How To Survive Living With An Alcoholic | Part 1: Trapped

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Its pure torcher living with an alcoholic!! I feel exhausted because I am chasing him to do the right thing.

I am living with an alcoholic husband for 30 years + . I am 60 years now . It is of and on . When he is not drinking I am in heaven but on the fear don’t know when he’ll get drunk, I never know.

My sister used to drive to a town every Sunday to buy alcohol for her alcoholic husband to keep him from driving the car. She was afraid he would wreck the car. So sad!

Wow! She hit the nail on the head. I’ve been dealing with my alcoholic husband for 7 years and I’m just now looking for help and calling Al-anon today.

Just perfect timing....ended the relationship yesterday after he shouted at me in front of his children..... Lucky escape.... Just said goodbye and off I went.... Thank God, we didn't get married...

You mean to tell me, it's taken me 37 years of dealing with this, to finally hear this!! I just never understood.... till now. Aloha from Hawaii 😢

My stepdad was an alcoholic. He would beat up my mom. We had a bad childhood. My mom never walked away. They never do. Fast forward years later: I got engaged to a woman that turned out to be an alcoholic. She hid it well during the early months of our relationship. We have a daughter now. But we had a lot of problems as she used to come home late, while I took care of our daughter. Lots of fights. I finally kicked her out of the house & started raising my daughter alone. She did not deserve all the fights. I do not want her to join that cycle. We agreed the child would visit her for weekends as we are now living in different towns. Last year 2017, she sent me a text saying the child would not be coming back. She would be living with her grandmother. Wow. Long story short: you cannot save alcoholics, get the hell out. Walk away. Do not subject your kids to a toxic alcohol life. No one deserves that shit.

I asked my husband to move out and find his own place a week and a half ago. I broke down this past Monday. I probably cried 20 times that day. I was deeply grieving the loss of my 8 year relationship with my sweet husband. I love him, but I choose to no longer betray myself to being second to his alcohol and video game addiction. Now that I have embraced the pain, talked to counselors, friends, and family, my mind has become more clear and I can see that this is the right choice. I feel peace. He is an amazing person, and would give the shirt off of his back to anyone. We have shared many great memories together, and that is what has made this difficult. But I remind myself, "Don't forget about the grief in transitions. Even when those transitions are objectively good, we're always leaving something behind. Be careful that you don't confuse your grief as an indicator that the transition is wrong."- Vienna Pharaon

I see a lot of women are commenting, but a woman drunk is terrible to live with

My husband has been drinking since around 2010, or 2012... not sure.. he only drinks beer, and at home.. so anywhere we go, he wants to hurry up and get home so he can drink.. he doesn't say that.. he says he's tired, or he has to work the next day.. I've tried to get him involved in things, and people, but he refuses.. he just wants to stay home and get drunk.. he doesn't drink and drive.. he gets his brother to bring him more beer.. it's always late at night, when he thinks I'm asleep.. but he's been seen.. he lies, and hides his beer.. We have started to grow apart.. I'm sitting here getting old, waiting for him to stop.. He probably won't.. and I've decided to leave.

you have just described my life for the past 2 years. I am officially living with an alcoholic and yes, I have been feeling so trapped and I just couldn't understand what was going on. Thank you for making this video, I think I now know what I need to do.

I have watched my boyfriend have s seizure from alcohol and he still drinks. I am so scared for his life but I think I have to walk away. But I love him and he's become my best friend. I know I'll miss him. I think about sharing things with him when something happens. I left my neglectful husband for him. I saw his alcohol issue about the 3rd day in. But he was in a really bad spot in his life so I chalked it up to that. But in the back of my mind I was scared that it was going to be a bad situation whether he was in a good spot or not. It has been over a year and I have been through scary times with him. I have tried to be supportive and I've also left several times. I moved into my own place so I had a safe place. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think about his alcoholism and the word "drunk" is permanently stuck in my vocabulary. I need the strength to leave and I don't know how. This is the first time I've lived on my own and despite 50/50 custody of my 2 kids, I still feel alone. I think the worst part is that when he's sober, he is my ideal partner and I've never felt more loved, safe, special, or connected with anyone. I hope these videos can help me because I can't keep doing this with him.

I married my husband in March, it has suddenly dawned on me that he has an alcohol problem. Thank you for these pointers. I definitely feel very trapped and angry right now.

I've been with my husband 25 years and I have become disabled due to spinal issues....I do receive disability but it's not enough to pay for me to get my own apartment....so, I am dependent upon him. His is a severe alcoholic and just received his 4th OWI but since it had been a number of years since he received his first 3 OWI'S, the court system starts counting over. He's become terrible and terrifying to deal with. He drinks vodka and I mean a LOT...not just a fifth....he'll drink a full handle in one day and become black out drunk. Our house has been destroyed due to his behavior while drinking. He's torn the shower out of the wall...that was 4 1/2 years ago and has never been fixed, he falls into closet doors so every closet door in my house is completely broken. I could go on forever. I don't know what to do....I have 2 puppers that I would never leave with him...they're my dogs. I don't where to turn, where to get help but somehow, I need to figure out how to get away from him.

Hi Rocco, I'm there with you, with a alcoholic wife, life is total hell, the verbal and fiscal.never ends and the blameshift is unreal.

I am living with an alcoholic husband for48 years & I am at my wits end I feel that I personally have changed in a negative way

My husband drinks more in secret.. hiding his bottles in the house... It has been hell and trying to make decisions

I absolutely love Grace, her extremely wise and steady advice give me sanity and hope.

I watched this whole series yesterday and I'm watching it again today. Thank you so much, Grace. For the first time in 25 years I feel hopeful. There is so much I didn't know about myself! I just want to cry. Thank you so much!