The Key To Dealing With Social Anxiety

feel like im an alien trying to reach human standards to be accepted. lmfao

“People don’t pay a lot of attention to you” I pay a lot of attention to other people, I always assumed it was the same for everyone

Social anxiety is not just the fear and paranoia of being judge by others. It's also the fear of everyone assuming things on you, assuming your actions and thinking, the fear of everyone putting you in a box. It is very aweful overthinking that a lot. You make irrational things when social anxiety hits you. And everything you say and act is always planned in your head so you don't get to embarass your self. And after interracting to people you get depressed thinking it was not the right response. You them think they'll gonna hate you, dislike you, look down on you, disrespect you, judge you, weirded on you, laugh at you, get away from you. Social anxiety is not as easy as you think it is humiliating and physically mentally draining. If you think you knew someone who have social anxiety please dont give them a hard time. ❤️

"Life is just too short to care what others think"

being too aware of my own thoughts gives me anxiety

This makes me feel so stupid for worrying so much.

The worst part is when you have social anxiety and fear people judge you, and its actually true they judge you cause u hear them 💀

It's hard to not have that spotlight effect and develop social anxiety when you've been bullied because then all you can do is think about what others think. This was the case for me and I didn't get over my social anxiety until about two years ago.

Biggest fear for people with social anxiety: public speaking Honestly its scarier than life threatening situations

Anxiety: everyone judges you Me: actually, nobody cares about me *anxiety left the chat *depression joined the chat

This video and comments are very interesting! I would like to share how I overcame my social Anxiety too! So basically I changed schools. What I had observed in my previous school was if you give your first expression to be extroverted they all assume you're extroverted. Unfortunately I was young, shy and timid, gave them the wrong impression and it was really hard to overcome the social anxiety because they all thought I was like that. In the other school I faked being an extrovert non-shy and easy to talk to, because they didn't know who I was! AND you won't believe that faking it got me very far. I now have more than 10 friends I can trust and also I am no more scared about what anyone thinks of me! I can give out public speeches about worrying too! Trust me You gotta fake it till you make it! I couldn't even ask someone to stop hitting my chair in the previous school because I thought everyone is assuming I am a socially anxious person, I can't speak up. But in my new school I am scolding someone who is talking bad about my friend! Look at the progress!! :D.

Honestly, the bigest problem for me is that I know everything... I am aware that all of those anxiety thoughts are just in my head... I am aware that it is not like that in riality and I can watch 1000 videos about overcoming anxiety, but I still can't fix it... I now that it is completely normal that other people will talk and think something about me and that it can't hurt me but I still have anxiety! That's the worst feeling ever... I fell like I'm trapped in some cage and I can't escape. 🤷🏻‍♀️

me: nobody cares bro also me: okay but what if they do

A lot of people just say "stop being shy" But you actually bothered to do research and properly represent us. Thank you!

Something I thought about to get rid of my social anxiety: There's two sides of yourself, one side that's anxious and awkward and one side that's however you act around friends/family. Just show the side you act like around friends and family whenever you start to feel anxious. Not saying this will work but it got rid of it for me.

I learned about the spotlight effect in middle school, a long time ago. I felt better and thought that most people would not notice my mistakes. However, I've had MANY people tell me before that they HAVE indeed noticed my negatives, and they go out of their way to point this out, unprovoked. So I'm really starting to doubt how true the spotlight effect actually is.

Being with friends also helps to get rid of social anxiety because we create a seperate small dome of comfort when we are with friends.

I cured my social anxiety recently. A few months ago, I got myself a gym membership, but because I was so afraid of being judged, I'd go in there and just half-ass my work outs. This went on for a while until a morbidly obese fella walked in. I glanced at him and thought to myself "Jeez...I'm glad I didn't let it get this bad. I have faith he'll make it". I finished up my workout and I had already forgotten all about the guy until I saw him again in the locker room. That's when it hit me. Despite the fact that this man stands out in a bad way, everybody is too busy worrying about themselves to actually waste their time judging others. After that day, I started leaving my comfort zone more often and now everytime I feel anxious, I think about that guy at the gym. Life is much better now, I met new people and I'm making more friends, I feel guilty yet relieved to see how much I was missing out on the past few years. Edit: I'd also like to point out that strength training was one of the biggest factors to overcoming this, I highly recommend that people with social anxiety start exercising regularly.

a huge factor of my social anxiety was social judgement until I realized judging others made me fear of being judged. therefore, my social anxiety is near non existent nowadays.

I just got an episode of social anxiety but watching this video immediately calmed me down, thanks a lot! It's nice to know that people don't judge every details of our actions.