INFJ, the most DANGEROUS Personality Type (MBTI)

Dont mistake our kindness for weakneas. ✔️

it's not the loud individuals you need to watch it's the quiets ones.

I got hired on with a new company, and management was pretty dishonest with me during the hiring process. When I called them out on it (privately first), they seemed to think I'd back down if they threatened me. I didn't. In the end, I took them to court, diposed every single one of them, and won at my state's Supreme Court (creating a new law). I think that surprised them. It definately wasn't a fun time on their side.

I had an INFJ rage one time, and I scared myself. Didn’t know I could be that angry and let lose on a bad person. I’m 74 now. Longtime INFJ 😊

The first time someone told me I was intimidating, I was taken aback. I'm kind, helpful, considerate and fair. I also see through bullshit, don't back down and carry through with my intentions. I have a very "Don't Tread On Me" approach to life. The "herd" mentality is not for me, and that is my superpower.

INFJ dismantle opponents: Last year I rented a cottage with a year-long lease. I was never late with rent & I also alerted the landlords to leaking in the laundry room & other issues, most of which they never addressed. After I moved out the landlords refused to give me the deposit back, had the call to ask me to pay an additional $1k “to return unit to like condition”. I proceeded to file a claim for return of my deposit. It took 6 months but I never wavered, I complied so much evidence against the landlords that even the judge commented on my “preponderance of evidence” that I submitted to court, and judge ruled in my favor. That was the best feeling. Those landlords were just digging in the kitty litter, trying to charge me for all kinds of frivolous and dumbfounded wear-and-tear.

When I was younger, I was known in my family as being a 'hot head' for my temper and snapping point. Now looking back and knowing what I know about MBTI, I can see why I had so much trouble. I was surrounded by my least compatible personality types. As an INFJ I spent my entire childhood completely confused by the people around me and how they all seemed so out of touch with what I viewed as so important. It was also very lonely for me because none of them ever ventured past the surface in conversation.... their eyes would glaze over if I delved deeper. I've been in such a good place mentally as an adult, thanks to MBTI and learning about who I am and how the people close to me interact with the world. Such a valuable tool for self-growth.

About ghosting others especially. I do not need a visible excuse to vanish from someone's life entirely. I will play normal one day and just fully disappear the next. That's because I have concluded my research on someone's personality and motives. If someone is shady, they THINK they have me, but I have seen through them like an agent and let them go. In conclusion : I am nice but I have my eye on everyone. Everything is a test and if someone is a bad character... I never existed.

INFJ and spiritual awaking is dangerous 😳

67 year old INFJ-T, 1w2. You are extremely accurate with your explanations. I have seen a lot in my life time and have experienced all of these things. I have helped many and let others fend for themselves. I don't have to get revenge on another because I already know where their life is going. I just sit back and watch them implode.

It's our "Hannibal mode" 😁 The first time this happened to me, it was really scary to see how I managed to be so cold-blooded in a moment of extreme stress, when I had to confront an abusive narcissistic relative who had been giving me hell for years and how my words were meticulously chosen to hit the most painful and weakest points of him and after that, he started to be more terrified of me than of death itself and I even presented him with our legendary INFJ door slam and life has been very peaceful since then.

This is so exactly true! People think I am a sweet little person they can run over (one girl even called me "Bo Peep" as a nickname.). But I have surprised them, and even myself, when I finally am driven to do the door slam. And I didn't even feel bad about it, they were just OUT.

I never thought I am dangerous but in retrospect I guess I can be. I don't like it though. I'd much rather have a peaceful atmosphere, it is so much more productive.

If you are truly an infj, just care less and have less of expectations. You will be happier.

Older INFJ here. I find that I am still vulnerable to hurt by others when I have decided to trust them. I long for inclusion in a group, and when someone in the group publicly disrespects me or otherwise sabotages me, I feel hurt. I try to forgive, but I always end up leaving the group. I suspect that the disrespect was not intentional, but adults in groups need to be careful when they treat other members unfairly. Another hurt is when no one (or only one person) stands up for me. Or when the insulting person doesn't actually apologize, but acts like their behavior was acceptable. ALSO, here's a question. I'm sorry if the answer is obvious to everyone but me. I tend to need explicit facts to understand. Q: How are INFJs created? (I don't think we're born this complicated.) My suspicion is that we're exceptionally bright people who were emotionally abused or neglected as children, told our ideas and feelings don't matter, and gaslighted (the text software doesn't like the word "gaslit") when we got upset. We learn to know that we're most likely correct, despite others discrediting and sabotaging us. That leads us to pattern awareness; love of data; feeling unsure of our ability to be truly seen and loved; self-protective defenses on alert; heightened awareness and hate of injustice; and ongoing desire to be included in groups. What do you all think? Does this ring true for you?

Now that I think about, I have done all of these, in response to abusive treatment.

I call it..."reading their pedigree"....and I have restrained myself many times.

LOL! So true, all of it! Ex husband no 2 said to me "do you know how hard it is to live with someone who is always right"?...big egos can't handle our attempts to make the lives of others easier ... oh well...life is what it is!

When I quit my last job, having known the people for many years prior to working for them, I saw right through the lies, manipulation, gaslighting etc & called it out continuously. HR & the exec team started ghosting me due to my honesty. I quit directly to the CEO, who thought I was kidding & refused to pass on my resignation to HR. I told them all how it was. In my resignation I did 6. CEO tried to Hoover me a month later and I did 1. Best decision of my life to door slam that guy! He’s the most malignant narcissist I’ve ever met.

I distill this down to being intimidating to liars. Whether someone is lying to themselves, others or me directly.