Healthy vs. narcissistic relationships

when you feel alone and your in a relationship. that's a huge red flag.

In a healthy relationship, your partner will listen to you. Even if you don't agree, you will still feel understood.

"they won't remember things about you outside of an argument but as soon as there's a fight, they know everything"

Healthy Relationship: You feel safe with them. They enjoy spending time with you and are aware of your needs. Your partner listens to you without cutting you mid sentence. Your partner treats you with respect. Your partner compliments you and means it. They don't call you unkind names or make horrible jokes at your expense. If there is a problem, they will work to resolve it with you rather than try to win the argument. Your partner builds you up. They respect your boundaries and do not try to pressure you into doing anything against your values. They respect your decision. Narcissistic Relationship: Arguments are unresolved and go round in circles, time and time again. They have extreme moods. They are charming if things go well for them but have the rage if you ever disagree or say no. They don't seem to want to know about you as a person but try to rush you into being physically intimate. They use cliched phrases during the "relationship", especially during lovebombing and hoovering. "I can't live without you" "You're the one" " I want you to be the parent of my children" etc. They are childish in the way they deal with conflict. They either have temper tantrums or give you the silent treatment. They do not respect your boundaries and are extremely intrusive. Every conversation is always about their needs being met and if you hesitate, that sets them off. You feel uncomfortable and something is off. Your main emotions during the relationship are guilt, fear and shame. They simply do not respect you or treat you how you want to be treated. There's lots more.

Narc - Sucks the life out of you. Healthy - Puts life in you.

❤️ first thing I noticed after several narcissists in a row was that in my (first!) healthy relationship i didn’t have to ASK for affection, it was just freely given

About 3 months into a healthy relationship, I one day realized my new guy had never “put me down”. It’s been 6 years now. I finally learned to quit waiting, and he still hasn’t put me down or said I am incompetent.

Been dating a “healthy” girl for the past year after being with a narc for over 20. Strange how peaceful it is. It’s just nice. I do struggle with how consistent it’s been. I feel like my whole life has been spent putting out fires or walking on eggshells.

That desire to rescue someone and believing in "the one" is exactly what got me into a narcissistic relationship.

In a healthy relationship you can actually tell them things about your life that hurts you or embarrass you and it won't be used against you later on. Every unhealthy relationship I ever had used my hurts and insecurities as a weapon against me.

I used to say, "arguing with him was like bringing a plastic spork to a steel knife fight."

During a first date, he got offended that I was looking at the people coming into the restaurant. He asked to switch seats so I can solely focus on him! Took me 4 years to finally open my eyes with the help of prayer to see clearly! Amen!

A healthy relationship is about you AND your partner whereas a narcissistic relationship is mostly only about your narcissistic partner and how you can fall in line with their life, adjust yourself and put yourself through trauma just so that they get validated.

To be in a "healthy" relationship you need to be healthy yourself, otherwise you will only be excited by the "unhealthy" option.

In a healthy relationship you build one another up...it’s fulfilling. A narcissist just looks at you as an emotional punching bag or mirror to reflect their “glory”

I've never had one healthy relationship in my entire life. Not one. I feel like an alien on some Planet Narcissist where the elusive healthy person is an extinct being. Thank you for your videos. Such a breath of sanity here.

i'm so tired of being yelled at. A lifetime of verbal aggression can leave a person begging for silence. I've loved being isolated, on lockdown. So peaceful.

"every fight with a narcissist is a dirty fight" - my god, if only someone had told me that 20-30 years ago

After I divorced my husband many years ago and then talked to him with grandchildren, etc., I realized that he did not know me. He never knew me. The relationship was about him, not me or our children. I am so happy I left when they were still very young.

I am so thankful my doctor referred me to you. Lord, please heal me and all who have been in a narcissistic relationship.