5 Mistakes I Made In My 20's That Led Me Exactly Where I'm Meant To Be

My biggest mistake was worrying too much about my future to the point where i was too distracted and unmotivated to focus on anything in the present

You should be proud of yourself. I am in my fifties with a family and grandkids I watch you thinking wow the kids these days have so many more opportunities than I did and look what they are doing. You are a success without a college degree and look what you have done. You and Shelby are intelligent young women making a living on your own. I absolutely love watching you both. Congratulations and keep moving forward.

My mistake would be not trying something because I was afraid people would judge me for it until I succeeded... when really I just needed to go for it

Community colleges are so underrated. Most of them have the same curriculums as the big universities (down to the same textbooks), the professors are physically there to teach (instead of letting the T.A.s teach because they are away writing a book or something), and the best part is that tuition is just a fraction of what you would pay anywhere else.

My experience: staying too long in a toxic workplace, thinking that I'm the problem and I'm not good enough. Value yourself, people. And don't let others take advantage of you.

My mistake/lesson I have learned is that you do NOT need to be friends with everyone. There are people I use to be friends with because it was convenient or because I felt like I had too even if they weren't the best person or were super negative. The older I have gotten the more I realized that the annoying statement " your vibe attracts your tribe" is so true. If you are a good positive person that is working hard and motivated, those types of people will come into your life and it's honestly life changing. I have realized that even people in our large friend group I do not need to be besties with, sure I will say hello, and wish nothing but the best for them, but I'm not friends with them, we don't hang out, or talk outside of group settings because they are toxic and negative and I realized that that is okay, and that I don't have to be friends with them just because it's what everyone else thinks I should do.

I feel like being the boss/owner/CEO or whatever is SO romanticized and over-hyped nowadays. When in reality being that person is unbelievably stressful and takes a toll on your personal life and other things.

First off, I met you a few weekends ago on a Saturday night at an outdoor bar in Seattle (not going to use the name for privacy if you go there frequently) and talked a bit about real estate and you’re truly so sweet. Also I think the idea of going to an elite college is one of the worst mistakes people make so I’m glad to hear you highlight this. I’d say hanging on to high school romantic relationships is another mistake, one I made myself

I love how you are so open about sharing your "failures". It makes you and your channel so much more valuable and real.

My mistake: letting people close to me influence my education/career path even though it came from love and the very best of intentions. At the time, pharmacy was supposed to be my career. I kinda wanted it but my family and close family friends wanted it more for me. Long story short, I flunked out after the 2nd year. I was saddled with tons of debt and now on a forgiveness plan. Even though I didn’t get a PharmD, I did get a Masters, in Biotechnology from John’s Hopkins; never would’ve dreamed I would have a degree from a highly prestigious college. I’m in my dream career now, it took 11 years of college, from UG to Pharmacy School to a Master’s program. I learned that, at the end of the day, it’s me who has to work and live my life. A lot of forgiveness came out of that, mostly forgiving myself for failing. God knew where I needed to be, and thank God!! I would’ve either been in the pandemic everyday or laid off.

Monica, I’ve been following you since you created your Millennial Life Crisis channel, and as a viewer it’s so awesome to see you becoming happier and more satisfied with your life. I’m so excited for you to have found your passions, and it’s so cool to watch someone reach a point where everything they’ve experienced clicks, and you find what genuinely inspires you💛

honey I LOVED THE GYMNASTICS CHANNEL, that was a vibe

Yes! I feel like society pushes everyone to be a leader when if you think about it wouldn't work if we were all leaders.

I always appreciate your honesty and self reflection, you are a fascinating person. My own mistakes were my first choices for a major in college (Poly Sci, then History) which gave me no satisfaction. It wasn't until my junior year that I took a drawing class as an elective that I discovered my passion. Years later I became a Art professor teaching drawing and photography. Ultimately a great choice.

My biggest mistakes are not knowing my own worth, letting people treat me poorly and making decisions based on what others definition of success rather than what I truly wanted. It wasn't until I was 29 that I finally quit a job I hated and grew my side business into full time. I've had alot of bumps along the way but now run my diy business part time and resell vintage items and flip furniture on the side. I've found its a great balance for me and keeps things interesting.

I love when Monica is herself without trying too hard. She has the cutest personality. Down-to-earth. Not pretentious, or gossipy.

About your 5th mistake I would like to say this: Years ago I was heartbroken and came across your YT video on a different channel, I believe it was titled heartbreak day 1? Anyway, you described how you were finally deciding to let someone go because you realized it was time to put yourself first. That inspired me to do it too. Then you released heartbreak 1 year later and I was SO excited to see how happy you were. Fast forward YEARS later and I still watch your videos because you seem like such a genuine person. It’s so comforting to know that there are people in their 20’s who are still trying to figure it out. So, thank you for oversharing ❤️

I really appreciate learning about your journey. Sometimes it seems like youtubers have it all figured out from day 1 and that's not typically the case. Love from your hometown, Seattle

Thank you, Monica for making video's discussing topics like this. They are much appreciated. You are wiser than your years, and you give good advice to your viewers of all ages. Keep up the good work.

Welcome back! It’s been about a month. Any video, from you, is better than no video at all.