One of the Biggest Lies Codependents Fall For

I found out my partner had meth addiction. I dumped him and life got a lot better. I think anyone who stays with addict is lying to themselves. You need to leave them until they realize what they've done.

When he says "You drive me to drink". he is lying He would drink with or without you.

My husband and I have been dealing with his alcholism for the last 3 years. This has exhausted me both emotionally and financially. Thank you for posting this. ❤

I'm an alcoholic I praise you for your courage. You deserve all the best.

Oh my goodness this was so eye opening for me I literally started crying! I didnt realize how long i was stuffing my feelings down trying to be the strong one in my marriage. The constant urge to "help" him heal& deal with his alcoholism has left me drained& always feeling like a counselor instead of a spouse. Even giving advice when it wasnt asked because it became a habit for me because I see his "potential"&he is a good man& could be better if only he would let go of the bottle. Wow. Thanx for sharing this &helping me to see that it is co-dependency.

Very sad. He will not get help and has said he chooses alcohol over me. I’m back and forth over what to do. Tired is an understatement.

Love over addiction it took me two yrs and 11 month of my cutdown to finally say I’m done drinking alone cause it’s ultimately bores me now to go out and drink alone while having dinner with roommate . I haven’t purchased alcohol for 3 wks and set my goal not to drink at parents while dog sitting alone , I didn’t . Drinking alone was why I started the cut back cause I knew it wasnt healthy and I wasn’t liking it anymore . I actually saved a lot of money on groceries in three wk not purchasing alcohol and saved a whole bunch of money after my birthday present trip to Chicago not going to my local bp after running out

I hate calling it a disease

I’m glad I found this video , I’m so exhausted . And I’m realizing more and more that I can’t do anything help Him anymore . I just have to take care of myself for once I hope to one day you help other spouses of addicts , and help them on their journey of loving themselves, and taking care of themselves . There’s not much that we can do except pray.Thank you for this!

17 years, I hate nights!!! Drinking is killing him!! And this family😔😔😔

No going back my ex was an alcoholic narc that would disappear for days drinking with the homeless people I would just let it go an take him back everytime after going to jail over and over. When you wake up in the end you have to get out, especially if it's verbal or physical abuse. You are always to blame for their cycle of abuse. The best way in my opinion is to get out and get your life back. I did what I could for almost 20 years. Freedom has been sweet. Thank you again.😁

So happy to find you on the net today. I can tell. You are the person who is going to help me a lot. I can hear it in your voice, sense it coming from your soul. Thank you.

Good work. Balanced advice. We shift all resources to the diseased one and forget about the hurting, caring one. Thanks for this.👍

As a hard-core recovering alcoholic myself, it wasn't until my wife learned some of the principles espoused did our marriage and my addiction get better.

Love this! I can’t wait to start your program❤️

I am so happy I discovered your videos. I've been suffering from my fiance's alcoholism for few years now. I think it's difficult to understand when you're being blamed for something. It's a really tricky form of manipulation and I'm wondering if you can give several examples of how someone puts the responsibility of their alcoholism on someone else. For example when I talk to my fiance about how his behavior really hurt me, he responds with, "you have to tell me when I'm being like that so I'll stop" or "wow, of all the stuff I do for you and you just don't appreciate me" or "you're really screwing me over if you leave me" or "you knew about my drinking when we bought this house, who's going to help me pay the bills and take care of the kids", etc... Is this manipulation?

hi greetings from Morocco. this video gave me tears to my eyes. thank you so much.

Thankyou so much for sharing! I needed this!

This was exactly what I needed to hear today! I cant even tell you. It's like God heard me today and led me to this video. Divine intervention. ♡

I was a child of 2 alcoholic parents, both have passed from alcohol related diseases. I have been married 42 years, my husband is 62 years old and an alcoholic who is now at the point of having blackouts. This video spoke to my heart in so many ways! After his last blackout the other night, it finally scared him enough to say, he is done drinking and gambling. I pray SO HARD that he can do this.