Talking with an Incel about Starting a Relationship
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Published 2020-03-07
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Incel stands for 'involuntary celibate' or 'involuntary celibacy.' Incels are normally filled with hate, but our guest today is fairly wholesome and has a past of bad dating experiences. He is self-proclaimed incel in a sense where he still cannot find a meaningful relationship with a woman.
In this video, Dr. K talks with an incel about dating, being an incel, and the incel mentality.
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All Comments (21)
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Let's all take a moment to appreciate the big ol cojones on our man Paul for opening up like this in a public place. Absolute Legend.
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His story about a therapist turning him away is one of the most devastating things I’ve ever heard 🤦🏻♀️
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The fact that the thought of a woman smiling at him is what brought him to tears about ripped my heart out.
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His resistance is really soul crushing. He does seem comforted by his situation and I can see why. He avoids the possibility of rejection and that keeps him safe in many ways.
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Dr. K DESTROYS mans hopelessness with facts and logic
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This video compressed into two sentences: "I'm never gonna get a girlfriend" "Not with that attitude"
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"Im not gonna label you an incel". Title says "Talking with an incel" LMAO
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Haha I love the look Dr.K gave chat at 48:03 when his tactic of drinking water to get the guy talking worked!
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Mad respect for this guy for coming and talking with Dr K. Im sure this conservation helped many people.
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For the comments saying "there nothing special about Dr K's message, it's just common sense", fun fact: the therapist's job isn't to say groundbreaking stuff that's never ever been said before in the course of human history, but to illuminate the individual to the finger quotes "common sense" that he or she has been missing/denying/burying the whole time. And if you think common sense has no value because it's 'common', then you dont realize how the all the problems that shape us, cage us, and seem too big to fix in our lives all actually stem from the simplest of truths and failings in the human condition, that are universal in all of us. Focusing on the 'end message' of a therapy/talk and ignoring the process that led to its realization is like going straight to the answer page at the back of a maths textbook instead of attempting the question, and scoffing "this is ridiculous, i could've solved it on my own". No, you, couldn't; lots of times people like you and me can't, that's why therapy's a thing. Otherwise, posters with motivational quotes alone would've saved all the lives and relationships on the planet, wouldn't they? Respect the process, the pple who walk it, and the pple who facilitate it.
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Oh my word, whenever that realisation hit and he started laughing and crying I absolutely saw the change and I was crying along with him. It was hard to see when he couldn't see how beautiful that moment was
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I know this was posted 3 years ago and that there are almost 0 chances of Paul reading this but I wanted to thank him for doing this. I relate to him and I've learnt a lot about myself. BIG THANKS! 💖
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This guy is a legend for opening up to such a big crowd and allowing people to learn from it.
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Paul is seriously brave coming on here and making himself vulnerable after so many shitty experiences.
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The resistance he has to everything is immense. It's really unfortunate but also personally eye opening. But thank you Paul for sharing and being vulnerable in front of everyone.
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The moment he laughed at the hopelessness was so sweet:') I immediately cried cuz I felt so proud of him to acknowledge how stupid it is and that it's possible to make it silly
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"Do we have enough time to do what?" "Well t-to fix me" this hits hard. He thinks there's something's fundamentally wrong with him
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My god. He's in an abusive relationship with himself! He's so attached to hating himself. Poor guy.
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Dr. K., watching you is like watching a once in a lifetime master performing his craft. It's utterly fucking incredible. And no this isn't hyperbole. I've seen countless therapists over the decades, I've had conversations with plenty of friends and family, none of our experiences have been NOTHING like the folks you interview. You make insane breakthroughs in around an hour or so. Some therapists might take months, years, or never get that achieved for their patients. I can't wait to see you help more people. Watching has become my new favorite pass time, and it's even helping me too. Thank you Dr. K., keep it up!
