How to be confident without success: be your own prophet

If people need success in order to feel confident, and if confidence makes success much more likely, then how does anyone get confident to begin with? We all have to start somewhere, and the world doesn't wait until we're ready. In this episode, I share a mental hack to facilitate confident action before you have "a stack of proof." @AlexHormozi Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com/ Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com/ Orion's Theme: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrXBzQ2HDEQ Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com/ Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com/ GRE Bites: youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: youtube.com/channel/UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw/join Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com/ Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #confidence #success

It reminds me of a joke about how to host a party without spending a dime on food: just call everyone we're hosting a party but all we're missing is just one food item

"I might as well do it now before someone even stupider beats me to it" 😊

You don’t need the confidence to do the thing, you just need courage to do it and look like a fool - because you will. The paradox is that; when you do something out of your comfort zone and fail: you will still feel confident for putting yourself through it. The more you put yourself in uncomfortable situations, the more confident you will become

I found that instead of thinking in terms of confidence, it’s more effective to think in terms of duty. It doesn’t matter what you think you can or can’t do, focus on doing what you’re “supposed” to do, and doing the “right” thing. If you lack the skills to do something properly, then what you’re supposed to do is learn how to do it properly. Confidence is not something you should even be thinking about. True confidence is not worrying about confidence.

I'm a 40 year old entrepreneur and engineer. I cannot stress how correct he is here. Fantastic advice for young adults. Listen and take to heart.

This reminds me of a timeless and enigmatic quote that EVERYONE KNOWS! “Fake it till ya make it.”

I got out of bed today and successfully managed to walk to the bathroom, so I guess I'm on my way to becoming a marathon runner.

As my Father often told me as a youth, "experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." You learn as much from failure as you do from success.. sometimes more.

As Colonel George Clooney said to a young private asking how the Colonel became so confident (in Three Kings): "First you do the thing that scares you. The confidence comes later."

Confidence is being ok with yourself no matter the result. It is not knowing that you will succeed, it is knowing that even if you don’t, no matter the outcome, life will continue and everything will be fine.

George Clooney's character from Three Kings movie puts it best: "You get the courage of what you're afraid of doing after you do it, not before. It might not be Disney, but that's how it works."

I feel that there is a similarity between courage and confidence. And I couldn't agree more with this quote from Mandela: "The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear". In the end, whatever you feel doesn't matter, what counts is the action. As long as you act, people around you are going to perceive you as confident.

I desperately need this right now. My job and career aren't going well. I'm in love with a woman who wants nothing to do with me. I feel like I don't have many friends, I'm struggling to make more, and my future prospects in that regard are probably just going downhill. The solution to many of my problems are to take it in stride and be charismatic, in a good mood, convey confidence... but holy fuck am I struggling when I'm faced with failure and rejection in every direction. I just want to break down.

My take on confidence is this. By doing the right thing in life, according to your moral guidance builds confidence. Little by little these acts, as you review your life, prove to you the correct choice was made. This provides peace, and confidence is a natural byproduct

Aspirational confidence is not a lie. It's seeing a potential future and believing you can get there.

Confidence is not a prerequisite, but a byproduct of the things you do. Don't wait for confidence to pull things off, just do it for the sake of doing it. It is nothing more than a mere byproduct.

You’re amazing man, I’m a 20 yr old male and am so happy to be building myself up with content like yours, thank you Orion

Success is merely confirmation of confidence. Real Confidence is a fundamental and unwavering FAITH IN YOURSELF to overcome any adversity, to rise to any challenge, to always make a come-back when you fail, and to be forever TRIUMPHANT IN THE END !

I am mindblown of the idea that it is possible to create value by essentially borrowing other people's expectations. This makes me rethink that value must not objectively exist, but can transcend space and time within the realm of psychology.