Why do autistic people seem weird?

Are you a loveable weirdo? Let me know!

I find the "no empathy" thing funny because I have TOO much empathy, I will cry over a dead bug if Im in a particular mood

My wonderful partner of 4 years has a diagnosis of "moderate to severe Asperger's". Early in our relationship, before we were sure it even was a relationship, he said the saddest thing to me. "I'd give anything to be normal for you." I blurted out "I don't want normal. I want you." We've been together ever since.

'You're weird' was the bullying phrase I received in two different countries and I tried so hard, so hard to fit in. Now when I tell people I have autism they tell me 'don't be ridiculous, you're normal' I AM FAKING BEING NORMAL.

When you said that you’ve noticed people taking an immediate disliking to you and it went unnoticed by others, that has happened to me. What a weird feeling. Makes you wonder how others are so blind when some things seem so obvious.

It does get "worse" as you get older... you start to realize that their games and the mask are simply not worth it anymore.

I’ve been called “stiff”, “robotic” and accused of “having no emotions”. A doctor once said I had a flat affect. They must never discover my secret...beep boop beep 🤖

I remember when I was in elementary school, I would always think to myself, "When I get older i will know how to socialize." I thought that I would magically be given the invisible instruction manual that everyone seemed to have. I guess I blamed my social difficulty on how young I was, but tbh its just gotten much worse and noticeable XD

being hated within 30 sec and blocked out of conversations hit so hard. It's happened way too many times to me. I don't understand how people can be so nasty and hateful because theyre insecure

They think we are psychopaths. That's why. We tend to have deep empathy but we lack surface empathy. So we give off creepy vibes.

I work in a bookshop. A few months ago a teenager who looked like he was on drugs came into the shop where I work. We have a big problem with thefts by drug addicts. I'm sorry to say that I watched him like a hawk. But he kept on coming back. He wasn't on drugs at all. He was on his school holidays He found the shop a safe place for him. He has a few favourite people here now. He likes to write copious notes on bits of paper. We leave him alone to get on with it and do his own thing. On New Year's Day he showed up with flowers he had picked for each of us. He was very specific about who the flowers were for. To and amazing person: Prince (his real name), thank you. I love you too.

About five years ago I was working with an autistic kid as support to help him in his school life. During a meeting with the teachers and parents and therapists and I, the therapist who specialized in autism started talking about how lucky it was that they had an autistic adult on their team to help. As I was sitting there wondering who she could be speaking about, I noticed everyone else looking at me. I have always suffered quite intensely because however much I try, I never feel like I know how to "human", but I was kind of convinced no one else could tell that I wasn't being me, I was playing a normal person and I thought I was fooling everyone. I would limit my fits of rage, that I now know are meltdowns, where I hit my head with my fists or a wall, scratch myself, bite myself and strangle myself, to moments when I was not in presence of other people. This therapist later told me she was surprised I had not been diagnosed as I am quite obvious as an autistic woman. My student noticed I was in a bad mood and asked why, so I told him: "the therapist said I'm autistic and I'm not". To which he smiled and replied " Yes you are. You're like me. Why do you think I talk to you?" And I thought I was sooooooo good at playing at being a normal person... I once read a sentence that I really like : "Who would you be if no one was looking?"

"uncanny valley of the violation of human norms." That's one hell of a way to say someone is awkward. Lol

I kind of love the word "aspionage."

This video literally had me in tears.... I didn't even become aware of how "weird" I was until middle school when suddenly became aware that the concept of a friend wasn't just blanketly applied to everyone you said hi to. And that my classmates saw each other outside of school. After that shocking and disheartening realization. I found that EVERY kid in my class had actual friends, that rolled over from previous classmates they had, the mean kids, the smart kids, the popular kids, even the "other" "weird" kids had friends. I seemed to be the only person in our school without them. I them became obsessed, I studied every trend that came and went, studied how different kids interacted with each other. Then bam! 3 years later I made a friend that was friends with all the popular kids, and I was invited to my very first non school function. It was there that I studied that kids act quite different socially outside of school. It was like the missing puzzle piece to complete my making strategies. And I spent literally ALL my time reading magazines, tv shows, movies, to keep up with a d learn how normal people communicate, and respond to each other. And by my senior year of high school I was sure I was a pro. Then my group of friends were hang out just as school let out and they all talked about this party they were all going to. Which was news to me, but whatever it didn't seem odd. Not until one of my "best" friends said that I wasn't invited because "i was well... you know... weird." And then they chucked and left. And if felt as if the last decade of obsessive work to seem like everyone else wasn't even working... it was shattering. I felt like any making efforts were pointless after that. If people were going to think I was off while I was literally 15+ hrs of work each day into trying to be like everyone else, then there was no point to it. That was the last day I masked... and it has given me a life of isolation. I can make endless acquaintance, but I've made 1 real friend in the past decade and they are also also autistic. Make friends seems like some sort of mystical magic I'm trying to recreate with science.

The worst thing is when people eventually get to know you and feel comfortable telling you how weird they thought you were when they met you. This has happened to me multiple times. I don’t need to know how much I didn’t fit your expectations. It’s hurtful.

during an argument, someone close to me revealed that I appear emotionless and apathetic. I literally couldn’t believe it because I feel so many intense emotions all of the time, I didn’t understand how they couldn’t see that, and even go as far as viewing me as emotionless. I also get “what’s the face for” a lot. like literally nothing!! this is just my face!!

Autistics don't seem weird, neurotypicals are just really really boring!

Sometimes I can't sleep because of the little sounds I hear, I especially don't like clocks ticking.

My high-functioning autistic mask has fallen off and I simply don't care anymore. Thanks for the insightful video.