How To Stop Tolerating Lies From Your Partner Suffering From Addiction

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Published 2019-06-24

HOW TO STOP TOLERATING LIES FROM YOUR PARTNER SUFFERING FROM ADDICTION // We’re a community full of women that love someone suffering from addiction. And here’s the reality: our lives and relationships are different because of that.

Have you ever had an evening like this? Your partner comes home 4 hours later than expected. When you ask them where they were, they say something like, “I had to stay late at work tonight.”

And here’s the reality: they did have to stay late at work, but only an extra half an hour. The other 3.5 hours they were at the bar, or hanging out at a “friend’s” house getting high.

They left out a very critical detail about their evening. That, sister, is a form of lying: not sharing the whole truth, or being intentionally vague. And you know. You know the truth. You’re a smart woman, and chances are, you’ve been here before.

And it can be so frustrating. Enraging.

In today’s episode I’m sharing real tools on how to handle these situations. There’s no two ways about it: this is hard. But we’re here for you. You’re not alone.

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All Comments (11)

@shelleym.sharun5766 3 years ago

I allowed myself more vulnerability with my addict because I kept moving the bar that represented my comfort limit. Whether he noticed or didn't he carried on down his train wreck. Hes deliberately vague, lies, and in the end I found myself wondering who he even is. Now my boundary is not going budge for him.
@christiebailey9941 3 years ago

I wish I had known 30 years ago about vaugueness and omissions. I have applied this method and it does work as long as they aren't high at the momeny
@alexandracartagena0224 2 years ago

I want you to know that I decided to leave my alcoholic abusive bf. We were in the car he was a little intoxicated humiliated me at the restaurant and got so violent in the car. I looked at him and said no more ! As he cursed me out I just drove silently . He told me to grab my things back at his house and leave. And I did. I didn’t scream , make a show , tell him he will regret it. Just stayed silent. He was angry ! And I walked away. 5 days blocked and I list enter to you ! Didn’t fight back. I can’t no more
@nicolleeooo 3 years ago

Amen to all this! Thank you for posting!
@dianep6442 3 years ago

Thank you Michelle ❤
@SunShine-xs7ig 2 years ago

Helpful video.thanks Michelle.i always keep thinking as to where did you get so much courage to continue living with an addictive partner.it seems really difficult.i found it practically impossible at times but when I think about your struggle it gives me the courage to continue fighting this battle.if it's possible you plz make a video on how to ignore your partner's wrongdoings for example his phone calls ,his going out with friends and all the things that gets us mad and sick.how can we divert our mind because it seems that apart from focussing on him our mind does not focus on anything else.
@celestepaces8021 4 years ago

Great advice I am going to use this info. Thanks
@aprilchow-chee5281 2 years ago

I'm with a liar as well.
@mamabear090 4 years ago

Sounds like a good way to make him madder.
@marystele1197 2 years ago

A very good, really sincere video. You have a great voice that really resonated at a deep level with me Michelle.. It's about claiming back that love for yourself and for your own recovery. We are decent, respectable people and our love makes us that way. We have all spent far too much time on our addicted love ones. Let this be the first wonderful step in really loving ourselves again and truly enjoying life. Best Wishes Everybody. Xxx