Psychological effects of being gaslighted

People who say you can't blame someone else for your failures, have never been through gaslighting from narcissistic abuse.

Continuous gaslighting makes us foggy brained, develop ocd, adhd over time. All our senses get numb.

It's really hard to live in the moment, you're constantly living in the past and worried about the future.

Until you fully understand what is happening to you, gaslighting is such an abusive tactic. The frustration dealing with a gaslighter not only affects your psychological health but physical health as well.

The reason I’m learning to accept solitude.

I refer to the narcissistic tactic of gaslighting “psychological warfare “!😢

lying.. cheating.... also sadly stealing. saddest thing I heard was, "they simply do not care."

I’m 60 and on the other side. At 59 I went no contact with my mother and her main flying monkey my sister. The highlights were panic attacks that landed me with a psychiatrist diagnosed - free floating anxiety with secondary ocd and secondary anorexia. I almost died all while keeping a marriage intact and raising two boys all the while being threatened by my mother that I better not dare blame my parents for being sick. Oh and I had already been diagnosed five years before with multiple sclerosis. Today I am 60+ have a strong 39 year marriage, two daughters in law who text me first and a beautiful granddaughter. Everyday I have to remind myself it’s my job to be healthy it’s not my job to try and get anybody else healthy.

my mother and ex husband literally tore apart my family.....you can't understand unless you have been subjected/trapped in and by these evil people.

If I said the sky was blue but someone else said no, it is green. They would never get me to agree with them but I would spend a tremendous amount of time thinking about it.

You have a greater chance to succeed in life, when you're raised by healthy parents. When you start going to school you'll be better equipped to handle toxic people.

We just need to step back and realize that gaslighters are liars. It really is as simple as that. Do you trust a liar? No, because they've given you no reason to believe them. Do you waste your energy arguing with a liar? No, because you know that all they'll do is lie. Do you devote your life to try changing a liar into someone honest and worst being in relationship with? No you do not. We're stupefied by how simple it really is.

The cognitive dissonance is a nasty form of child abuse that makes a child seem like a slow learner in my experience as a teacher. Being patient and believing in the underlying abilities of victims of gaslighting is a huge help to allow someone to reach their potential, I believe.

So true. Gaslighting cause me to doubt my sanity, distrusting my ability to mentally form a cognitive thought and subsequently adapting obsessive compulsive traits. I'm 25 years after divorce. I'm so grateful to live without the mental chaos of gaslighting and it's related self-doubt.

37 and I basically gave up on me in childhood. Autoimmune, anxiety, panic, not able to function in my day to day, never used my degrees, and married yet another narcissist. I'm out now and working on healing, but I just learned to blame myself for not being enough, not being loveable, being a POS. So so so hard

I dont care anymore..to keep me sane..i do ME!

Absolutely. I spend a ridiculous amount of time rehashing conversations. I can’t believe she said that… she’s said that a million times… it’s gotten so bad that I was getting medicated for it. My narcissist has end-stage cancer and the knob is on 11. There’s an end in sight. Now I’m starting to wonder what I’ll do with all my free time!

When you are gaslighted, there is no GPS in the world that can help you navigate your way back to reality.

The bigger, vague, but very powerful gaslight that actually sunk my ship..."Everyone Agrees With Your Mother." It didn't matter that her world was unreal and sort of insane...they had adopted, so Mom had to be some kind of Saint; and everyone agreed that I had to show gratitude and submit to all. I knew darned well it was unreal and insane, I knew it was all gaslight and future faking. But the BIG gaslight was, the Rest of The World coerced me into it. I knew it was insane, and I made all my coping devices and skills stretch for as along and as far as I could. There were times in my life when I wondered if I was the only sane person in a sea of idiots, thugs and despots. Family is the worst.

Yes, yes and yes... It is exhausting and emotionally draining