How to meet your child's difficult behavior with compassion | Yvonne Newbold | TEDxNHS
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Published 2023-02-21
Yvonne Newbold was the mother of the child you were staring at. Her son has a profound intellectual disability and for many years his anxiety led behaviour resulted in many scenes like this...until she was taught to be a ninja parent. Yvonne MBE is the founder of Newbold Hope, a parent-led organisation which enables parents and professionals to develop the knowledge, skills, strategies and confidence to reduce anxiety-led difficult and dangerous behaviour in children with a disability or an additional need. Newbold Hope is inspired by Yvonne’s son, Toby, who has multiple disabilities and complex needs as well as a history of violent and challenging behaviour. Newbold Hope has developed from Yvonne’s “Bucket List”. On the day she was diagnosed with Stage 4 bilateral breast cancer with a very poor prognosis, she knew that there was one thing she’d like to do in whatever time she had left – to improve the quality of life for the next generation of children with disabilities and additional needs, as well as for their families.
@YvonneNewbold This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
All Comments (21)
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Yvonne's group, alongside the NVR parenting approach was transformative for us. She is a wonderfully compassionate and wise woman and I'm so glad she was able to do this talk and speak to nhs in the way x
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She’s so moving to me… to tears and more importantly to act accordingly should I ever find myself in the position of the observer. ☮️💜
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Definitely not judging people with kids making a scene anymore.
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thank you for sharing your experience and your love for your children especially the knowledge you learned from your hard experience.
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Amazing stuff! A relative I grew up with did many of the same things as little Toby (he suffered from a neurological condition and adhd) and it is truly the child that pays the price. They see all the awful expressions on the faces of everyone in the supermarket, and hear harsh disapproval while the “well-behaved” “sweet” etc child only sees smiles and hears words of adoration. How cruel.
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Gosh, don't we need more compassion?? What beautiful words of comfort. Yvonne's charity, Newbold Hope has helped us so very much.
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Regular people don't understand, don't have the experience to know that there are children who are not "regular". They see and hear and feel the world differently, they work harder in that confusion to make sense of it all, they need support and love and compassion and knowledgeable people to help them. I'm so glad you and Toby found those people. BUT the "regular" school and classroom situation is not the place for that, and unfortunately that's what I'm seeing more and more.
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Bravo Yvonne! 👏👏👏 finding you on Facebook was life changing for me and my family. 3 years on there are still challenges but the daily violence is a thing of the past. Changing my mindset and rising above the judgement of others (mainly professionals!) was key to reducing my daughter’s anxiety led behaviours. Your webinars, strategies and lived experience are invaluable and I’ll be eternally grateful. Thank you 🙏
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Thank you for the work you are doing to bring compassion led parenting to the forefront for children who need it most.
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Yvonne Newbold, you are an inspiration to many.
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As a Buddhist, I always practice compassionate love.
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Thank you for all the tireless work you do. You are so very appreciated by our community 🫶🏻
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Wow, what a patience
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Thanking you, more! I learned alot from your presentation and I am so glad that I stopped by and listened. May God bless you and your lovely family 💕🙏
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Always have compassionate and patience with Love towards your family and children show them that their important should never yell or hit them do it without yelling that way they know what they did wrong
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Yvonne, you are the best. Thank you for everything you've done for our family, x
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Remember you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens
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A fantastic Ted talk thankyou! Reading the comments you can tell who actually has experience and who just holds judgements about it. Thank you so much for all you have contributed with your life to families like mine xx
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Thank you!! Much love
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I remember my mother cried when she finally understood what I needed, and understood me as an autist, and realized everything she’d been doing wrong for so much of my life. Of course, even now, she’s still learning, but she also knows that there are always more things to learn.
