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I'm part of the older segment of your subscribers. I will tell you, my 20's were the most difficult years. As much as I would love to have my 20's body back, I would never, ever do that decade over again. It was wrought with the emotion and stress of learning and understanding my moral compass. I also questioned what I should be doing with my life and had moments where I felt like I wasn't doing enough. As other posters have said, how you're feeling is totally normal. I don't mean to diminish how you feel, but I just want to validate what you're experiencing. :)

If you let your lease lapses, put your stuff in storage and go home and relax a bit, then decide if you want to go back to LA or go somewhere else.

From someone who is turning 35 soon, it definitely gets better. My late 20s were some of the hardest and loneliest of my life so far. It’s a weird point in your life where you’re becoming an actual adult and you realize that friendships change or end. I reached a breaking point when I was 29 years old. I loved the job I had, but I was so lonely and unfulfilled. I started traveling and visiting different cities to see where I felt the best. I came to Denver and knew it was the place for me. I moved and met the love of my life 2 months later. 5 years from that, I am happier and more fulfilled and confident in who I am than I have ever been. Not that you need to meet a man or that is what is wrong. Just saying that if you are feeling unfulfilled where you are, change something. If that’s moving, do it. If it’s not, change something else. Don’t spend years, like I did, being lonely and sad. You can be happy, and you will be again. But you have to make the effort to do something about it. You could go to therapy if you don’t know what’s ailing you, and a therapist can help you figure it out. I did that as well after moving. It will be get better. I’m older than you but like watching your vlogs and videos as a video editor hobbyist. And you seem like a sweet girl. Keep your head up. It passes.

Hi Shelby, the 20s, particularly the late 20s is a difficult passage for everyone. As you point out, it’s temporary, but it is difficult when you’re going through it. I would just like to share with you three books that have made a big difference in my life. “Man’s Search for Meaning“, by Viktor Frankl “The Road Less Traveled“ by M. Scott Peck, M.D. And “Feeling Good“ by Dr. David Burns. These books offered a profound help in my journey. I’m older, and I’m drawn to your videos because they offer an insight into a younger perspective that one tends to forget. I came across you as the result of your Tesla review. I own a Model3 and I’m obsessed with Tesla :-) I wish you well in getting through this difficult time. Just remember, the haters are gonna hate, but the others are going to love. My suggestion is to pay attention to the latter!

Honestly what I’ve learned from being burnt out is that to get better you need to do things to connect with yourself. For example, being outdoors and having a picnic at a park, biking, cooking, doing yoga, listening to podcasts/music. You need to refrain from using social media because otherwise you won’t be able to dissect why you’re feeling burnt out and how you can recover. Social media acts as a type of procrastination. So next time instead of going on your phone when you’re bored or feel off, do one of these things that you enjoy so you can connect with yourself and recover from being burnt out. Hope this helps anyone. 🙂

I feel the same Shelby! idk what it is but everything doesn’t really feel right. but I’m glad you were brave enough to share with us :’)

Lots of love to you Shelby ❤️ mental health first!

Could you rent a small Airbnb for a month to see how you like the living alone thing? It’s an extra expense but could be worth finding out if it’s your cup of tea or not.

I hate that you get bad comments . Your content including Monica’s has been the most pleasant to me personally. There’s a lot to learn from you and darling risk is one of them. You may never read this but you are appreciated, amazing, gorgeous and inspirational ❤️🙏🏽

so glad you talked about all of this so openly 💗💗💗

I feel like it’s this weird post Covid, not quite post Covid. This one hit hard. I love what I do (web and graphic design) but I hate it lately. Sending motivation vibes! 💕

It sucks that you say your vlog channel isn't the best for your health. I actually like your vlog channel more than your main channel and I think many people like me wouldn't mind if the vlog channel dipped in quality a bit or had shorter videos so it didn't have to take up such a toll on your schedule and health. (It is a vlog channel after all) But I will still support your main channel regardless! Hope all is good.

Shelby, you're basing your happiness on external factors. Where you live, moving to NYC, a new car. You need to find happiness from within. I felt the same way earlier this year and I read a book called "This Book Will Make You Dangerous" by Tripp Lanier. It breaks down why we feel unsatisfied with our lives and what we can do about.

We are in this collective depression/anxiety state lately. Many of us. Ironically, we always feel alone in this suffering, so thanks for speaking out!

I love how brave your generation (sorry, I'm old lol) is! Giving a name to your feelings, standing up for your mental health, having open and honest communication! I am so impressed and have learned SO MUCH from you and your videos. Thank you so much :-)

I missed your vlogs this past month!! Do whatever makes you happy though, any content I get from you I love :) I’ve also felt this way this lately, completely get it

I loved this video. You are so not alone. I’m so sorry the mean, jealous, jerks in the comments affected you in any way. You raise great points about money and success not leading to happiness. It sounds understandable on paper but for many of us we have to experience it first hand. My only advice is to try doing more little - or big things- for others. Whether it means helping the poor, or kids, or adults with things you can do easily. A friend of mine volunteers at a DTLA soup kitchen (he ended up meeting who would end up being his wife there). Other people I know go to food banks and drive around LA giving food to ppl in tents. Others volunteer teaching kids how to write well. You are a very very good video editor. Maybe even if you taught a city college class or a UCLA extension class where you focus on how you can help wanna be youtubers figure out final cut or how to set up shots, etc. You have a lot to give. You’re already doing it. Keep it up. One other thing I don’t see a lot of, but you do it a little. Youtubers sometimes interview each other. Just recently you turned us on to Cash Jordan. Maybe do more of that and talk about shared experiences with burnout, fame, money and mean comments. I’d love to see you and Emma Chamberlain or a carlife YouTuber chat just about YouTubing as meta as that might be. Anyways thanks for always being frank. Keep up the great work!

We have all been there.. some of us more than once. Times like these usually mean lots of change and a restart. It will be ok, I promise. Thinking of you!

If you’re feeling unfulfilled, you might consider volunteering/giving back in some way. It can be a really positive experience to step outside of yourself and focus on doing something positive for others/the world😊

I'm 46 and still don't have it figured out sometimes, things change and you have to figure out what's next. I went through a best friend breakup recently and it's really hard. I think 2020 changed things a lot and now we all have a new reality. Sending positive vibes and ehugs to you as you figure out what's next ❤️