EXPOSING THE TRUTH ABOUT DAYCARE: sharing my experience working in the child care industry

Thank you for sharing! I'm based in Malaysia and so happened to come across your video.. I was in the workforce before quiting my legal career to become a stay at home mom to my now 2 year old.. I made the decision based on my guilt of having to leave my son behind with strangers😅 ..and i got a lot of backlash for it.. my family still thinks that I made a very unwise decision to quit my career and stay home with my son..I'm pregnant with my second son and I will definitely not be rejoining the workforce anytime soon.. but its still hard everyday dealing with societal expectations on whats expeced of a modern mother.. my own mother says there's nothing wrong with dropping my child off at a daycare because "children are resilient and will adapt" ..and my father says "if only i went back to work, my son wouldnt be so clingy to me".. its hard hearing so many comments like this overtime... but thank you for sharing your experience as a daycare worker..it really solidified my decision to stay home and be an attentive mom to my children

My sister worked in a daycare for a few years in college. She was so scarred that she vowed she would never send ANY of her kids to daycare. She graduated college before she got married, but my BIL wasn't even halfway through. He took a hiatus from school to work full time. They scrimped and saved. They had 4 kids in a 2 bedroom townhouse for a while. He quit work to go back to school full time. He got his phd. They had 6 kids during all of that and now they have 7 one of those kids has special needs and lots of surgeries. And yet through all of that she still never sent any of them to daycare and she's homeschooling them. Not to mention their huge social/activity calendar and extra curriculars.

Amazingly said. I think maybe a lot of parents know this, maybe….but just don’t have a choice sadly…. On the other hand, people who keep saying nursery is best, they need to hear this. My family still feel there’s something wrong with my decision for not sending my toddler to nursery. I signed him up three different settings and in the end I took him out. I could tell emotionally he was different after he went to nursery for a couple months. He never ever hid away from me when he was upset, until he started nursery…..I was so upset…he chose to walk into a dark room and cried instead of coming to me. Straight away I took him out and like yours, this nursery was an outstanding nursery but there’s just too many children…. I then quit my job and am now a SAHM. I am very very grateful that we’ve been able to choose this choice. Really thank you for this video. At times when others question me, these types of videos really helps 🙏🏻

This is heartbreaking. I have a 7 month old and I can’t imagine leaving him in a daycare. I feel bad for people who have no choice, but for those who do have a choice to work or not, and choose work over their baby…just don’t have a baby if they will not be a priority.

I had my first baby in Idaho and was thinking about childcare options (I worked nights at the time). I toured a daycare that told me that legally in Idaho at the time you could have 1 daycare worker for 5 babies. Terrifying.

Thank you for this MUCH needed info & advice from the inside of a relatively good daycare centre (from what you've explained). Some moms NEED to work but many moms don't but aren't willing to sacrifice certain luxuries of life

I didn’t think about it till now but I used to have a placement in a nursery and I was on the floor interacting and playing with all the toddlers while all the actual workers would be together at the table .. they didn’t play and interact they just watched them and made the food and actually they were quite mean/strict if they didn’t sit and eat the properly

Her observation of daycare is very accurate I can almost picture perfectly the type of daycares she has worked at . I’ve been in early childhood off on since 1995 and one big issue with daycare is the pay which creates the high turnover rate when I was 18 - 23 with no kids in daycare I made pretty good money but the moment you become a mother especially of multiple kids and if your ‘re not married, daycare is not the the career field to stay in, if you choose to stay in the field with your own young kids your best option is open up a home daycare.

I have worked in about 4 to 5 different daycares throughout the country and I have worked in some of the "nicer , more luxurious and better ones" . What I gained from my experience was the fact that I would never put my child in one. Way to high ratios, stressed out teachers that are miserable and yell at kids, childrens needs not being met due to the high ratios, high violence in such young children, greedy owners, poor food choices, I could go on and on.

Just started working in a daycare full time so I enjoyed listening to this! I make sure I am always interacting with the kids, and this encouraged me of the difference that can make.

It’s not easy but I love working with children n I do interact with them I hope yo have my own someday

Also regarding the training no disrespect to each state’s training requirements but they’re a bit unprofessional, the minimum requirements are too easy to get plus you can begin working with kids just a background check and little to no previous experience and while some daycares are trying to distinguish themselves by requiring college degrees they are not willing to pay that college degreed individual a salary that is sustainable and worthy of their college degree which would be a starting salary of $50,000

thx for giving me idea whats its like, im thinking about working working at a daycare for the first time

Thanks so much for sharing, you seem like a wonderful person and exactly the type I'd want working in a daycare haha. I think our laws are a little different here in Australia in terms of child to staff ratios, qualifications needed etc, and also we get better parental leave (minimum from the government is currently 20 weeks paid to be shared between parents, increasing to 26 weeks over the next 2 years, many employers pay for more than that) so luckily there's less pressure to return to work immediately. Still, like, it seems like it can be a fantastic environment but also a very challenging one - if you struggle getting 1 child into a sleep/wake routine (massive respect for parents of multiples!), how do you get 5 or 6 kids asleep at the same time? 😅

I know I am oldfashionef yet why do people have children if they can't be with them at least the first few years of their lives? I never understood this. Can someone enlighten me? 😊 Enjoy Susan Venker

One time when I was in daycare when I was little I refused to eat watermelon for idk snack time or sum cuz I absolutely hated it I would gag so much at the smell the boss lady came and shoved it down my throat making me eat it and growing up I would tell my mom this story and she’d never be fazed by it but this is the exact reason as to why I’d never put my baby in daycare

Thank you for the info. This is very helpful.

I heard about high turnover and I’m lucky the one I take my children to have women who have been there 9,12,20 years!! They’re so sweet. I know not all are as nice as the one I scored. I know they’re safe because few years later I got a job there too and we take development and safety seriously. We also put our phones in a bin at the entrance of the classroom 😊

Thanks for sharing! The Bible has a lot to say about train up a child, raising children, teaching them the right things, etc. I am a piano teacher and can say from experience that if you let a child loose to their own selves, you end up with some wild behavior. That’s why God gave children parents to raise them until they are grown and have good judgment to make their own decisions as adults. That being said, whatever adult is watching the kid, it takes a lot of love, care, and attention to raise them right and help them turn out to be good members of society, and hopefully get saved and live for the Lord.

To be fair, a lot of the parents who send their kids to one of those larger daycares have to do so because they don’t have other options, cost wise. So telling moms to listen to their guilt doesn’t really help in those cases…just makes them feel worse.