Understanding The Anxious Attachment Style

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I was never the anxious one in my relationships until I met my wife. She is very independent and become moreso as time went on. In all my other relationships, there was reciprocation and I was never anxious about my needs being met. But in my marriage, my needs began to suffer so it made me anxious, while my wife pulled away. I even had some previous relationships where I was the avoidant one and wanted more independence. It's not so much about your "attachment style". You can embody different attachment styles in different relationships. It's about your needs not being met. Everyone has needs. And if they're not met, then the relationship will dissolve or infidelity will occur. The avoidant "more independent" partner is the one who seeks more autonomy, because they don't share the same needs the anxious partner does. If someone is not getting their emotional needs met by an avoidant person, they are going to get anxious. Even an avoidant person will get anxious if their partner is even more avoidant than they are. So it's not really about attachment style. It's about meeting each other's needs. That's what committed relationships are for, and that's what makes them so special. If you find yourself the anxious one in your relationship, you don't need therapy.. You simply need to get your needs met so that you feel secure. And if your lover is an avoidant one, then they need to stop prioritizing theur autonomy and you both need to creatively out your heads together to meet each other's needs. BUT (and this is very important) you have to make sure that in order to get your needs met, you are not causing the other person to suffer. So if you have a need for sex, for example.. And the other partner doesn't.. What needs to happen is you need to have more sex, but creatively figure out a way to make the sex incredibly fun, easy, and effortless for the avoidant partner who doesn't need sex. That way they're not sacrificing to meet your needs. This is just one example, but all relationships are meant to be a safe place where we have no fear of our needs being met. If you find you're the anxious one in your relationship, it's not because you're broken. It's because you have unmet needs. If you find you're the avoidant one, you're not broken either. You just have to pay more attention to your anxious partner until stability is established.

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