Borderline Personality Disorder Mnemonics (Memorable Psychiatry Lecture)

A year ago I decided to study psychology in college because I always wanted to help people in situations similar as mine. One day we were learning about personality disorders and I remember being so shocked at how my teacher told us how if we ever encountered a patient with BPD we should RUN because they can’t be helped and they will try to ruin our lives and of those around them. As a BPD patient myself, this felt awful and it really stuck to me

I have had BPD since I was very young and most of the more volatile symptoms have stopped affecting my life since I did DBT therapy but I still struggle with Anger, Dysphoria and emotional instability issues. BPD is one of the most stigmatized illnesses to ever exist and there is SO much damaging mis information out there. These traits are the first things a borderline ever truly learns about themselves as soon as they are diagnosed, since they had such a lack of identity to begin with. Then, the stigma of the illness prevents people from sharing this one thing about themselves to the closest people in their life which is really sad. I remember sharing this part of my life with a close friend I thought I could trust, instead they said Oh you're just one of THOSE girls and never spoke to me again. This is the most validating piece of media I have ever seen used to describe my illness and I cannot thank you enough seriously, for making this video.

bpd feels like I’m being emotionally waterboarded (I know what it physically feels like unfortunately and I stand by my comparison)..not quite drowning but definitely not surviving. And all the last minute, panicky, “running out of time” emotions that come with that. It’s just brutal. I’m so tired.

I have been diagnosed with BPD a few days ago. I've spent 25 years of my life not knowing what is wrong with me. This video explains everything so well, and i feel understood.

Hi, I am a psychitris resident. This video is incredible. It explain the difference between dysphoria mood and depressive mood very simply. It is a very every day clinical accurate difference that change my way of seeing patients. Thanks you, you doing better than many of professeur I met

I have had BPD diagnose in Australia ,I was been told straight away THIS IS UNTREATABLE . Also I am Taiwanese , unfortunately not many people understand about BPD including the medical staffs ... Still feel very very lonely to battle this on my own .. Thank you for sharing this information

I have BPD. Thank you for this video. DBT and psychoanalysis works best for me. It's a daily struggle. 24/7

Thank you for finally breaking down BPD in to this relatable and hopeful context. I've been diagnosed for 15 years and anything I've ever read or seen has been dehumanising & makes it seem BPD is a need to manipulate so I've tried to distance myself from the diagnosis as it wasn't what I felt was my true experience. I have made changes over the time, like learning meditation and mindfulness but I still trip up when I'm in moments of mind chaos. I've only experienced joy twice in my life, once when I realised I wasn't just an internal dialogue and then when my daughter was born. But no matter what emotions I experience I always come back to a stagnant feeling of emptiness and despair, even when all around me is calm and safe. I, thankfully have an understanding partner now, who doesn't gaslight me in to extreme behaviours. But even with this support, my mind still resorts back to suicidal and self harm idealisation & I find myself fighting the urge to act out on them, it is only with the desire of not wanting to inflict the pain of doing so on to my partner and children that stops me from acting. Thank you so much for this video.

My daughter has BPD. I have came to my OWN definition of this disorder. I feel that it comes from being abandoned or the idea of being abandoned during the age that personality develops. (Betwee. 2-5) For my daughter my parents took her from me and I had to fight for over 6 months to get her back. I was taking a nap when she was and my dad who was a police officer decided to come in and take her and I was reported to child services. But they seen it as a police officer calling in not her over bearing controlling grandparents. Any ways during that time my mother would tell her any time I stopped that I was mean mean mommy and I was going to take her from her toys and her gma. So she would have felt abandoned by me at this time. Then when I got her back she would have experienced that all over again feeling abandoned by my parents. This sets into their personality this constant fear and need to protect themselves from any perceived danger real or otherwise. Whether it's manipulation and lies or stunts for attention to disasociating those actions are all used as a form of self protection. Usually to prevent someone from leaving them. This is my definition of this disorder. I am a nurse and have some mental health background but I am no where near a professional in this area. However my daughter is now 24 and I have spent the better part of her life researching and Journaling her behaviors and trying to understand things from her point of view, as well as connecting the outbursts with a causal link. She has been on mood stabilizers and in DBT therapy now since she was 18. She still has moments every once in awhile but over all she can catch herself and keep herself grounded. I hope my daughter's story can help someone else that is suffering from this be it family or personal experience. This is a VERY hard disorder to have. I wish you all the luck

it's so hard to live with this disorder because you can't escape the thoughts and emotions that control you. and if you engage in risky behaviors to escape them, it just spirals you into a worse and worse mental state that fuels emotional outbursts and episodes. trying to get on treatment is so hard, and it feels as if you are rejected and left to struggle and cope yourself. I was on a mood stabilizer for MDD, and medications usually do not help with certain aspects of BPD. i want to better myself, and i'm taking action to get on treatment, but the cycle is so vicious...

This is by far the most intricately detailed, yet most easy to understand video I’ve seen about this personality disorder. I am a male with BPD and I experience each of these traits to varying degrees. Living with this disorder is like living inside my own personal mental and emotional hell.

My whole life was some sort of "diagnosis" . It started with ADHD at 5 and then bi polar/bdp in my teens. Honestly my home life was dysfunctional and they constantly were putting me on meds that I think made things much worse. I'm 42 now and I haven't been on meds in years and I am learning to try and stay calm when I feel myself getting upset. Also who I surround myself with makes a huge difference in my mood. And medical marijuana has been very beneficial.

I was diagnosed with BPD in 2018, after several hospitalizations and suicide attempts. This video is 100% on point! Thank you! There is a video I can show people now.

I'm married to a Bpd woman. I lost interest a while ago about fully understanding this disorder from a science perspective like reading literature about it or online or even watch big shots like Peterson talk about it cause they all lack something and to be honest didn't intrigue me cause let's b honest they are very complex human beings ( BPD), no offense at all here i love my wife, and the interpretation of the reasons behind their symptoms didn't click with what im actually experiencing. Your perceptional interpretation is really exceptionally close to the truth specifically the dysphoria and what's the nature and reasons behind it. The nature of tremendous impulsivity and it's reasons and the mechanism behind it. Impressive I usually do not like to subscribe a lot on YT but in your case that wouldn't be fair. Thank you!!

I want to say this to anyone with BPD out there: You're loved. Sadly there is stigma but even so there are people out there who care for people with BPD. I'm fairly new to psychiatric disorders and have no personal connection to this disorder but I read so many comments saying disorders of this cluster are unchangable and I thought to myself - this can't be true. It just didn't sit right with me. Noone could explain it to me in a convincing way either. The way I see it it is possible to change your sense of identity. To learn and internalize new mindsets. To learn and become better and better at strategies for emotional regulation and distressing. There are so many improvements one can work on, I don't see BPD as doomed at all. I just feel sad about the issue with dysphoria, I don't know anything about it and how one could go about improving it. I bet it I felt dysphoria all the time I'd develop anger issues too. It must be so stressfull. I was always a more emotionally stable person I would say, yet the stress and overwhelm I've been experiencing I believe has caused me to become more irratable and more easily angered, and the irritation and anger lasting longer than usual. I can't imagine feeling dysphoria every day for most of the day, or feeling dysphoria all the time. It must be so exhausting, taxing and stressfull. No wonder there are emotional regulation issues and anger issues. I'm sorry so many people stigmitize this. But I hope it makes it a little bit better to hear that not everyone does. Some of us genuinely want to understand you, help you and love you. You're a very valuable human being. Your worth is just as much as everyone else's. And you're also unique. There is noone like you. With and without BPD you're very much worth the fight. I thank you for fighting for yourself and I hope you connect with other people who will fight with you and help you.

I was nervous watching this- because so often the picture painted isn’t entirely accurate & we’re demonized and invalidated- with stereotypical comments & inaccuracies… but this was accurate- clear- & straightforward. Comprehensive & easy to understand.. I will def be sharing this!

You know, I just recently learned of my diagnosis by accident at a crisis center I was in this past weekend. I only want to say that I’ve been in over 30 hospitals, inpatient and outpatient places, and if I had been told this was what happened in my brain I would have found solace in my madness.

I am a 27 year old male who has been diagnosed with BPD twice in psychiatric hospitals. I didn’t receive my diagnosis until I was barely 26. It explained a lot, but also didn’t help. I always thought I was depressed and had good days and bad, not realizing I was having drastic changes in mood and temper multiple times in a week. It was fine for a while, when I became Catholic, and was asked to run our Latin Mass program, because I was the only one around who could read Latin fluently. But as time when on, the obsession I had with perfection, the fact that my entire personality and interests were consumed by the liturgy, freaked the priests out, and I was asked to step aside. Well, the rest is history. Now my sole preoccupation is drinking, and dwelling on my paranoid thoughts that everyone is individually planning on disowning me at any moment, that I will be fired for any reason, or because of lies told about me. And my reaction to each of these is just, whatever, I’m not worth the trouble to be around or help anyway. The only way I learned to cope on my own as a kid and young man was to shut my mouth and bottle it inside. I learned that lashing out was harmful to the ones I was desperately attached to. However, with alcohol, my ability to suppress and compress my anger is basically gone. I am very sensitive to the slight intonations of people’s responses to my questions or opinions, and will often fly into a rage when I find their responses “ludicrous” (my favorite word), breaking things, hitting myself in the head, etc.

Thank you very much. Getting all your books is the best thing that has ever happened and I encourage you all to get all 3 books. Thank you very much

I have come to know that I have BPD, and this is by far the best video that explains it all . Thankyou