7 Signs You Feel Deep Emptiness

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Published 2022-03-07
“It is not darkness in my heart, but emptiness, waiting for the sun.” - Connor Franta

If you relate to this quote, then you’ve most likely already realized the terrifying truth that the emptiness and meaninglessness of life is something a lot of us have had to confront at some point in our lives.

If you are struggling with deep feelings of emptiness in your life right now, here are a few signs to help you figure out why (and what you can do about it)

Are you feeling empty but don't know why? This video might help:    • 4 Reason Why You Feel Empty  

Remember, this video is for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional advice.

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Amanda Silvera youtube.com/amandasilvera
Animator: Grace Cárdenas Cano
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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Peteet, J. R. (2011). Approaching emptiness: Subjective, objective and existential dimensions. Journal of Religion and Health, 50(3), 558-63. Retrieved from dx.doi.org/10.1007/s10943-010-9443-7
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All Comments (21)
  • I don’t really feel empty…just numb. I can laugh and cry and get angry, but it feels more like a reflex at this point. Im so mentally and emotionally drained I don’t really enjoy my hobbies anymore. I usually just surf the internet mindlessly.
  • @sadisticskye
    7 signs you feel deep emptiness 1. Your relationships aren't fulfilling 0:50 2. You struggle with overdependence 1:34 3. You're perpetually bored with your life 2:12 4. You feel emotionally numb alot 2:48 5. You feel alone and isolated from everyone else 3:28 6. You've lost touch with yourself 3:58 7. You have what you want but you're still not happy 4:30 Hope this helps ! Feel free to vent in the reply section, I'll be here for u <33
  • @Freyjinn
    I've dealt with deep emptiness since i've been a kid, it's... such a pain, cause it's a void that nothing fills in. Well the only thing that fills it in is when i hyperfocus and get super passionate about something, though it doesnt last long
  • @thechancellor-
    To the worthwhile person seeing this, Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
  • @NeziesStories
    I relate with everything except the “feeling bored” part. In fact, I have too many aspirations and wish I could feel bored sometimes. But I’m always afraid of falling behind :/
  • @partypoison3161
    I just constantly mirror others to try and fit in because it helps me mask my autism, but then I feel like I don't have my own personality. I feel isolated and I don't even know what thoughts are my own. I'm just disconnected.
  • @Shalashaska13
    Its scary when I can relate to this cause I've felt this from childhood growing up and it fucks with your head when you've grown so accustomed to the emptiness that your mind and thoughts constantly goes down the dark path to the point of wanting to "self delete" (the S word is a trigger for me ) cause nothing you try ever seems to fix or fill the heavy endless void in your soul.
  • @foxyloon
    Yep, I've faced every one of these issues. Would hang out with friends yet feel like I didn't belong. I'd just participate with the conversation and pretend to know what they're talking about when I honestly don't more often than not. I'd also be clingy with a certain friend, looking to them to help me define who I should be. There would be friction when they'd become annoyed and impatient with me after a prolonged bout of this. "That's up to you to figure out, stop asking me about it!" I've also found that I'm bored quite often, even when doing hobbies or things I once enjoyed. Constantly seeking out media or other things to distract myself from myself, so to speak. Also felt disconnected from my emotions for the most part, which took a lot of work to finally feel something again. Even then, I'm mostly numb unless it's a very strong emotion I feel in the moment, and it's quite fleeting more often than not. (Brief pangs of happiness, followed by nothing for days on end as an example.) Even felt isolated many times in my life, despite being surrounded by people who love me and look up to me. I still feel a profound loneliness at times, and have to constantly remind myself that I'm not alone. It's a difficult feeling to shake off. Especially feel like I lost touch with who I am! Like I'm a wandering soul trying to find my place in this world, and nothing seems to feel "right" to me no matter what I try. I also struggle with disassociation of my own body, lacking a certain awareness of where my body is in relation to the world, so I'm constantly running into things and knocking stuff over inadvertently. I try to meditate and become more aware of my body, yet I still struggle doing so. Then there's the lack of satisfaction with my life, despite accomplishing many things I've wanted. Left with that sense of "what now?" It's profound how this single video described the past 20 or so years of my life...
  • @neofulcrum5013
    Me: Who am I? Brain: A good question. Let’s save it for the next day and the next.
  • I realized that I always rely on someone to make me happy. I was always known as the "cheerful" one at school. By making everyone happy and seeing the smile on their faces makes me happy, but now that school's over and all of my friends are moving on with their lifes, i somehow feel empty as I have no one to talk to. I find myself desperate to seek someone to feel in that emptiness. During this period, I feel like I'm slowly changing, from being talkative to no talking at all, laughing to feeling no emotions and leaving texts on read or ignoring them. Idk why im doing this but for once I just want someone to be there for me like how I did for them, to listen to my problem as how I gave them my ears to their problems..
  • That's how I'm feeling right now. I've lost all interest in everything I used to like & I feel no emotion.
  • @gloomy2931
    I’m definitely feeling like Shikamaru. Everything just feels like a drag. My motivation and self esteem are at negative and can’t find interest in anything. My job is the only thing that keeps me busy but I feel totally drained and don’t want to do this anymore. I want to disappear somewhere where no one will bother me and I can just “exist” since I can’t bring myself to do the alternative.
  • @kathyl.8759
    I've been feeling alot of emptiness . Feel like there is no meaning in my life right now. Thanks for the video..i love to watch them.👍
  • @henleeh2987
    Honestly, reading all of these comments comforts me letting me know that I am not alone in my ever-going struggle for self-worth and search for life-meaning. 💙
  • Liked how I became feeling empty not to long ago and this video popped up and immediately i relate to every points you made which is scary…but just seeing how people also relate..makes me feel somewhat happy knowing I’m not alone, even tho I feel alone most of time in my days, I can always think I’m not alone facing my own knowing people also deal with this.
  • I used to feel empty or very down I used to prefer feeling intense sadness than emptiness because at least I was feeling something. I was bored with my life, I wanted something but didn't know what. I didn't think I'd get out of that state and had come to accept that. I'm doing better now and I got out of that fog and storm. For anyone reading this, you'll get out of this.
  • @user-fp7cb6jk1b
    I feel so scared when I find and start doing something I'm interested in and then suddenly the next day I just can't bring myself to do it anymore... it's like every time I may have found something to look forward to it just... evaporates and makes me feel numb, scared and like everything is worthless...
  • I relate to every single point that you have made but the HUGE one that I related to was the perpetual boredom. I can almost cry at how bored I feel every single day… everything I loved to do isn’t enough to get me on my feet anymore. Everyday is just a routine, wake up, clean the house, walk the dog, make dinner, clean up again, and go to bed. I own a business at home and I don’t start working until 8pm and go to bed at 5am sometimes just because I have no motivation to start early. My days are wasted deep inside my head while my body is on autopilot. Emptiness. Complete emptiness
  • I related to this more in the past than I do now because after discovering my core values and lots of journaling to understand myself, I see a little light at the end of the tunnel. I think I finally know what I want in life, I just don’t know how to get there