The ultimate FUTURE FAKE

When I had a total hip replacement my narc husband was no help. My daughter walked in and saw him eating dinner on tray in his chair and me sitting with nothing two days after surgery. She brought be a tray. I knew then. 4 more years passed. Another hip replacement and then knee replacement. Head on collision. Then breast cancer. THEN I learned about narcissism. Watched every video and read everything I could. He’s 73. I’m 67. 2 months ago after him raging about me visiting my granddaughters I exploded. I said he was a nasty fragile narcissist that acts like a three year old and I was done. He jumped in truck and went to his sister’s house—his main supply. Tried to come back 3 weeks later and go back to the way it was. I said No I cannot ever do that. So it’s been almost 8 weeks and it is heaven. Stress free to be me. Thank you for all your videos. I have learned so much and understand I would have died if we stayed together.

I was NOT going to take care of someone that never took care of me. One of the laundry list of reasons why I left. edited ESCAPED.

3 years now...he has been holding me with promises.. A job... Vacations.. Excursions.. When I Said NO to something he wanted..he punished me by giving all these to another woman Later on...he thought he hadn't done anything wrong!!!! I went no contact and he played his last card...by proposing me Of course I denied.. If he can't keep small promises...imagine the big ones.. Still...in his sick mind believes he was a gentleman They are sick people They need help, but by not admitting it...they destroy the others

I am divorced for 22 years thank God but some years before that, I had cancer....He didn't help me at all.....He dragged his body looking sad and wanting everybody to feel sorry for him.....I had to take care of my children and him my parents....As for me and my health....God protected me.....

Painful radical acceptance... realizing my life was ticking by and the misery with him would only continue until my life was over. I finally realized I felt I would rather be alone on my deathbed than to have him there with me. Hit me like a ton of bricks! I got out from under his dark cloud, got a job, and I bought a motorhome to live in with my furbabies... never again will I waste my life with his kind!! Thank you, Dr. Ramani... your videos have helped give me a life worth living!!

I left almost 2 yrs ago after 33 yrs of marriage. 2 days before I left he made it plain that he would not be there for me if anything, and I mean ANYTHING, happened to me. He said that if I had a heart attack right in front of him, he would probably piss on me. He claimed that I had NEVER been there for him, which is a total lie of course. In my mind, that was the final straw along with him threatening to ruin our daughter’s upcoming wedding by destroying all the decorations that I had made for her reception. I knew at that moment that I had to get out if I was going to have a future. All these people care about is their own needs and wants. AND….btw, finding and listening to Dr Ramani starting in 2020, gave me the understanding and courage to leave. Thank you ❤

My Narc husband sat in the doctors office as she showed us both the xray of my hip. He heard her saying i needed a hip replacement. He claims he didnt know i had a bad hip. He raged at me and pushed backwards onto the ground and i landed on my back and hip. I went to the police. He went to jail. Now hes telling my son and daughter in law he lost his best friend and the person he was supposed tp grow old with. Im having my hip surgery soon but will recover near my friends and family.

He actually endangered my life. Got dx with cancer. Had abdominal surgery and was unable to care for myself. He actually abandoned me for the golf course on day 4 of a serious two month recovery. Couldn’t feed myself or even remember to drink water. Tried to do it though and almost caught the house on fire. He still doesn’t think he did anything wrong. THAT was the final straw for me. Am in the process of leaving now that I have gotten the “all clear” from my doctors.

My mom was a tough cookie. She passed before my narc father. She volunteered at the court house her last 15 years helping those who were dealing with domestic violence. Married over 50 years. After her death narc dad started dating the lady next door within a month after mom’s death. Then he went into another relationship then the third lady all seniors stayed with him for about 10 years. While he slowly passed away. He had quit his pills and actually starved himself to death. His last of controlling everything including his death. He had the on start of dementia.during his passing he let me know this lady who was taking care of him and was with him for his last 10 years told me him and her had nothing in common. I realize now she was nothing but supply to him. The narc appreciates no one ..

Yes! It was almost 40 years for me! I am now three months out with no contact, I can tell you it is hard, but I have my freedom which is so, so ,so much worth it!

I’m so done with future faking I want to scream this is so evil 😢

Narcissistic future faking is like binge watching your favorite show until it gets canceled before the finale.

I get great anxiety when I hear “you yourself going to get old one day ya know”. these ppl dont have a f-ing clue what hell ive been through with these ppl to only be told the table gonna turn so be careful😓

"TO THE BITTER END" (I don't think so, the last person you want by your bedside when you're checking out is the one who tortured you. I wouldn't want her face and voice to be like last thing I see and hear before I go.) Does not apply, when you're in a relationship with a narcissist. Don't be a FOOL, GET OUT, AS FAST AS POSSIBLE!

Ex told me he wants to ride into the sunset together with me ... but I decided to go by my own😊.

My late husband wouldn't even go buy milk if he was out and about and it was for him! I didn't drink milk. I didn't know what narcissism was for years after he died until I was telling a friend about one of the hateful things my husband had done. My friend had seen Dr Ramani and suggested I watch her and it has helped me immensely with my long term rumination. Life is good.

Great topic Dr Ramani! You make important points. I’d been controlled by a narc, & trying to “keep the peace”, for about 20 yrs before finding info on YT, & then figuring it out. Why kid myself? If a narc is displaying all the typical behaviors now, (gaslighting, love bombing, ghosting, etc) why would it change down the road?

I met Mr. Narcissist when I was newly widowed (age 61) - he discarded me at age 74. I regret losing all those years...but I'm free now!

Man I really needed to hear this. I've been the stay home Dad for 3 years and she has made it hell, from financial , mental and emotional abuse. This subject doesn't get talked about enough for men. Thank you very much for your insight.

❤ DR, watching You on the big screen from Jail was like a vacation, I love you.J3