My Coming Out Story || Matt

Love y’all 💕

Bittersweet story. My husband's Dad is a super conservative Catholic so our strategy was to neither confirm nor deny. Meaning he never officially came out to his Dad but we lived a super open life. So when he visited we still slept in the same room etc. We didn't make a big deal out if it but we did not hide the fact we had a master bedroom that we shared etc. We always shared our life as a couple and never pretended we were not a couple. Eventually I started getting Christmas presents etc. It certainly took some time. So my advice is this: Make sure your parents know you and Omar are a couple. Share your life openly so if you go on a vacation that you want to talk about make it clear it was you and Omar. When your parents call make sure to share what you and Omar are doing. Go visit your parents with Omar. Maybe at first you have to do the separate bedroom thing or not actually sleep there. Especially don't avoid holidays. If they visit don't rearrange your house to make it look like you have separate bedrooms. It's now been 39 years (We met in first grade LOL) and our relationship with Bernie is great. I doubt he considers me his son-in-law and he would not come to our wedding in 2013, but all things considered we have a terrific relationship. Obviously your parents want to be part of your life so over time I'm guessing they will come around. Like my situation Omar may never be their son-in-law, but you could still have a warm cordial relationship. Luckily for me my family gave up religion when I was 12 so when I came out they didn't jump for joy but quickly they were our biggest supporters. Brian was always a son-in-law to them. Unfortunately my Mom and Dad were both gone by the time we were able to get married. They would have been thrilled.

Just got into watching these videos again. The lgbt community is one of the most powerful communities when it comes to being mentally strong. Thank you for sharing!

my parents were still in the "hear no evil see no evil" limbo stage about me and my brother being gay, and then my brother found out he had about 6 months to live. my parents discarded their fixation on being gay and came to his rescue with unconditional love. the fact his being gay became totally secondary to the immediate reality that he may die. it was an amazingly cathartic revelation. that was in 1996 and we enjoyed each other as individuals and as a family until they died in 2014. i hope your parents can evolve and discover what is truly important in life.

Thank you Matt for sharing your story, as closeted gay, where coming out public not an option, your videos and ig contents helps me a lot, since we don't have any role model here. Again thank you very much

So sorry you have to go through all this, my husband came out to his parents when we got together. Like yours it did not go well, they didn't speak to him for over 7 years or acknowledge our existence as a couple. Wishing the best for you and Omar, love one another deeply, truly, and always. 👍👏🙏

Thank you so much Matt and Omar. So many resonances for me who only managed to come out aged 55.... also from a very religious small town background in homophobic South Africa..... all conversation with my mother ended when I came out 3 years ago. I found out after his death that my dad was gay, and had endured “therapy” at the hand of my mother and his parents in his 20’s. I have still not managed to record my story. Your guys stories are a particular inspiration to me to get to that point sooner than later.

Hi Matt and Omar : I've listened your both stories and i relate to them. I'll be 31 years old this summer and i'm from a conservative family : By the culture like you Omar (They immigrate from Republic of Congo before i was born, so pretty conservative on this subject) and like you Matt with a very religious mum (I went to the church every sunday, and i was pretty active in the church). I'm attracted to men since middle school but i began dating men from university. I'm with my boyfriend for seven years and a half and we're living together since 2016. I've came out to my parents in the end of 2016 (Between Christmas and New year) because i was too pressured and it went very wrong (By words i've heard) : I did not spoke to my mum for a year and with my dad we often argued. We reconnected at Christmas 2017 and it's better. It will take time, it's a long process and we're still in. We talk every month (Before my coming-out it was every week) and we never talk about that THE SUBJECT (They know i've a boyfriend and know i live with him). It's a little heartbreaking but i say to myself "They'll talk about that the day they're will be ready so let them taking time". Hug from France :) Thanks for sharing your both stories

This is kind of like my story. I am Indian. I came out to my mother last year and it sucks because she downright refuses to talk about it. All I want is for her to acknowledge it once and show support but guess that’s never gonna happen. I am trying to detach myself from people that hurt me but it’s so hard when it’s your own family.

I live ina TINY town, population under 200 people. Im 36 years old and still single. I hope that one day I can feel loved and to be able to give love.

What an incredible story! Thank you! 🌈

Thanks for sharing your story. It may be hard to remember all this bad experiences. It's not always flowers and rainbows and acceptance... sometimes it's not that easy. It's important to share this kind you coming out stories because we (both LGTBQ+ people and people not from LGBTQ+ community) as a reminder that still nowadays in 2019 there's homophobia and we all still have to fight

I can definitely relate to your story. Many similarities in my life. I think it is much more typical than we see on YouTube. Thanks for sharing

Thank you for telling your story me and my fiancé recently told our story and we love watching others coming out story ❤️🏳️‍🌈

Just wanted to let you know I watched this with tears in my eyes. You are SO STRONG. I grew up in a religious family too so can definitely relate to feeling like there isn't another "option". Wishing you all of the love I can, you are a LIGHT IN THIS WORLD.

Thanks for sharing, I know it is heart-wrenching but it all needs to be told because if we don't voice it others think they are all alone and no one else is like them.

Hey Matt, I'm right there with you... like almost to a T. Trying to have patience and hope for a day that may not ever come. It's extremely hard, but the fact that you still have love for your parents, Keep hold of that! I struggle with finding/having the idea of a chosen family, when all I really want is my family involved in my life.. my whole life! If you ever want to talk... need someone that "Gets it", I would be more that happy to chat. It's hard re-living part of the past that you are trying to move forward from, and I commend your courage for telling part of your story. Niagara Falls, CA here.

Excellent editing as you closed the gaps in your story.

You seem like a sweet caring young man. I hope you find much love and happiness in life

Congrats! You are a wonderful young man!!