What Does "Nonbinary" MEAN? // What IS "Nonbinary" Gender? [CC]

Thank you for this video. I’m a heterosexual male and my oldest told me that they are non-binary about 3 months ago. So that I would not offend them because, I love them more than anything. I just accepted it without fully understanding it. This video has helped me better understand what the term means. Thank you again!

Love the idea of finding gender euphoria rather than escaping gender dysphoria. Thanks for introducing that!

I mean, I'm non-binary and I still have issues with trying to verbalize and articulate an explanation on what it means. So thank you for this.

Me: is nonbinary Also me: watches this video

My grandkid told me that they are non-binary. They are 10 years old. I am happy to know that their parents are both just as accepting as I am. Their sister is also quite comfortable with this expression. The good part is that they didn't seem to have any stress at all in saying what they felt and believed. I wish it could be this easy for others, but if we keep treating non-binary as normal, perhaps it will be. Thank you for this video that helps me better understand.

I totally feel you on this, Lux, and it falls in line with a lot of what researchers are finding about being gay or bi. At the same time, I think "it hurts my feelings" SHOULD be enough to have your pronouns and reality respected. Even if there isn't/wasn't a genetic or physiological and measurable thing which is creating transness or enbiness, it still deserves respect and protection and resources. BECAUSE HUMANS.

Off topic, but just wanted to say this... your tone in the video was so relaxing. Now for something related to the video... Hearts the video!

I have been recently exploring my identity as nonbinary, using they/them pronouns and settling into the my identity going a bit beyond the confines of non-gender-conforming woman. Your channel has been an absolutely wonderful resource for me and your pragmatism and honesty are breaths of fresh air in a community I've found a little bit intimidating and/or frustrating in the past. I'd kind of held onto the idea of being pansexual nonbinary as a possibility for a while but knowing I could pass as a cisgender woman in a heterosexual partnership (my wonderful fiance is a cis male and I have a fairly feminine appearance IRL) made me dismiss my feelings of displacement in the traditional binary space. I didn't want to come across as treading where I didn't belong, when I have the privilege of being able to 'blend' so easily, when other enbies, transfolk, etc have so much struggle just getting along in their day to day. But over all I think I was denying something inherent about myself, too, and that was causing me some very real distress. I recently came out to my main friend groups about my identity as genderfluid and I've felt like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. It feels easier to breathe not being just defaulted to as a girl, a woman. When someone refers to me as they/them, or asks me what I'm feeling more strongly at the time (in regards to gender), I feel... just a little bit more affirmed and comfortable in my own skin. Thank you for doing what you do, Lux. Your videos have been really helping me navigate this process, and I appreciate that you exist. <3

Thanks for this video (btw your voice is mezmerizing) Recently, I was talking with a friend who told me that I might be non-binary, because I identify both as a male and female. Since I am a kid I don't mind people call me "she" or "he", both are fine for me, and while talking with my psychiatrist (I have BPD), he told me "you have the body of a girl, but with a really manly soul, are you going to transition?". This really confused me, because I don't feel the need to change my body. I mean I am pretty happy that I have boobs, it's just that in my head I feel I am both male and female. When people ask me if I am a girl or a boy I am always super confused, and usually go like "meh, call me what you think suits me the most, i don't care". (sorry for my English, i'm not a native speaker)

I've really been struggling the past couple months, going back and forth in my mind about whether or not I'm non-binary. I am comfortable going by any pronoun, do not have dysphoria, and still want to go with a feminine-esque presentation. Literally nothing about me has changed, so it is weird for me to think of myself as nb at all. Yet as a child I always felt upset when people told me I was a girl (it didn't feel right), and I cringe every time someone types me. I don't feel like a woman, and I don't feel like a man. I just feel like a person. I appreciate that you added in at the end that I don't have to change my looks because a lot of people seem to have the opinion that my not being a woman is rather vacuous if I do not change my names, pronouns, or the way that I dress. I like my name and my clothes, and the way I go about things. I'm comfortable with myself. Thanks again.

I feel like not being comfortable in a strict gender role doesn’t mean you’re necessarily nonbinary. People regardless of gender can feel uncomfortable being restricted and oppressed like a woman, or emotionally stoic as a man.

I am non-binary in the sense of somewhere between male and female. I am trans, constantly experience very strong physical dysphoria and some social dysphoria too, have been on HRT for 6 ½ years, but also can’t simply see myself completely in the sex opposite to that in which I was born. That’s why it’s been so hard to assign a simple label to my situation. Non-binary seems vague enough for me so I am adopting the concept. P.S. I thought about this a lot since I made a comment in one of your videos a few weeks ago. It helped me gear towards this resolution. I had used “gender fluid” in the past but that wasn’t quite right either (I’ve known I’m trans since I was a small child). My experience and understanding of my gender is quite constant, but in a less defined grey area. Thanks for sparking some of these thoughts in my mind lately. My wife was quite happy when I told her I’m non-binary after all – she says this is much more like me and that she sees me becoming happier with this understanding.

I came here because im confused i feel like both but im to scared to believe it....and to embrace it i just idk im confused

I feel ño gender most my life. Im comfortable with being non binary person. Im a proud🏳️‍🌈 black person born 🚺. So happy when there was name 4 how i felt my whole life 👍🏾

As someone who's been questioning as to whether he was non-binary or not, this video has helped me a lot in figuring out that I'm not. All the best to you and your journey.

This is so interesting and well explained, im a cis bi girl and i love how others have such different experiences and its so wierd but i feel even more of a woman after you talking about the opposite, Thats the great part of discovering yourself

This is STILL the best video to send to cis people to explain non-binary identities. Thanks for this

how I see gender: using a math metaphor, male/female are 2 points on a line. non-binary is a three dimensional spectrum of all, none or some of the male/female points that may ebb and flow between, on and off of that line. oh, and as usual you've given us a thoughtful, scientific and empathetic view into the human experience. Your work is excellent, thank-you.

Luxander, I just wanted to tell you that I really appreciate your videos, and I'm so glad that Mr. Atheist introduced me to your channel. As a middle aged straight cis male, it's often hard to keep up with the evolving terms, what the different pronouns are and what they mean to different people, how gender fluidity works, and what is proper etiquette when interacting with transgender or nonbinary people, and it was embarrassing that I hadn't educated myself, especially since I consider myself a strong LGBTQA+ ally and supporter. Keep it up, I love the vids!

I’m a social worker and this vid is informative since I had a course in Gender sexuality for my BS in Psychology degree & in social work degree we only covered gender dysmorphia thanks I never know who I might come across that may be non-binary