Leaving my Alcoholic Boyfriend | Storytime

Ladies don't ever tell yourself that you gave your loved one the best years of your life. The cold truth is you gave your loved one the best years of THEIR life. As in this story, the best years of your life are in front of you. The Almighty will give you peace.

I was in a 1 year long distance relationship (over the phone only, NEVER spent time physically together) and fell in love & moved cities to be with him. We had actually met years before that and had been friends but lost touch over the years. He wasn’t a stranger. Had no idea he had a drinking problem as he lied and told me he rarely drank, and I remember him being sober and mentally stable years before. I had no reason to think he was lying so I believed him. After moving in with him I realized he had major severe depression, drinking problem and snorted cocaine. I was shocked! I barely drink and hate drugs. I was so disgusted but LITERALLY thought he was my husband, so I stayed and tried to help him. It was a year of hell. Lies lies lies and him blaming me and worst of all accusing me of things I never did or said. Has anyone here experienced that before? Anyways- it lasted one year (physically) 2 years if we count the “over the phone relationship.” I left him 4 months ago and I am so thankful I got out early. My mental state is still recovering and everyday is so hard. The memories of his emotional abuse sucks. I never would have moved if I knew he had a secret drinking problem. My fault for moving cities so abruptly. Never trust your emotions. Thanks for the video. If anyone wants to chat about their trauma let me know. It helps to talk about it. Update: Its been one year since I left my ex and I am doing so much better. Still have memories that I’d like to forget but I am so grateful to be away from him.

Thank you for making this. I just left my alcoholic boyfriend 3 days ago. I’m going to get my stuff from the apartment. I’m hurting badly but you give me strength !

I cried my heart out, over the same experience. He refused to go to treatment or change. OMG he made me miserable 😭 and I realized, nothing will change, until he wants too. 🤔

I related so much to your story: the seizures, the lying, the hiding of bottles everywhere, the refusal to change, the helplessness you feel and constant worry. I got out 3 years ago and am still in recovery from the trauma that being with him caused me. I am happier and healthier for it <3

This type of relationship will drive you insane. It’s weird how they’re always pretty good at hiding it for a while, but when you know, their ugly side really comes out and shows itself. I feel like I never even knew who he was now.. Thanks so much for this video it really helps knowing I’m not alone in dealing with these messes. The fact that you finally took a stand for yourself gives me motivation for myself to do so. It’s just really hard when you care about someone so much, even if it isn’t reciprocated. Just have to be patient and persistent with myself. Again, thanks. ❤️🦋

It feels like they cheated on you when you find out they were lying about drinking

thank you so much for posting this. I just left my boyfriend because he drank alone in his apartment instead of spending Christmas with me and my family. This video gave me so much hope.

I was in a sick, alcoholic relationship with my ex husband. I got sober (15 years❤) but he refused to do so. I hung in there for 6 months, but when he finally told me point blank that he had no intention to quit, and he was moving back in whether I liked it or not, I had to end it. He refused to hear me until he called me from Wal-Mart (yes, Wal-Mart) saying he was shopping for my Valentines Day present. I told him not to do that, because we weren't together anymore, so he told his family and our mutual friends that I had heartlessly dumped him on Valentines Day. I lost friends and his family turned their backs on me and continued to enable him for several more years. He passed away 4 years ago and nobody even told me he was sick, or what he died of...i didn't even know until a year after it happened. I still feel guilty, but I AM OK AND WOULDN'T CHANGE A THING. Thank you for this channel and this video. Love and blessings to you all.

I left my alchoholic boyfriend when I saw this video. I said to him....He was bringing me down. I need to the support.

I recently lost my girlfriend who I truly loved. But I didn't show her my true love because of alcohol.. i moved across the world and failed. after watching your story, I can now fully understand her perspective. I am now attending AA meetings and they're so helpful.. although it's most likely too late to get her back, I actually needed to be in this dark place I am currently in to finally get the the help I need. I still pray that one day we can work things out but if not, I obviously wish her nothing but the best. Stay strong everyone.

I can't imagine going through that for years. I started dating someone new 3 months ago and he was everything I wanted in a guy. I was swept off my feet. But after a month, I started noticing something off with his drinking behavior. At first I thought he was just a social drinker, but I later noticed that he gets hangover pretty much every weekend which affects our time to go out or plan dates. He is very functional and highly educated. He would have alcohol in a backpack in his trunk. He is highly focused on going to places or engaging in activities where there is alcohol served (bars, restaurants, etc.). One time we went outdoors for non-alcoholic activity and he took a few sip of whiskey from his trunk after he parked. When he came to visit me couple times, he brought 2 cans of beer. He would take naps all the time. I also noticed some mood swings. Some days he is loving, but some days he is quiet and slightly irritable and impatient. I never really got to see him drunk, but I did point out how his weekend routine is affecting our relationship. He broke up with me last weekend. I was so sad, but he is doing so in the best interest of me. He is very caring and knows his own struggle, but is in denial to seek help. He said he feels that he is wasting my time, but later said it's because we have different lifestyle (he likes to go to parties and I don't). As much as I wanted him to change because I like him very much, this past week has been a breath of fresh air because I'm not anxious and worried about if he can commit to spending time with me. I feel like I'm always competing with alcohol when I was with him. He also fears me knowing more about his habits, so he figured it's time to cut ties so i don't get disappointed or hurt. I wish he gets help and even though we only dated 3 months, we had a lot of great times together especially the first month. But I won't forget that feeling of being anxious, disappointed, and alone in the months we were together. I would have left eventually if he didn't end things with me, but yes, I did stick to it longer than I needed to because I care about him. Thanks for sharing!

Having a seizure from withdrawal is not rock bottom, it’s just the beginning of the big black hole

You were so inspiring! I'm with an attic and so similar! Lies... lies... lies. This last year of 6 has been awful. He has to leave now as I own the house. I'm going to be happy by 70 in August! No more anxiety!

I remember watching this video a year ago, and I chose to stay. 1 year on it’s been rehabs, psych wards and relapse after relapse, and I’m finally done. I left him yesterday. I feel good for it in this moment, and I hope that doesn’t change.

I just broke up with my boyfriend today. Same reasons and similar experience. Glad to know there's a light at the end of the tunnel.

I walked away Sunday after 9 years ....we stopped living together after a year and a half ago thinking he would stop ,I couldn't live with him ....we still saw each other .he never changed after betrayal and promises to change over and over again .the verbal abuse ,mental ,the roller coaster ride is non stop .I can't. This lesson taught me to just love myself and let go anD let God ...I'm just numb ....he thinks I'm with another man because I chose to walk away yet I'm always to blame ..they never take accountability and it's our fault always....I love him and always will yet I have to love myself more .I can't cure it ,change it or control it ..my heart hurts but I gotta move forward

You did the right thing. Same story here but 10 years and with a child💔 Get out before babies are involved💔 I'm so sorry this happened to you🫂

My boyfriend is an alcoholic. He goes into 2-3 days of binge drinking without sleep then takes 2-3weeks to fully recover. He recently moved to another country to be with me and dosent have recidence here yet. He dosent have any other friends than me and my family so he is very lonely and stressed about settling in finding a job etc before hell run out of his savings. I love him deeply but im tired of his drinking. I want him to get better and build a life with him but If he dosent get help and stop ill leave him. I don't want it to get to that but I deserve better.

I ended it on Saturday after he shouted at me in front of his children....DONE