When I decided to leave my alcoholic husband

I'm in tears right now. I'm married to an alcoholic. 5 years is enough. Thank you for sharing this.

Thank you for sharing. They say Alcoholism is a progressive disease. In 30 yrs, my Husband went from a couple of beers after mowing the lawn, to a six pack, to a 36pack a week, and recently adding hard liquor into the mix. He sneaks alcohol into the house while I'm in the shower or run to the store. He's destroying himself, and it's dragging me down with him.

I’m going through this now. I’ve been with my husband for almost 29 years. Met him when I was 14. Didn’t realize he was an alcoholic at the time. Just thought he was socialize drinking etc. then it was getting worse and worse. We have 2 kids and although they are young adults, I’m still scared because I don’t make a lot of money and the cost to live is expensive. But, I don’t want to stay. It’s effecting my health. I pray that I can gather the strength. Thank you for your story!

Remember they love alcohol MORE than the family/marriage/relationship. If the alcohol was replaced with something else or someone would you still put up with it?

I ended my relationship 5 days ago before seeing this video. It took me 5 years to truly understand that my relationship was toxic and unhealthy. Your video gives me solidarity with my decision. I am truly in love with this man but not in love with what he has become. This addiction to alcohol has consumed him. I know I cannot rescue him nor should I have to. It is his path of destruction that I choose not to join. I only pray that he finds the root of this addiction and healing. I pray that I find healing as well and learn to trust again and recognize what healthy love is. If anyone else is struggling know that you have the strength to leave, know that your health is more important, know that you deserve nothing but the best, and know that if one does not love and care for themself they cannot care for you. I truly hope this helps.

I just LEFT TODAY....LADY I THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO... I should have left 2 years ago when God told me to but I didn't because I wasn't ready. But two weeks ago I made the final decision and moved out today I feel like a weight has been lifted off of me I feel happy and sad at the same moment. I actually cried because I was so happy. Not because I was sad but because I was happy

Thank you for your video. I’m married to an alcoholic. I’m in tears watching this video bc I want out so badly, but I feel stuck. I’m going to get out one way or another.

Dealt with this for over 16 years. I have come to the conclusion that I have to divorce him. We have been together 25 years, but the addiction is getting worst every year. I am heartbroken.

I’m so sad when I listen to this. I was an alcoholic by the age of 23. First beer was at 9-10 am. One day something just clicked in my brain and I knew if I didn’t stop now this was my life until I died. I quit cold turkey I’ve never had a drink in 23 years Thank god I did t have a family at the time so the only person who suffers was me. I really hope things work out for you. God bless you and your family.

I’m an alcoholic. I watched your video to remind myself just how lucky and blessed I am that my gf didn’t leave me once my addiction got out of control. She should have left a long time ago and if she had , I couldn’t be upset with her. Your video reminds me of what it’s like for those that the addict hurts in his or her life. Don’t ever feel bad about leaving a situation like that. If someone refuses to seek help or refuse to do anything to stop the cycle of addiction then he or she leaves their loved ones no choice but to leave

Excellent video. Living in a crappy alcoholic marriage for 12 years. Our three sons are nearly adults. Feels like it’s time to start making decisions for me .

Thank you for this. I split with my alcoholic boyfriend over 2 years ago, but everything you articulated I have felt. It's so confusing dating someone with an addiction - you love and hate them at the same time. Ultimately you have to put yourself first. <3

Going through the same thing with my boyfriend he said he'll never stop drinking. He is the sweetest guy but not when he's drunk! I need to find a way out I'm losing myself and my life

20 years of back and forth. 28 years married. Today, I'M DONE and kicked him out. Coming out of hiding at 56. Yes please!! Now, right now. My family is finally aware of what's been going on. I'll NEVER get healthy with him here. I already feel unchained. Thanks for sharing.

Struggling with depression because of my husbands addiction

This video is so helpful, bern married 30 yrs, I am just so tired of it all. The man I married has disappeared before my eyes.

This struck home. I have been with my husband for 7 years and married only 9 months. I never lived with him prior to being married so I never realized how bad it was until I got married or maybe I chose not to see it. Before getting married I lived a very independent life so I didn’t spend night and day with him to notice the alcoholism. Once I got married I started noticing the patterns and it progressively got worse FAST, and I mean extremely fast. He began binging on weekends from 6 am to nighttime and drinking more on week days after work. I no longer recognized him. I begged, I pushed, I screamed, I argued, I prayed, I did everything possible to get him to stop. Nothing ever worked. They will never stop unless they want to. I was always truly knew that but I thought I could convince him before it was too late. He got extremely bad last weekend and I left him at his brothers for 4th of July and spent it without him and slept the next few days without him and wasnt around him. Something clicked, I was sooo at peace these days. I decided I needed this peace again in my life and i refused to let him drag me into the deep hole he had dug himself in mentally and financially. I filed for divorce this morning. And I feel so at peace. There may be people who may say I gave up too soon, and I may have. However if there one thing that my parents taught me is to put myself first and to never lose my self-respect getting caught up loving someone. I made a promised to myself the very day I said “I do” that would never lose myself at any point of our marriage no matter how much I love him. And for me 9 months of forgetting my self-worth was enough.

Recently had my moment of clarity and decided to end it with my alcoholic partner. He gave me tears, stress and cruelty with his raging alcholism on top of a year and half of having breast cancer and chemo. Was all about him. Last straw was im having a double mascetomy now and he made plans for overseas trip with mates before even finding out my op date let alone recovery or support time. Selfish, self centred, manipulative and plays the victim always. I hope you all have the light bulb on moment too. Every moment you cry, punish yourself and waste on them is a moment that you will never get back. Dont let yourself wait until you have a life threatening diaease to realise that.

Its hard when you do reach out to his family for help and they reject it, reject what you are saying . Then you are left alone, especially when you have no family of your own to turn to 😢

I'm with an alcoholic. Just reading this and thinking about leaving him makes me tear up. I feel I'm in a loose/loose situation. My heart will be broken no matter what.