Energy Ducking: The Fastest Way To Make Someone Dislike You

I feel like a robot trying to understand how humans behave

After watching this, I realize I don't just dislike small-talk, I dislike conversation altogether.

That jack black intro is actually what i do going into every job interview the past few years. I may still be unemployed but there isnt an interviewer that will ever forget my interview with them.

I love silence with people. There is nothing better than feeling seperate and in silence shared with another in total comfort.

My fellow Introverts, we meet again

Just remember it's not your job to entertain people

These conversation shut-down tips are fantastic, as there's nothing more annoying than when someone tries to have a conversation with you, and you really want to be left alone.

Too complicated, Imma stay home

"sometimes the thing that most makes someone like you is not when you look smart or funny, but when you make them feel smart or funny" that line hit me

Me: “So you like stuff?”

Not me thinking this was a guide on how to make someone dislike you quickly

1. stand out (rip introverts), answer absurd things 2. dont assume interest, start stories with a story gap 3. dont give too short answers 4. dont ask boring questions, ask exciting or fun hypothetical questions 5. dont be a passive listener, repeat things the other one says, laugh authentically

5 common mistakes that make you seem boring : 1- Energy ducking * trick: answer with an absurd non-literal answer *trick: set a fun , playful tone first, then continue to answer the question. 2- assuming interest *trick:start your story with a story gap 3- giving bland one to five word answer *trick:share enough to make conversation easy for the other person. But then Create space for them to speak as well . 4-ask the same default boring questions *trick:ask somthing that the other person will be excited to answer *trick ask fun hypotheticals 5- being a passive listener *trick: mirroring by repeating a pattern of behavior of the person you're talking to. *trick: listening to laugh

Man I’m cringing at all the opportunities I missed to make great friends and get myself into rooms with great ppl all because I lacked charisma. Like it was said in this video, I didn’t make a good or bad first impression. Just a bland one. Missed out on making a lot of potentially life changing connections

-Hi -Hi? -how are you -good and you? -what if you had a million dollar what would you do? -....

Im an introvert whos quite happy to have indepth conversation on thing that are interesting and matter. What i dont do is small talk for the sake of talking and socialising. Social status or validation from others mean nothing to me. Id sooner sit by a fire in the woods listening to the sounds of nature than poinless babble for the sake of appearing social.

I have mild autism and this channel is so helpful for understanding human behavior. Thank you!

Its also important, especially for people who get nervous in social situations, to know that sometimes boring conversations just happen. Maybe its the mood, maybe its the energy between the two people. Whatever the case, dont sweat it if it does happen. Youll have other chances to have good conversations.

As an introvert, having to adapt to this kind of social circus just to get included thus respected feels so exhausting!

I see a lot of people mentioning that they don't like small talk. Everything in life is as fun as you allow it to be. When people ask me what I do for a living, I find that to be a boring question. So I just make up a ridiculous job and next thing you know we're having fun. If they mention the weather, I make up an imaginary weather type that sounds horrible or hilarious and next thing you know the conversation is fun. You can turn anything into a good time, but first you have to decide to enjoy yourself instead of passing judgement on what the other person is saying. People who say boring small talk stuff don't want to be boring, they're just in a low energy mood, or afraid to say something that would make things awkward or uncomfortable. Someone has to take a risk in order for good things to happen, and if the other person doesn't do it, that means it's on you. It's fun to practice, you've got nothing to lose.