part of her wonderfulness- of course she would never date a married man. 3 weeks later, he called, sobbing to come home. I told him to get help and then we’ll talk. Never happened, it’s now 30 years later. He has been alone with no other lasting relationship. Karma.

He hugged me and said, “I couldn’t love you anymore than I do right now.” Two weeks later, he was done with me. I was married for 30 years. They all have an end date even after many years and experiences.

It’s shocking how fast some guys move onto someone else, while still pursuing me. Or how quickly they go suddenly go cold if you ever try to have a real conversation about anything that they did that hurt or bothered you. No accountability. Super disturbing. Learning to be careful who I let into my life and get to know them slowly while keeping my boundaries. They usually show their true colours eventually. I’d rather be single than with abusive people. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

A narcissistic sees relationships as convenience only. At the expense of everything else.Because it never meant anything to them in the first place.

I think it's important to remember that even when you know what narcissism is, and you're aware to look out for red flags, that narcissism can still come in forms you don't expect and that fly beneath your radar.

I believe, as a consolidation, that as narcissists age, they become so much more challenging to deal with. My ex was narcissistic and has remarried. They seem blissful and are building a new house, the house of my former dreams. I came to realize that I was raised by a narcissistic mother, which may account for why I chose and stuck with a narcissistic husband until he left me 27 years later. My mother recently passed away. The last year of her life, she treated me with hateful contempt, even more so than earlier in my life. I believe that narcissists become even more horrible to deal with as they age. I guess they realize death is bigger than they are, and maybe they question what happens after death, I don't know. All I know is my mom left this earth screaming and clawing at her life. She did not want to go, and acted like she wanted to take me with her. What I saw in her death was a flash vision of what I could have had to endure had I remained in that terrible marriage. Just remember, with narcissists, it always gets worse, even though you cannot image how. They want to drag you to hell with them. Be glad you are no longer in the relationship and don't have to accompany them.❤