Mel Robbins ON: If You STRUGGLE With Stress & Anxiety, This Will CHANGE Your Life! | Jay Shetty

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Published 2023-01-16
Today, I am talking to Mel Robbins. Mel is one of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and a New York Times Bestselling author. Her work includes "The High 5 Habit," "The 5 Second Rule," four #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide. Her groundbreaking work on behavior change has been translated into 41 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled.

This time, Mel generously shares her thoughts on why people are unhappy and steps they can take to find genuine and lasting happiness, how to deal with our inner voice that's focus on negativity, why dreams are called directional signals, and the truth behind the struggles most of us go through as adults.

What We Discuss:
00:00:00 Intro
00:04:41 Why am I holding on to the things that are making me unhappy?
00:13:58 The constant drumbeat of negativity
00:21:56 Engaging in your own campaign of misery
00:36:50 Difference between dream and delusion
00:50:04 Parental mismatch
00:57:48 Girls struggle with crippling perfectionism
01:02:21 Confidence is the willingness to try
01:09:53 Why it’s easier to question how somebody’s changing
01:16:19 How to find happiness again
01:21:45 Verbal acknowledgement of the little achievements

All Comments (21)
  • @jeromesupan
    To everyone reading this Keep going. No matter how stuck you feel, no matter how bad things are right now, no matter how hopeless & depressed you feel, no matter how many days you have spent wishing things were different. I promise you won't feel this way forever. Keep going.
  • "One of the greatest gift's of being adult is separating is separating from your parents and deciding how you wanna talk to yourself" This hits home.
  • @Fatima_316
    As a psychologist myself, I can say that every single point of wisdom Mel robbins makes is SO accurate. In my counselling sessions with clients, i teach them almost the same principles. Keep spreading the wisdom Mel and Jay, you guys are truly doing God's work!!!
  • @jalanstudios
    "Your dreams actually can't leave you, they're meant for you." Powerful words Mel. Thank you both for this inspiring podcast!
  • I love Mel’s honesty and ability to share her own imperfections to help others learn about themselves.
  • Mel Robbins is one of my greatest inspirations! I started to help people because of her. Thank you for this amazing interview Jay!
  • @charliezimmel8540
    A therapist of mine said the same thing about "fake it until you make it." She said reframe that to be "believe it until you become it."
  • @janeb.burrow2418
    Psilocybin mushrooms healed me . I can't explain it but my experience has been spiritual and eye opening . I also started micro dosing . It really helped me get rid of depression and anxiety .
  • I'm a strong believer, that we see things when we are ready. I watch your podcasts all the time, but I can across this one today even though it was posted 7 months ago and God only knows how much I needed this. Its almost as if, Mel and you spoke about everything I've been asking the universe for a few weeks now. I quit my job 4,5 years ago, followed my purpose, but sometimes because we don't see the results in the physical world, we feel like its not there. You both gave me hope, and I feel fueled by faith again. I also believe that everything happens FOR you, not TO you. This happened for me, and I claim it.❤
  • To anyone reading this, I hope that whatever is bothering you or that you are constantly worried about gets better. May all negative thoughts, overthinking, and doubt leave your mind right now. May clarity triumph over obscurity. May your life be filled with peace and calm.
  • Mel has a really great skill in taking intangible concepts, often brought up in mental health, and making them more understandable and attainable. I've always struggled to understand what exactly confidence was supposed to be. It always sounded like having belief in oneself despite not knowing whether you had an ability to do something or whether the outcome would be successful. Defining confidence as a 'willingness to try and the belief in what you are doing' makes so much more sense. There's no innate skill requirement or need to be anything but who you already are. Confidence is a mindset that's available to everyone. Definitely going to subscribe to Mel's podcast and looking forward to more gems of wisdom like this!
  • I love this “you ever get that feeling in church that you feel like the pastor is talking directly to you” that how I feel rn like this lady knows me and is speaking directly to me.
  • @lauralee2443
    I SO understand your feeling & emotions about your daughter. I miss my Mom SO much as she past away unexpectedly during the beginning of Covid! No words! She is/was my best friend, my champion & my everything! I love ❤️ this message. Thank you! I love you Mel & Jay!!
  • The further along the path of recovery from depression I get, the more I've come to appreciate my parents and the role they played in supporting me and this episode has just elevated that respect. A lot of the things that Mel mentioned you should do, I've noticed them doing over the last 12 months as I've begun to stand on my own two feet again so I wanted to extend a huge thanks to yourself, Jay, and Mel for deepening my respect for, and recognition of, my parents and all they've done to support me over the last few years.
  • @SaachiBhasin
    This has been one of the most insightful videos I have EVER come across. I have just started reading think like a monk to start my journey to find myself and inspiration too. It’s been a difficult month but this makes me feel I’m not alone. To anyone reading this.. let’s think of our next step and work towards that. ❤
  • @CelebrityPets
    Wow! I just needed this morning. I am in the worst time of my life right now and listening to Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty talking on how to get out on the stand, making me realize I need to do that. Getting out of misery campaign is such a great terminology. I am only half thru this podcast video and I needed to just say Thank you to both of you to share this.
  • @meggggg
    This all is so relatable. I've always struggled to stay in the moment.. on the court..on the trail. I'm such an overthinker and always looking at the end goal instead of how fun the journey getting there is. It makes me doubt myself and talk myself out of starting things because I'm afraid of failing. I need to remind myself how fun the process is even if I fail or don't reach the "goal" at the end 😌
  • Mel is so real you can’t even tell she’s been at this for as long as she has. I love how she shares her testimonies so bravely and authentically. She doesn’t care how it makes her look or sound to people who are just looking to judge and take apart her perspective as long as it’s a testimony that can help someone who is actually listening and trying to learn ON PURPOSE. It’s really helpful to know that even after all the work she does for her own personal mental health she’s still humble enough to say - Hey I said some shitty things to my husband last week etc .. it’s like whoaaa! We’re all just growing it never stops. It’s just about calling yourself out and as Jordan Peterson says “ treat yourself like someone you care about “ by the jay! You gotta bring JP on he’s my media dad! There are some celebrities like big Sean and Trevor Noah who really get this game of life and I REALLY took away a lot from them they were my favourite podcasts of 2022 by the way. But if they’re not as informative as them I think bringing experts and real teachers instead of some famous person on the contrary will be more entertaining. Anyway jay your doing great! Thanks for anther awesome episode. Mel is a real one! Bring her on again!
  • Thank you Mel & Jay for a wonderful enlightening session. "Draw a line on a piece of paper, write the experiences that gave you happiness. Take the steps to complete one of the same actions you did that made you happy." "Acknowledge your smallest accommplishments." I believe "happiness" is overrated. I like the feeling of seeing others joyful or confident, and it brings me peace and satisfaction when I can help others achieve there goals. My job now is to "Defeat the campaigns of misery" I participate in. Compassion, transparency, integrity and accountability for all!😁😎😷🙋‍♀️