David Brooks | How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen

"In every conversation respect is like air. When it's present nobody notices. When it's absent it's all anybody can think about." 👌

“A society that grows more sad is a society that grows more mean” That hits.

Imagine if in school they taught lectures like this; society would be much better, and we’d be learning actually USEFUL information.

“Each person is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to get to the bottom of.” Thank you David Brooks for my new mantra.

Oh man. Say what you will about wasting time on YouTube. This morning I woke up and thought, "I will not click on any video, I will not watch anything" and I failed to keep that promise to myself and I'm so glad I did because this is exactly what I needed today.

After watching this video, I went to the grocery store with the intention of looking at each person with love. The interactions I had with unknown people were extraordinary. So deeply satisfying.

“I’m not an exceptional person, but I am a grower”. Incredibly powerful and inspirational.

He had me in tears when he said to look in the eyes of the stranger and see God - which we all are - what a powerful loving being this man truly is.

When this beautiful soul was introduced as a former conservative columnist for the New York Times, I almost clicked away. His speech really showed me the way to question my bias toward conservatives. To regard everyone you meet with just and loving attention is what the world needs most right now. Thanks for opening my eyes and heart.

Respected, I am Ashraf Alam 70, Pakistan, Muslim, First introduced myself enabling to understand my thoughts. It's a wonderful presentation. Will read your book soon. You have discussed 2 words, Bonding and Bridging. You are very well aware about Psychological issues in West. The basic reason is they don't follow these words. Psychological diseases have only medical treatments on medication subsequently generating business for Pharma. If you visit Poorest Countries and then there Poorest neighbourhood. These people are enjoying and content in their lives. No Psychological issues because in all those places Bonding is primary life style. They know how to make Social Bridge also. In Italy Piazza was the same thing for public Gossiping and settlement of local issues. Identical approach is still exist in Asia and Africa. In your knowledge that Pope asked to make Bridges instead of Walls. If World Leaders understand these 2 words and start practicing in their life majority of disputes settle in hours. Congratulations for such a fantastic work. God Bless you and your family

As an introvert, I had never thought of myself as a diminisher because I don't regularly question other people and can often keep to myself. This has motivated me to make more of an effort to connect when in the company of others.

This is by far, the best YouTube video I’ve ever watched. Wisdom of an elder, a life changer, an elevator of consciousness.

He was so generous and didn't hold back for his knowledge from his book. Didn't even ask us to buy his book. What an amazing human being!

What a hopeful life story his is. Being a closed-off, unemotional person, and learning to change that well into adulthood. It should give us all hope.

“There will be no punishment here. You’ve just had an experience” hit me so hard for some reason and I almost bursted into tears. Overall a great life flipping thing to have listened to

I am 73. This is one of the most enlightening talks I have ever heard; I learned so much from it, things I wish I had known when I was 25, 20, 15..... And beyond that, what a wise, engaging, wonderful person this man is. I'm going to get his book immediately and recommend it to everyone I know. Sir, you brought me to tears of gratitude for life, as chaotic as mine has been, and the chances that I have left to see and be seen.

"Attention is a moral act." 💗 Love that! 💗Thank you! 💗

Nurse here. Leaving the profession soon because of what your sister in law claims. If I had to begin my career at this time, I wouldn’t last as long as I did. I used to like what I do, but there are many days when I go home just beat and so exhausted and I can’t imagine doing this for much longer. The few times when a pt thanks me, I actually have tears in my eyes.

Having lost a lover to suicide and recently my husband to cancer, (and getting sober), I realize that the only path for me now is in service to others. My losses are my strength and I have come to be more compassionate and understanding of human trammels, less judgmental and open-hearted. I can only help others who are troubled to help them find peace, and in that I find peace without pomp but with humility and grace. Everyone has human sadness and emototional turmoil deep inside, anyone who denies this is hiding and reactive with anger, resentment in self-protection when their best bet is to share. Not opening up to one another is a missed opportunity on any given day, moment.

This is the most uplifting talk I’ve ever heard. Parts of it broke me, especially about people that struggle with depression. I could listen to David Brooks for ever.