What It’s Like Being Childfree In My 40s

Looking at men: Nope. To much Drama Looking at mothers: Nope. Only misery

As I embark on the last year of my 30’s after a series of failed relationships and no children, I’m learning to just appreciate and accept my peace, and continue to live a healthy and comfortable life.

Everything you stated in this video is so true! I have family members who are jealous of my childfree status. I am just living my life and not worried about any of them!

I support child free women.

I am a Father and I definitely agree that people that don't have the temperament or want them definitely shouldn't have them. I am someone who is exceptionally patient just by personality. That has the raw materials to parent a child. Which is the one reason I decided to have my son, if I wasn't I would have chosen to be childfree. Even then, it's difficult for me...not to brag but for someone who's just a natural parent To me having a family is beautiful but there are multiple ways for people to live their life and fulfill those social needs. And it 100% takes sacrifice with no rewards, besides watching them grow up and enjoying their presence. I've talked to people who don't have kids, and I just really respect that. I always let them know I really respect their choice, that they recognized they don't have what it takes or the interest. Even though I'm a parent myself You also need to know what kind of a parent your coparent will be, and get the feel for it early on. My coparent just isn't someone that should've been a parent. A lot of people just don't have the self awareness to deal with their own stuff and break generational curses. Some people just have too much mental issues to cope, or just aren't cut out for it. My son has to deal with split parents now, which I'm sure he'll be okay anyway. But parenting should only be chosen if you really really want it. Because there will be many times even if you want to be a parent where you half wish you weren't- it's inevitable. Self care is key but then again it's just easier when you're childfree This was a really balanced take

I'm so glad you pointed out parents who can't accept their children are PEOPLE. If you can't handle your kid bring queer or disabled you shouldn't have any. The only kids I'll have in my life are teens that's need a place so they don't become homeless. But little kids? I cannot handle them. I genuinely think id do more harm than good. I do not have the patience for a child who is still trying to learn how to relate their emotions. I love that you prioritize the quality of life you could provide a kid. And you don't see yourself being able to provide what they need. So you're responsible!! I'm glad i listened to your video :)

My 30 year old sister just told me that she wishes she could go back in time and wait to have kids. She told me not to have kids anytime soon I’m 25. She called me lucky and said she’s jealous.

I'm heading towards divorce now, and two years ago, we were trying for a baby . I definitely would've been a single mother

Our lives as a lady that never wanted kids, couldn't have kids is ok. I totally respected having a child in marriage but marriage never happened. Why isn't this respected that "I don't have a husband"but Im willing to not get pregnant by men that have no feeling of obligation to take care of their kids. These people feel think the state and tax payers are willing to support your decision to have numerous kids by men that are unemployed and have no desire to help you raise their children. Children growing up (especially MALE children) with no father figure.

Can you do a video or live on southern women always thinking the best of men. I feel like a lot of southern women give men too much credit. Do you think they are honest when they say that or is it just a front?

17:28 I agree. Single parent families are NOT families. It never seems quite normal.