They’ve Pulled Away?? AVOID THIS MISTAKE

Best advice is to walk away. Anyone who is consistently pulling away from you is no longer interested. Plain and simple. Move on, live your life, save yourself the heartache

I’ve found so much freedom in letting people go when they are making it clear they are not interested. I no longer go through the “what’s wrong with me?” “What did I do wrong?” “I’ll never find love” “how do I win back their attention?” I know I’m good enough and I only want a person that believes that! If someone makes me at all feel like I’m not enough, I’m happy to move on while my self-esteem and self-worth is still intact.

It's what abandonment does to you. Makes you feel like love is something to be earned or chased and it's really hard on your self worth. I know it's hard, but let's go chase self love instead ❤

Attention is not intention…powerful

He didn't PULL away...he was NEVER present. Stop INVESTING in Men who aren't investing in you.

If I sense someone is pulling away, I just let them go. It can be hard and painful initially but it's quicker to understand that you deserve better and will help meet someone who could be a potential partner

Dating is so tough these days, there’s way too many options for everyone. And most of them take on those options instead of getting to know one person.😢🤷‍♀️

I give up. I meet someone I really connect with every few years and EVERY TIME they rush in with so much and everything is really great and then they disappear after a month or two. I refuse to do this again.

It’s not him she’s chasing after, it’s the feeling. Textbook transference and Limerence.

If you put someone on a pedestal you give them all the control, so without being selfish, value yourself. Any relationship should be mutual and a two way street, it’s all about give and take, without that it’s just one sided.

And this is why I don’t jump into bed with guys who aren’t serious about me. No more of this ‘sex on the third date’ that they haven’t earned whatsoever. Hookup culture is wayyyy too empty for me.

For all this trouble, I rather be alone. Love myself and use all that energy just on me instead of playing dating games. People just can’t be themselves anymore.

The fact that love and dating works like that is just terrible. All this "oh you giving so much so easily, therefore it's not valuable" BS, I just hate it. But I have learned and whenever people pull away or don't invest as much as I do, I just let it be because it means they are not the person you thought they are or at least they are not feeling the way you thought they are.

One of the best advices i received ever was , " We cant make other people feel like us , behave like us , think like us , have same emotions and heart like us , so dont try change and undertand the others , instead understand your self and make the best of every situation". With this advice in my mind i helped a lot myself and I did my best in every situation as a result to feel more confident and on right path. If I did smth "wrong" I was happy because ive learnt smth and we are all humans so this is smth natural.

Yup. If you give too much of your attention and time and get not much of the same back then you need to evaluate your relationship with that person.

If they have pulled away, just let them go. Know your own worth.

Attention is not intention! Yes Matthew spot on! I've learned to just enjoy, invest in my life and let things unfold organically. Life changing and freeing!🎉

There are some great points here. Can’t help but notice relationships are way too complex to compromise your self worth.

Im impressed how spot on this guy is. I made all these mistakes and lost a great person. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t done it but life is about falling and learning from that fall. Thank you for the free knowledge

I totally agree! I learned through dating that just because may find you attractive for a time it doesn’t mean that he’s the right person or that he’ll commit to you and love you.