THIS Is The Real Reason The Avoidant Needs Privacy & Space From You

I don't know about other avoidants, but as for me, I don't want to be completely known because I don't want to give anyone the power to manipulate me.

Spoiler alert. None of that will matter. They will still leave you.

It isn't personal against anyone. I'm just naturally reserved and reticent. When I socialize, I'm extroverted and engaged but then I need to decompress. I love my alone time, and value my privacy. It's nice when someone not only understands and accepts me, but feels the same.

They need space from you to draw closer to someone else

Please make video on friendships on different attachment styles. So why do they shame you when you are at your lowest

26 years of marriage with a DA, and I feel so damaged!! He refuses to go to therapy, so I go on my own. In the couple of months that I have been going to therapy. He has pulled away more and more. And now divorce is on the table when our youngest leaves for college this fall.

I am an avoidant and don't seek relationships. On the one hand, people say that avoidants shouldn't date at all. On the other hand, the anxious types chase me hard and won't take no for an answer, and then people are mad at me for not giving them a chance. Damned if I do; damned if I don't. 🤷‍♀️

Poetic that this video would be posted today. My FA and I were good friends for 10 years before I started falling for her. I was asking myself why recently and I came to the conclusion that it was in fact her support. The first time I realized this was when I asked her to attend a Judo competition so she could watch me compete. Her answer was, "sure I'll come, but I want to see a good show!" I can honestly say that I've never had a woman support me with such encouraging words, not even my own mother and sister (they always treated me like some kind of muscle head). That's why I fell for her right then. This is a great video because these are straight facts!

7 months today … He has started to pull away and go distant. Today he didn’t call me for the whole day This is something new My whole chest is hurting I’m so sad right now 😢 Why did I let him back in 💔

This was trully an outstanding Psychology class. Thanks for being so clear, Dr. Thais!

This is how i feel and is horrible.

Can you do more videos on anxious attachment? I know that these are more popular but anxiously attached people are also harmful and annoying tbh. Their clinginess and quick to infatuation gets them hurt and then they blame everyone but themselves!

Give them enough space, and they will cheat.

Thank you, Thais ❤

All good here on this end nothing to report.. or retort. I usually watch your videos back to back at the end of my day and wind down, categorize, compartmentalize, then close my eyes. Get up. Do it again. Kind of like Groundhog Day.

Thank You

Great video

Now i feel shame for not navigating the issues in a healthy way….i was on vaccation with a man i‘m getting to know.i pointed out the things i didn‘t like.For example,we wen‘t out to eat and he was on his phone while we where waiting for the food.i told him,its rude to do such thing,when on a date with a woman👀 I could see his shame,yet i need to adress such things🤔i was hungry aswell and maybe i said it to harsh…..damn.the avoidants trigger me,i feel rejected🫣

Thanks

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