"No Daycare is Good Daycare"

I worked in a daycare. I can confirm that it gets overwhelming. Our ratio was 1:9. It was so exhausting because these babies wanted love and affection. Some would act out and make it so hard. I was often left to deal with 9 kiddos on my own. We had kids who acted out, would not listen , they would throw tantrums , throw chairs… it took a mental toll and I had to leave. I know my babies felt my absence because I made sure to love and care for them. I often got yelled at from other teachers because I gave them too much attention and affection. I pray and hope more mothers find a way, if possible, to stay home with their babies..

I'm a stay-at-home mom, and I was shamed by my father-in-law for not taking my 14-month-old baby to daycare. Videos like this make me stand stronger in my beliefs about what's good for my baby.

When my daughter was born i told my wife I rather be broke and barely getting by then to leave my baby girl in a daycare, we will have to get by on one salary no matter the cost

I’m so thankful to be home with my baby boy. It breaks my heart just thinking of not being with him. It requires sacrifice on both my husband’s and my part but it’s 100% worth it. Every smile, laugh, giggle, coo, etc just reminds me why I stay home for him and why my husband works so hard to make it happen.

I was amazingly blessed with a husband who allowed me, financially speaking, to stay home with our boys. Now that the youngest is 10, I have a part time outside the home job. But my home will always be the priority. If you have to work, it’s always best to find a trusted family member or close friend to provide that care to your child. Nothing is without risk, of course. But it’s certainly preferable to overcrowded day care centers.

This is exactly why I resigned from my job, quite my career to care for my kids . They are now 7,6 and 2.6 , very healthy happy and nurtured. Above all we have a bond and understanding I couldnt buy. Its really worth it, let your goal in life be to create an enviroment where YOU are the care giver to your kids.

I used to work at a daycare and the ratio for daycare teachers was 14 children to 1 teacher. If you had an aide in the room with you then you can add on another 14. So you can have 28 children per 2 staff. That was insane. We had multiple rooms with different aged children. And to make matters worse when a staff member didn't show up we had to all cram into one small room in order to not break ratio. If you can help it do not put your kids in daycare. I've worked with people I wouldn't even trust to watch my dog. I quit that job after i got pregnant. It was stressful and an underappreciated job. I am now a stay at home mom because I refuse to put my baby in a daycare.

Former childcare worker…yes 1000% true. If I worked in the baby area the ratio was 5 to one. All I had time to do was feed/change/put down for a nap. If one kid was crying I had to ignore because I had to keep that schedule for the rest of the babies. Kids were basically in cribs or playpens or swings all day long. There was absolute no individual attention, kids didn’t even get held if they weren’t being given a bottle. We had to put on a “show” during drop off and pickup, how much we “loved” your baby . news flash…we really didn’t love your kid, they were just a paycheck, we were just too overwhelmed and exhausted to love your kid…and this was the best rated daycare in the area that parents raved about as well

I recently read that Denmark has been doing this...they call it Mommunes. A large house with numerous single mothers. Each mother is responsible for the meals on an assigned day. The kiddos all play in a community room in sight... Just sounds so amazing.

I see two parent professionals working to have a mini mansion and fancy vacations. The kids are in daycare. My heart goes out to those who do not have good options but soooo many today do. When I grew up we all had more siblings and much smaller houses and we were not traumatized wow we even had to share bedrooms with siblings imagine the horrors lol. Not at all making light of such a serious and important discussion. Love your content!

I totally agree 100% I use to work on them. Would not let my own kids go. Not worth it for any amount of money.

I'm a stay at home mom, but I have five young children -- it's never "calm and quiet." Circumstances are never perfect, we all have to do the best we can for our kiddos. 🙂

I worked in a couple of daycares over the course of several months after college. I would NEVER put my children in one. Ever. My sister worked in that setting for a VERY long time, and she had some horror stories. It isn't just the daycare setting or staff issues, it's also the entitled parents! You want your child to have top-notch care and more attention given to them? Don't put them in daycare. You say you have to work and must put them in daycare? I understand. But don't expect mountains to be moved on behalf of your little one. It's the sad truth about how the system works.

I wish more people understood this. Here in Spain many babies start daycare at 4 months and most are doing full workday hours by 2. I feel like I’m swimming against a very strong current for being a stay at home mom and having my two year old with me. I have even gotten pressure and attitude from nurse in pediatricians office for not having my then 1 year old at daycare. Later Preschool and beyond seem like a nightmare for children too…almost like the government wants you to hand over your kids ASAP. We have the longest school hours in the region. I wish we could homeschool but the law is unclear about the legality of it, don’t know anyone doing it 😩

I suffered greatly as a child in daycare. Thank you for the video! 💖 this message should spread!

I worked at a very low end daycare. They literally had to send certain employees home if they were encroaching full time hours, because they couldn’t afford to pay for benefits for any employee. I worked in a classroom of 12 kids with one other teacher. Technically, 6 kids were her’s and 6 kids were mine. It was SOOO stressful. Turnover at daycares tend to be high as well. I was also sick almost the entire time I worked there, about half a year. It was a cough that I could not shake until sometime after I quit. It also makes it that much more stressful when you have kids that have special needs like autism or foster care kids. I one of each of those. It was so much harder to control their behavior. They liked to bite, kick, hit, and spit among other things.

Tell you one thing, the whole system needs a complete transformation in order not to send children to daycare. Work schedules, working remotely and everything related to work needs to be sorted out in order to allow for real work-life balance. Kids whose emotional, mental and physical needs have been taken care of will be balanced and confident adults. ❤

I can attest to the aggression in children in daycare. It is a dog eat dog environment by the time they are 4-5 years old. They get sick of sharing toys, games and space ALL day long. No downtime , no privacy,take its toll.

Home daycare is where it's at! So blessed to have my daycare provider 🤎

It’s horrible but some of us simply don’t have a choice (widowed mom of 2 here).