Jordan Peterson ~ Never Ignore Small Signs Of Coming Betrayal

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The worst thing I found about betrayal is you lose trust in your own judgment.

The worst thing about betrayal is that it's never from the enemy.

When your spouse betrays you, the marriage is gone no matter if you forgive them. You no longer feel close to them because they didn't care if you got hurt; you are now alone. They wanted what they wanted when they wanted it, and they figure you would just have to get over it. That is true betrayal. Betrayal is a death.

Trust your gut. Don't allow someone to erode your boundaries through manipulation and coercion. You'll know when this happens because you'll feel compromised, and possibly dissociated.

Never ignore when someones actions indicate a lack of loyalty to you.

The best revenge when someone steals your girlfriend is let them keep her.

Betrayal is the most hurtful known act i can think of. It hardens your heart, takes away the things you used to enjoy in life. I was betrayed by the people closest to me, and i felt so much anger for so long. Hardens your heart. Im still learning to live with it.

The best way to tell how someone feels towards you is to tell them something great that happened to you...

When in doubt, get out. You're not going to change anyone. All you do is teach a liar to hide their lies better.

I have learned in my 60 years on the planet that the saying 'The end is in the beginning' is completely true. A small something that's 'off' or done very early in a relationship bodes to something similar but far, far bigger being done later on. I don't use this instinct to dislike people just to know that a particular person is not for me. Every single time I have ignored a small red flag it led to whoppers that cracked me over the head. Be careful what you get used to........

Never let someone become your everything. Never put them above yourself . People on pedestals are likely to fall off and when they do it’s you that will get flattened.

I recently broke up with my girl because she wouldn’t let go of her flirty male friend. I don’t invest in liabilities so I just cut her off. Words mean nothing, actions are much more significant. Trust is earned, it’s not a given. Don’t ignore the signs, don’t accumulate the errors. You’ll save yourself a lot of wasted time. It ain’t easy but stand firm in your convictions. Keep your dignity and reserve your love for those who are willing to serve you, not their desires.

What ive learned in relationships whenever you feel the need to explain to someone what they are doing is wrong its already over. You just dont know it yet.

When we look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags. - Wanda

As someone who’s been cheated on, the whole slightly flirting, going out more, new clothes, etc,., is right on the money. I used to bring it up with her when it happened and it would always lead to a fight and her gaslighting me and making me look like the obsessive/paranoid boyfriend. Looking back, I don’t even know why I put up with it. If any woman tried that on me now, I wouldn’t want anything to do with her. If you’re going through this just know they will never admit the truth to you so if your gut is telling you something, listen to it. Thankfully, being cheated on didn’t effect me one bit. I know I was a great bf and had much better relationships with much better women afterwards. Just remember, it’s not a reflection of who you are as a person, but who they are. Some people are frankly just pos. Being in a toxic relationship was a good thing for me, I learned so much from it and I’m thankful for that.

"Be careful who you put your faith in. The only people who can betray us, are the ones we trust." - Maria, TLOU

Best advice my dad gave me. " Keep doing what your doing and you'll keep getting what your getting".

It's the cognitive dissonance of someone saying they love you, then covertly treating you with disrespect in barely detectable ways. It allows them plausible deniability, and you don't want to say anything for fear of "overreacting", and not allowing them to "be themselves". It's insidious, and I'm glad there are high profile people like Mr. Peterson out there corroborating the experience of those on the receiving end.

"It's not what you do in front of me, its what you do behind me."