6 Things That Made Me a Less Anxious Person

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I can relate with reading fiction or watching movies and tv shows as diving into fictional worlds is like hitting the reset button for the mind. It’s a temporary escape from the chaos of reality. Sometimes, when I’m in a situation where my anxiety spikes, I think of a confident fictional character and imagine how they’d handle the situation. It helps me stay grounded and tackle challenges with a different perspective.

6 things are 1. Meditation 2. Reading fiction 3. Activity where you're present 4. Curating digital environment 5. Beautying physical environment 6. Gratitude

I'm 46, single, never married, and no kids. Very seldom, I ponder about what might have been. At the same time, I count my blessings as well. You have to be thankful for what you have.

I'm in my 30s, and I am glad that I did not have children. I don't think there is anything selfish about not being a mother. Having kids is a choice, and choosing not to have children doesn't make anyone less of a woman. I also have anxiety, so being able to focus on my own health and my career has really helped me manage it throughout the years. Just remember it's okay if your path is different from others.

Lana, I think the hardest thing for us sensitive types who suffer from anxiety is this constant feeling that we have missed out on something that could have made us happier or more fulfilled. Even if life is going well, we can’t help but dwell on what could have been or what might have been. Every choice we have ever made has led us onto the path we are on now. Meditation, nature and beauty. The healing power of all three cannot be overstated. 😊

That mindset: " See my anxiety as an overprotective friend..." is so helpful because it actually makes people feel little bit safer then when we think anxiety is the enemy and we get into to fight mindset. Good point Lana ❤ I will highlight this idea in some of my next videos when I overview Anxiety topic if you agree 🥰

I had my child at 23 on 2022. The first months I thought I had made the biggest mistake ever and I had lost myself to serving someone else. Today, there are days in which being a parent is still really tough, specially if you’re a person that values their time alone and has a lot of interests. Every now and then I have a slight wish I’d have a childless more carefree life. On other days seeing my child grow is the most rewarding and loving experience. As he grows I get to share my world more with him. Being a parent is really tough, it questioned me in all the ways I hadn’t expected it and constantly does. There are a lot of compromises to make and personal decisions get much harder since there are more variables to consider and needs to handle. I love my child and if you would decide to have one too I guess you’d love your sooo much too but I wouldn’t want to influence your decision in one way or the oder. I actually didn’t want to have babies before but it happened for me so my now husband and I decided we wanted to go along this journey.

my 6 things are 1. focusing on the present, noticing the small things 2. taking a shower (the best part of my day when I can wash of the things that happened on that day) 3. watching my comfort youtubers 4. eating/drinking my comfort foods and drinks 5. reading 6. petting my pets

I'm so glad I had my children. I have a three year old boy and a one year old girl and caring for them, watching them growing, learning, watching their personalities blossom...it's the most fulfilled I've ever been. Ever. And I've had a mind-blowing career for ten years as a content creator I've gotten to do such incredible things! Meeting celebrities, briefly living in LA and London and travelling all over the world, working with enormous brands, I got to be there before TikTok existed...when being a YouTuber was such a big deal...and it brought me just so many mad experiences. T.V. Presenting. Publishing three books (my biggest dream as a child). Though I've always found that I struggle a lot with always wanting to 'top' myself, be it views or video quality...and I had to let that go when I became a parent. Less awards...no time to make more short films...unable to go to most of the premieres etc I get invited to...I can't even write right now. But letting it go has been amazing. I'm so much more calm. And I know that my children will only be super young for a very short amount of time. This is such a moment in time. Slowing down is SO important. And with children...there's no chasing numbers, there's no trying to over-achieve, perfectionism is stupid...it's just a big messy shit show, it's SO hard, it's never ending, but the beauty is buried in all that...the beauty is being present. Kids force you to be present. Time slows down. You realise how much love matters. The way you talk about your dog - it's basically that feeling AAAAALLLLLL the time, THAT is the beauty, and obviously it's much more life changing than getting a pet haha. I just mean, the beautiful positives of having a pet...and how hard it is to explain those...having kids is like that. It's impossible to describe how it feels but the feeling is amazing. And yes it will impact your career so it will majorly depend on your priorities. Some people could not bear the thought of their career changing! But I think about it this way, I'm 34, I might live another 60 years, and work (for me, EVEN work that's also basically...hobbies!) - work would never fulfill me forever. Because the most fulfilled I ever feel isn't when I finish writing a book or when I finish a video edit etc...the most fulfilled I ever feel is laughing with people I love, and creating people that I love WITH someone I love and spending all my time with them...that to me is my vision for a perfect life xxx

I’m 26 and I’ve found that my desire to have kids is almost nonexistent now than it was in my early 20s. I’m not sure if it’s just my circumstances that led me here, but it does worry me if I end up not having any kids that I might regret it. I’m mainly just not in the right mental state and environment to bring a child into this world.

How is it ever possible that everything Lana shares relates to me 100%? I feel extremely lucky and grateful to find her channel. She is my comfort place ❤

This year I turned 30, I thought that by then I would be a wife and a mother, but nothing like that happened, I decided that I didn't want to have children, I've been through a lot with men, but also with myself, I don't feel mentally capable of doing so. I think it also results from the enormous anxiety with which I have been struggling for many years... personally, I find meditation and exercise consuming, and I exercise a lot and this is where I find my outlet for my emotions.

I am 24 and already have a 3 yr old and a 2 yr old. I’m so glad I had my girls, they bring so much love and light into my life. They have forced me to dig deeper into wounds I did not even know existed until I was a mother. In so many ways, I would not be as healed and aware as I am without them. On the contrary, there are many ways in which they hold me back. I cannot freely delve into healing practices, hobbies, solitary experiences, ect and have to schedule those things into very small pockets of time. I think I would be ahead in some ways, had I not had them. All in all, I don’t think anyone can tell you whether or not you’d regret having/not having kids. I believe that you can have a joyful and fulfilling life either way. There is no right or wrong choice for you, just two equally fruitful, but different versions of you/your life that could play out.

I think being unsure about life is kind of a privilege. I mean, in today's world, there are so many people that couldn't be bothered to focus on the important things, with all the addictions and distractions going on. So, I'm happy that you've been focusing on your life and yourself for so long, and it's been such a great passion for you. The tips are pretty good. We can have varying views on how to counteract our own anxieties, though what you have here is solid.

I’m 20 years old and currently don’t want kids for many reasons that relate to my childhood trauma and my parent’s health as well as my health mentally and physically. I grow up with a mom who didn’t want kids in the first place and she has some kinds of mental issues; She asks me everyday what would I feel like if I have kids, it makes me question myself, my existence and parenting style a lot. Also I have my great partner and we just don’t wanna turn out to be like our parents after having kids so we opted not to have children.

Having kids is the most fulfilling thing I have ever done. (Son is 19, daughter is 16). No regrets, despite the sacrifices in my career advancement and my marriage eventually failing. Parenthood is definitely not a cure for anxiety though. It just shifts your priorities. Thanks for your insightful videos and may you find happiness with whatever path you choose.

Deleting all SM except YouTube has done wonders for my mental health x

I'm 28 and I don't have kids, I have a bf and both of us don't want kids. We both have mental health problems which for sure do influence our choice. As for me, I come from a dysfunctional family and I am determined to break the cycle of violence. I've never felt the need to have kids and never understood why anyone even had kids. I respect everyone's decisions and body autonomy, I just don't feel that kids are for me. I'm not even financially independent yet. I'm changing careers, so I'm still at university. I think we live in such a difficult and unstable economy, I barely see how I can afford life as it is. I know I'll have to have conversations about why we aren't having kids, but tbh I hope our entourage respects our decision.

Im turning 35 in autumn and im single. I always wanted to have a family, and thought by the end of 30 I would have family and kids. But the future doesn’t always go the way you plan and expect it to be. I compromise that I at least do something for my career and securing my future, if I’m not having family that I wished. I think it’s important to look back in life and say I have done what I was able to do. And having kids/family is too dependent on many outside factors.