6 Signs You’re Unintentionally Toxic, Not Malicious

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I hate that society makes us feel like there are “good people” and “toxic people”. All people have some toxic traits. This doesn’t make them a “bad” or “toxic” person. It just means they have stuff to work on.

"Ah, yes, my fear confirmed. I was looking for more reasons to hate myself" - all of us, probably

The "practical and realistic" part is so spot on That's exactly my excuse on pessimism

When you said being too sensitive can be toxic it definitely made me think of myself. Sometimes I need reassurance but every now and then I think I ask for too much reassurance… it’s good to be checked. Thanks Psych2Go! ❤️

This video basically describes my whole personality. 😥 I wish that I could do better, but I always seem to fall back down again. Thanks for the video Psych2Go.

6 Signs You're Unintentionally Toxic, Not Malicious 0:29 1) You make a lot more promises than you can keep. 1:17 2) You use pity to get the things you want. 2:05: 3) You’re defensive. 2:51 4) You’re overly sensitive. 3:45 5) You’re exceedingly pessimistic. 4:52 6) You rely on other people for validation. :)

I definitely feel like I've been unintentionally toxic. Adverse experiences suck, but it's not forever. Thank you, and I know I can make things better.

1 - 0:30 : Promises u can't keep 2 - 1:16 u use pitty to get what u want 3 - 2:06 u r defensive 4 - 2:48 u r overly sensitive 5 - 3:45 u r pessimistic 6 - 4:52 u rely on others for validation

I think I'm unintentionally toxic. I always need my friends validation for everything. I don't know how to ask for help, and I guilt trip them. Now that I think back on it, everytime I asked my parents for help they'd lash out due to my choice of timing. Friends would think I were to look more confident if I refused help and did everything myself. I always see the worst of things due to not getting much from people. I usually only receive bad news from family and friends. I don't have a shoulder to lean on, someone I can vent to. I'm overly sensitive. Everytime something harsh is thrown my way (friend or not) I take it literally, I can't seem to take jokes or anything. I associate my happiness with certain people, I cling to them for support and other unimportant things, I can't tell if they are uncomfortable or don't want the pressure of someone relying on them all the time. I know that I'm toxic, even if it's unintentional. I care for my family and friends but I don't know how to show it. I make jokes at the worst times and nobody takes me literally. That's my Story/Situation Thank's for coming to my TedTalk. [EDIT] Thank you for the support guys.

I definitely feel like i am unintentionally toxic sometimes but there’s like two sides to me and it’s so frustrating 😭

I feel like a major part of social anxiety and abandonment trauma is believing yourself to be toxic when you actually just want to take normal liberties with people. Like, I never arrange to hang out with people I really like because I see that as being “toxic, co-dependent, cluster B behavior.” I guess what I’m trying to say that our fear of being cluster B makes us look like we’re cluster A.

Kind of needed to hear this. I lost a friend few months ago and I blamed myself for it even though I didn't fully know the reason. I already knew I wasn't being a good friend but didnt know how it all went wrong. I am doing better now and I am actively trying to better myself.

I try not to depend on people for validation, but it's hard. I feel like I can't trust my own judgment or that I just need to make sure people aren't annoyed with me to the point I think I'm actually annoying them. My grandma told me overly apologizing for every little thing actually makes me annoying, not the fact I was having a good time talking.

I feel like we're all toxic in our own ways, but that's ok. We aren't perfect, but we can try to fix our negatives and become a better person.

“Try to run words through your head before you say them out loud.” That’s me! Always self-censoring until things herniate out strangely from the pressure of keeping them in.

I do wonder about the "too sensitive" part - of course one shouldn't take everything to heart, yet I think many people are not sensitive enough . In a world when unnecessary brovado and risks, toughness, numbness of emotions are praised, there should be place for consideration, graciousness and compassion, going the extra mile sometimes for someone who needs it.

I appreciate the use of Adventure Time characters, because that show LOVES to talk about feelings and interpersonal relationships. Every single one of them, including the good guys like Finn, is occasionally balls to the wall toxic, but, as this video is intended to help people do, they acknowledge their faults and their actions, and start to grow past them, and it's kind of the whole point of the show. I am definitely the pessimistic type. Way I see it, I'm either right and prepared, or pleasantly surprised, but I do try not to let that leak all over everyone else.

I can definitely say I can relate to being too pessimistic, especially the compliment situation. I was very much unpopular in school and while I certainly don't think I was bullied, I received many false compliments and it just became a habit to not believe anything nice people say about me or the things I do. My immediate thought was always "is this a sarcastic compliment?" It took me years to accept compliments about my fashion choices, artwork, and music, but I still can't seem to get past compliments directed towards myself. I'm much more ready to accept "you sing really well" or "this piece looks amazing" than "you look great" and it's kind of frustrating because sometimes my responses can sound really ungrateful and even rude without this context.

Man I feel attacked, the last three points hit home. I realized how insecure I was and troubled by other peoples opinions of me. I was so concerned about what others thought of me and needed validation from it. I notice I often send photos of my paintings to people, seeking out a positive reaction to it. Because I needed validation that it was good, even though I knew it was good in my eyes. I think this stems from my Anxiety however, seeing that I’m constantly stressed with what I look like, how I act, etc. this is what led me to this video, I was just asking myself if I was toxic because of the way that I am and clicked this video. So honestly, I don’t know if I’m toxic or if it’s just the Anxiety 🤷‍♀️