Controlling relationships #shorts

it's a grooming tactic to make you a servant to them.

Another way to test is try to say no to something they want from you.

There can be a very thin line between protective shelter and a confining prison.

This man and his wife have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen 👁️👁️

Oh So True!!! Watch out for those people who tell you they care about you---but their actions say something else.

What the heck!! This is so well said Jay. Wow! I had to play it over and over to absorb it.🙏 for such wisdom that you have.

This is so simply said, I wish I knew this before. So much of my husband’s behavior I ignored even if I felt uncomfortable or upset. Because anytime I voiced my concerns my family and and friends just said it’s because he loves you and cares about you. And I was overreacting.

Great point! I’ve seen this happen many times people pretend to care/love for you until they get you to the place of vulnerability that they want you.

So true. My ex’s favorite line for me when I would try to do things on my own would be “you can trust me and depend on me to help you. I love you and am always looking for your best interests.” Mind blowing looking at it from the outside now 🤯

Control caring is making an individual dependent on you, emotionally, financially in whatever aspect it may be.Control care restricts one’s growth and potential. True care revolves around your betterment independently. “Give a man fish, you’ve fed him once, teach a man how to catch a fish, you’ve fed him everyday”. These people would rather give you one fish at a time so that they feel needed and that’s how they derive their self worth which is quite sad and a miserable way to live. Just be kind to them and don’t take it personally and encourage positive behaviour.

I appreciate this clarity. When someone is very controlling, it can look like care, but feel a bit over powering. Some people don't know when they overstep the lines 🤷🏼‍♀️

I felt this in my first marriage. I was unaware and the “care” it was truly control. It only got worse over time.

The way to tell is to say no and see what happens

dis is where people confuse with care n control.they think they r taking care of us but actually they want to control us.

People having wisdom can understand the difference between care n control!

That’s why in nowadays you only help if you are asked. I stopped caring for most people and it works

Some parents do this to their children and call it tough love, which they have hugely mistaken (intentionally or not).

My husband used to do this to me in the early years of our marriage when I didn't know how to stand up for myself and not let him manipulate me. If only I would have been stronger back then, I would have achieved so much in my life. Thankfully, I am no longer blindfold

Yep! Had a guy do all kinds of handyman chores for me. He'd show up, look around, snif the air to see if I'd had some other guy around.😊

After the age of 18, it’s called communication and setting boundary’s.