Lonely? No Friends? 2 Year Update

I get this. To be honest I don’t even know how to be a friend anymore. How do I move from “acquaintance” to “friend”? How often do friends call each other? Can you just drop in on a friend? How do you know if that is ok? How do you know if you are bombarding someone with your energy? It’s sad really. I just don’t know anymore.

Crazy relatable man. Especially when everyone around you see to be settling down. Have to commit to getting out there and being social. Video games and alcohol are poison man. I say this because those are my go to activities to hide the loneliness. They don't change your situation. Chin up man. I'm going through the same shit and it seems like others here in the comments are as well. We'll keep doing our best 🤘

Thanks for sharing. As someone who moved out of US at 23 and built a teaching career in Hong Kong, even more lonely at 35. Wish there was a community where women who are single don’t feel so…left behind.

Yo man, I feel you… I feel the same. We grew up around family and friends all the time, camping, camp fires having a few drinks, having braais (barbecues) every weekend then as you get older people move on, I don’t see family anymore. Friends move on and get wed. I also feel lonely man but just have to keep getting out there.

Respect for sharing brother

Hearing you and how loneliness affects you, i can’t help but relate because that’s the exact feeling. With lack of connection it’s easy to lose motivation to go out or do anything out of the norm, even following certain dreams or passions. Over the last year I’ve lost most passion doing things I’ve loved doing my whole life and I’m scared because i don’t know how long i can truly endure, but knowing I’m not alone, makes a difference. Thank you for your courage.

I’m in the same boat. I’m 33 years old and I feel so lonely! Like I can’t connect with people

I just watched you first video about loneliness because I am dealing with the same in my 30's and I'm glad I found your channel. It, somehow, makes me feel not so alone in this journey. I wished we could be friends. Thank you for sharing.

I've got social anxiety and I tend to get lonely and depressed. It has been years and now, I'm trying to better myself by finally going out. I recently joined photography groups and started doing BJJ (still anxious whenever I go). Wanting to quit but forcing myself not to. Thanks for sharing your journey and your thoughts .

I'd love it if you did updates on how the trip affects you. Not just when you come back, but during the trip. It would be really cool to see the ups, the downs and the middles. As someone who is thinking about moving for the longest time, I feel like it would be invaluable. Thanks for still sharing and I wish you the best of trips!

I can relate to what you are saying! I am about your age. since 2018 I have tried alot of different things to improve my life and make myself feel better. I’ve tried all the fitness stuff, the eating healthy, the super foods/vits, I went to collage to learn painting, drawing and Spanish. I’ve done volunteering as a mentor, I travelled, learned to scuba, faced my fear of heights by sky diving, bought and renovated my house and started business, gave up smoking and drinking among many other things, but I am still lonely and more recluse than ever! I wouldn’t say all those things haven’t worked, but I am yet to achieve the goal of not being alone. I know I will achieve it one day and due to all the work I have put in I will be my best self when I do. I still have to make more effort like you are but I also have to be patient. I wish you luck and I hope you find what it is that you need👊🏻

I'm the exact same with the supplements and blood tests thing. It's almost like I'm looking for a reason to why I'm not great socially, when in reality, exposure and getting out my comfort zone is what's needed 👍🏼 Keep posting

Thanks for posting this and your last video! Thanks for sharing and I hope some new adventures crop up in the future for you. It almost seems taboo to say you're/we're lonely these days, so many FB groups desperately make it out to be 100% amazeballs, which I always think is odd. Loneliness isn't some blanket emotion for secluded saddos (which society I think errs on assuming), it's often something that comes and goes, even to busy/popular people at times. It's also not something people can solve just be mastering hobbies or becoming more outgoing or embracing being alone (which is a particularly weird type of toxic positivity as it's trying to force yourself to appreciate being alone), that's not how it works. It's a dynamic situation and series of emotions, different to each person. Like, you can be happy doing you're own thing for ages and then feel lonely if you've made a great meal but there's no one else to appreciate it or make it for. It can be a fleeting emotion or be something felt all the time.

Truly inspiring! I wish I could leave my country too since it makes me so depressed but I'm too scared to do anything about it. Kudos to you for being so brave! 👏

Keep us updated. And do the traveling. Open up a blank, new page in your life and become the person you always wanted to be. I wish you peace.

Don’t judge yourself so hard man, you are not alone in this struggle. Definitely can relate to you, keep trying out stuff

It's time to go on an adventure. Get out of your comfort zone and integrate elements of what you repressed into your shadow back into your ego. I am of similar age (32) and also dread growing up and growing old. The social contacts disappear, there's less impromptu meetings and it's a lot harder to make new friends. Such is the journey of life. One must tackle it head on to fly and not regress back into the nest. I don't know if your GF is coming with you but GL on this new endeavour!

Thanks so much for sharing. Really resonate with the issue of wanting to isolate more because of social anxiety and that vicious circle. Hearing you share your story has been really helpful for me, and I really wish the best for you, and hope this situation is just for now for us.

Thank you for posting an update. Its almost bitter sweet to see its not only my feeling of being ill, its whole a lot of us.

Thank you so much for your videos! I love the simplicity and rawness of them and can relate to pretty much everything you say on the emotional level. Wish you all the best for Canada! I've spent a year there plus several shorter trips and would love to live there permanently, but unfortunately didn't get permanent residency. Nowhere else did I feel so welcome and understood, even though the year I spent there was one of the most difficult and dark in my life mentally speaking. So I hope you find some great connections as well and experience less loneliness <3