DO YOU PUT SOMEONE ON A PEDESTAL?

"While you look up at them, they look down on you."🔥🔥🔥 Ooooo this was so goood Dee!

This video I think sums up my entire life story. I always believed in putting others needs BEFORE my own but felt that I was brought up and obligated to put others needs INSTEAD of my own. Big difference there. I’ve spent almost 50 years of my entire life doing this and bending over backwards and basically being a die hard people pleaser and for what? For it to come back and bite me in the 🍑. It sucks when kindness is misconstrued for weakness. I’ve learned the hard way that nobody cares about me and I need to do what makes me happy and feel good. You have to look after yourself because nobody else will. Say NO when it’s necessary. There is definitely no guarantee that the ones you love will love you back. I still try to put kindness first and foremost but it is about setting boundaries and it’s definitely not easy. Great video Dee. As always, they are always eye openers for me. Look forward to your next video. Take care and stay blessed.

I was in 2 marriages like that. It was devastatingly painful to get out and be happy and fulfilled all by myself. Then soon after I met my soul mate, which I had believed that label was a figment of people's imagination. I never wanted another relationship, swore I would never marry again and give of myself like that. But when you become a whole person on your own 2 feet, you find that people are attracted to you because they value who you are and not what they can get out of you. It's quite difficult to go through growing pains later in life that should have been accomplished as a young adult. Despite this, hold onto the prize you will accomplish transforming your life on your own. Have faith because you will succeed, very painful at first, but it will pass quicker than you think. You will be on the road to recovery which is envigorating, satisfying, and fills your heart full of love and peace❣️✝️🙏

Wonderful, thank you Dee for helping us so much, I have knocked down the pedestal to never put anyone on it again, we are all in the same level now, thank you again Dee, sending love and light. ❤❤❤

Thank you so much for reading my poem. Watching this video brought tears to my eyes as well as a smile to my face. I want you to know that you may have just changed my life, I might finally take the step I've needed for so long. Have a wonderful day, Dee. 🩷

We are All Saved by Gods Grace. It is nothing we do. No one belongs on any pedestal. 😊❤

Thank you, Dee! I have a neighbor who I've put on a pedestal who is not being so nice to me today. (pouring water on my house to be nasty to me) This helps takes him down from that pedestal!! ♥

I sat down to watch Dee this morning having spent most of yesterday afternoon and evening pushing back once again against someone whose expectations of my co-dependent people-pleasing self had seen me sacrificing my time, energy, and money to make them happy and keep their tantrums at bay - their demanding behaviour incidentally has continued through my surgery, chemo, and radiotherapy for breast cancer. My head has known for a long time that I had to stop enabling them but after listening to Dee read this poem my heart now knows it too. Every word of it rang true for me. Enough is enough.

greetings, i found this channel yesterday. i am 18 year old and i had very much toxic past. i was abused in every possible way. i put in pedestal a lot of people. i forget about who i am the last person who was my “everything” was my partner who also abused me for everything what i can even do. my “friends”, people who “loved” me. they was the last person people says that i’m mature for my age. too much. but only right now i start to understand what means to come in adult life. you never should give up on your dreams. you need a balance. but still, it hurts i am glad that i found your channel. if i had someone like you before, i think i could be fully different person. today i have strong depression and bad bad thoughts but you make me to feel a bit better after this video thank you for this. i am just sad that we have so much toxicity in this planet and that some of us can suffer and never found a exit this video just made me to lay down, to put a letter to myself, to write to my friends and say to this “partner” that i had enough and i don’t want to see them. i don’t know what will happen to me next. my future also…is not what i wanted but i will come here to watch more videos. it is some kind of place of comfort where you feel loved even a bit have a good day! thanks for this video

That poem touched me so deeply, I started bawling on my morning walk with my dog…sadly, I can relate but I am so grateful to have this brought to my attention and with such grace…by a beautiful poem. Thank you “Magnolia” and Dee ♥️

You reminded me of my geography teacher in the 90's and then you said you were a geographer :)

It would really help a lot if she spoke on her personal experiences and what we can learn from them.

i love dee with all my heart

Its such a shock when you realise your love ,admiration encouragement was meaningless to them . My son is definitely not the hero i believed he was .

your channel is really helping me with grief, just wanted to let you know how much you help others , thanks Dee

A thought provoking poem.If you are the one running ragged on the hamster wheel, then it’s time to jump off,scurry away to save your sore paws….then let it be. (Sorry for rambling)Thank you lovely Dee 🌼🐝🌼x

Morning Dee. Been there, done that. No more. Nowadays, if you like me, great! If you don't, that's also fine. Don't sweat it. Just let it. Beautiful sunny day in Newgale ❤❤❤

Thank you for reading this lovely poem. ❤ I will be knocking down some pedestals this week. 😢

Hi Dee, wonderful poem, thank you. I could really relate to that way of thinking. These days I'm a lot older and wiser(I think! 😄) and now when someone tries to peer and sneer at me from their self acclaimed pedestal I just look up, smile, wave and walk on👋😊 Michelle x

The let them video was life changing and this addition 😮 thank you so much for the poem!